Hi Hazel, Not using a condom is a big step in the relationship and we completely understand why you are not sure about the idea. You are the boss of your body so you get final say over what happens to it. So make a decision about how you would like to proceed and protect yourself.
It is very important that you talk to your partner about your feelings as it impacts your health. Here are tips from other Springsters on how to have a difficult discussion with your partner.
Prepare, prepare, prepare: Rehearse what you will say to him beforehand. That way, you know everything you need to say and you can say it in a sensitive way.
Speak to them in a place where you will be comfortable. If the conversation doesnt go the way you want to, stay calm. The talk doesn’t have to all happen in one day, perhaps speak again once everyone has time to think about it.
Remember: Springster advises you to use a condom to prevent STIs. However, if you decide not to use a condom, be sure to get tested regularly for STIs including HIV to make sure that you protect yourself. Don’t forget to find another contraceptive to prevent any unplanned pregnancy.
To get more tips on how to speak to your partner visit the Springster page on Facebook.com/heyspringsterZA