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Love makes the world go round. Don’t believe me? Just tune into MetroFM on Sunday. They play love songs the whole day without repeating a song!

Falling in love is great. But what happens when the relationship ends?

Bae and I were together for seven months. He was my first love and my first boyfriend. We hung out a lot and did everything together.

Being together was all that mattered to us...until we broke up. Then I was alone, and because I neglected my friends when I was with bae, it seemed like I had no one to turn to.

That was lesson one was about being a good friend. I didn’t take a lot of care of my relationship with my girls. This is not how things should be. Our friends love us. Their motivation and support makes us stronger and help us to be happy with who we are. Being love is great and spending with bae is a must. But we need to take care of our other relationships as well.

Lesson two came to me by accident. Now that I was no longer with bae, I had a lot of free time, which made me think about him all the time. I read an article on Springster that said being a volunteer helps you to feel better about yourself. So now I’m volunteering at an old age home in my neighbourhood. It’s giving me work experience, plus I get to make new friends and discover new things together!

My final lesson was friendship. I apologised to my friends for ignoring them. They understood, and told me that we all make mistakes. Now I have my crew in my corner again. They help me feel better when I’m sad. When I want to him, I call my bestie instead and tell her how I feel. It’s helping me to move on and feel good about myself again. I’ve realised I’m better off without him now I have my friends around me!

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DojaaaCat

👧Me when i have a👶🤱at an early age.. my👩👨will be👿towards me and the boy will🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️and go find another👧who does not have a🤱👶so leave "umjolo" alone black people😐😐unlike me i don't do the dating

Oct. 4, 2022, 10:14 p.m.

Peity

Me👸 in a relationship👩‍❤️‍👨 when u start talking about sex,🙅 it's over 💔🤞l don't want this 🤰🧑‍🍼🤱

July 16, 2022, 1:17 p.m.

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Mavis

Amen to that 😥🤰🤱

Ntsane

What happened

Peity

Whatsapp🤳❤️tenz🙏🥺

July 16, 2022, 12:52 p.m.

Wow yes girl there's power in loving your own self!!!!! I love this story!!.. you are wonderful.. you are superwomen

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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YES!!!! Love is blind bt when life gives you a 100 reason to cry , Show that you have 1000 reason to smile

Ntsane

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i think my age allows me to date. Im no more a teenager anymore yet im still young but taking relationships at a very early stage is better rather then finding love late and still get hurt.. exprerience things early for the better future.

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Yes girl its best to explore and have experience bout love so that you knw when you married what to do

I am not ready to date not on my young age

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Yah neh that's true but even is your friend

I'm not ready to date but my age allows me to

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Me too am not ready but i just need a girl who will make me happy,whatever situation it is..she will always be with me And i think that girl is you!!

No I'm not ready to date cause still focusing on my studies

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

I'm ready to date..I'm looking for a serious girl..Am single..if u are interested Reply Yes

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Please remember that this is not a dating site but a online magazine where you can gain helpful information about life. Feel free to read the articles and gain some insight.

@relebohile2010_

Yes

I am not yet ready to date looking at my background i just want to reach my goals before i move to the next step that may be so hard on me

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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yah that's a good decision big up girla# Springster for life

Hi Springster. That's not a bad decision to focus on yourself first. When you 're ready to date or when you meet the right person you'll know. Do you boo!

Being in love too much can turn you into a person you never wished be or wanted to be

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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True that baeb

I Gat This Bae And Yooh She's So Cute,Her Eyes, The Way She Smiles OMG She Kills Me...We're Started Months Ago Dating So Every Time We Suppose To Meet She Agrees And Set Up A Time But When That Time Actually Arrives She Always Come Up With Excuses "Sorry Babe Ahh Didn't Know Ma Mum Was Gonna Come Back Early So I Should Cook For Her"...Does She Really Into Me Or She's Just Fooling Me?

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

One thing that I've learned about being fully committed in your relationship can cause u a lot of heartbreak in both females and males most especially Teens

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi MandyMahlophe. Thanks for your comment. I don't think that commitment hurts, I think being in a relationship with someone who doesn't communicate what they want can hurt because you aren't on the same page and people can be selfish. Being in a relationship can be difficult especially in your teens because you're learning how to be in a relationship with someone else. A lot is expected from the other person and people aren't ready for that they just don't say so. Don't give up though, love always wins.

Hy my name is Mike I like your pic

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Thank you Mike.

Hy, am in a relationship whereby we most talk and hardly chill out, I once not told my bae that I've made it in school n this was a big deal to him, the reason y I didn't tell him was that I didn't wanna pressurise him as he took results day after, he recently think that m a bad person n there's many possibility of killing him... I now not feeling the game anymore, wats should I do...?

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Springster, a c.v is all about showing people that you are suited for the job that you are applying for - this means you have the knowledge, personality and experience needed. So update it everytime you apply for different jobs to show this information. For example, if you are applying to be a waitress. It would be good to show that you are friendly and love people. If you are applying for a job as a reception, if you have any admin courses that you did, include that in your c.v. Your past experience is also important if you have any. There are also great c.v templates online that you can use to highlight all of the important information and impress your future employers. All the best in your job search!

Hey girls I'm 17 years old I started dating when i was 13 years old ever since then I've been dating and all the guys that I've ever dated has cheated and lied too me,September 24 I went to westbury with my friend too meet her other friend nisha when we got there,my friend introduced me as her gal friend.there was this other gal named naynay she was lesbian,since the very frist day we started chatting on Facebook then she invited me on WhatsApp..a week after chatting too her I developed feelings for her I and so did she,in October we starting dating for about 2 months and I cheated on her with a guy,he broke my heart I that's where I reliezed the mistake I did was choosing him over her.I texted her everysingle day asking for forgiveness February she texed me one evening asking for my numbers I then replyed and give it too her we starting dating a day after that we were deeply in love and that's were I relized that I'm into woman they understand me more,we go through the same things.last week Sunday after church I went to her flats cause she was angry at me I spoke too her face too face I looked into her eyes and told her I love her and asked her to unblock me so we could talk...she did so and the monday she blocked me again till now on,I need some advice i can't loss her I love her there no one else after her💔

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

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Hey sandra....I'm also a lesbian...well i understand your story and being a lesbian can some times be tricky especially when you were a straight girl...you need to earn her trust...just stay away from guys....learn to be open to her....

Casandra maybe you should be true to yourself about what you want to be and then you can be true to the girl u like and tell her what you have decided👫👭

hii guys so I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for about a year n 4 months now but he is no longer fun to chat with now well he matriculated last year and I am still in high school so we dont see each other everyday like we used to last year but now he is totally boring on social media he replies after hours to my texts even though he is online but when we meet face to face everything is normal and he is fun to be around I am starting to think that he does not have time for me or he has someone else but I juss dont know what to do please help

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Peity

I'm also in that situation, now l don't know, should l move on or not Whatsapp tenz pls🙏🥺

Hy Beautifuls ,I happen to be in this relationship in which m not sure i wana be in,we met a few times before and got hooked up by our friends...HE IS All a gal needs and we ve had sex one too many times but i still cant be aroused or feel any butterflies in my stomach. I thought giving it a few months would do but its doing more harm than good. He is thinking future and children and m thinking "do i really want this!?....He is in too deep and i need to be set free ....wht do i do SPRIGNSTERS,WHT DO I DO?

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

-I always put my happiness last. I always do what make others happy and that leaves me unhappy and low self-esteem. What can I do??

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Hey Watermelon, the first step is always the hardest. Because you know what you are doing wrong, you will have an idea of what you can start doing right. You have start by prioritising yourself and the things you need emotionally, spiritually, physically and so on. Find out about the things that make you happy and give yourself some time to do that. Also, it's good to know about the things that bring you down to and try to avoid those things as much as possible. We hope this helps.

Don't do what others tell you to do,do what you wanna do

I am 12 years old and I have a boy who has a crush on me so I also have a little bit of love in my heart for him should I or should I not be his girlfriend

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Peity

Wait until u turn 15 years or at least 18 years coz u are still young and maybe that boy will want sex

I am 12 years old a boy have a crush on me

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Just kidding I'm 14

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.