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1. Speak Up in Class
Raise your hand, even when you’re not sure about the answer. Speaking up isn’t about having the perfect answer. It gives you the experience of thinking on your feet, debating, and wrestling ideas – all crucial skills that you’ll use in every area of your life.

2. Stop Apologising Before You Speak
Girls often introduce opinions with apologies (“I’m not sure if this is right, but...”). Pay attention to the little ways you might be making yourself smaller when you speak up in class, like playing with your hair, saying you “kind of” think something, asking if what you just said “makes sense,” or speaking so softly that no one can hear you.

3. Challenge Yourself
Playing it safe means you’ll never have the exhilaration of overcoming an obstacle and proving that you’re brave enough to try. Push yourself beyond your comfort zone.

4. Ask for Help
The most successful people don’t make it on their own. Instead, they find advisors along the way: experienced, wiser people who know a lot and help them. Don’t be afraid to ask teachers, coaches, or other adults you admire to talk with you about what you’re passionate about.

5. Speak Up in Friendship
We’ve probably all gossiped at one point or another, but if you always talk about your friends instead of to them, you miss the chance to practice speaking up to the people who matter most. Being able to tell someone how you feel will help you in every area of your life. Being direct is scary, but do it with care and you’ll earn the respect and trust of those around you.

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Woooow

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

....just b wh u want to be not wat thy want u 2 b

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It really helped me

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:)

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It is very well

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hy girls I'm susan

I am confident with mi self and at school I am doing public relations but am not a good speaker what should I do??

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

I'm.rly struggling. To evn.look.myself. As a prsn .one thing. I cn cy is ..one day things wil.b.oky

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Speaking up in friendships has helped me alot. And it helped me identity fake friends

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Speaking out in a friendship helped me a lot...I almost got into gangsterisim because of fake friends....now I have four friends Lisa,Lilitha,Nelisa and myself we cool....Sometimes we go out to watch movies or to catch up

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Communication as friends help's, we know each others pain and happiness so when we speak out as friends everything is much more easier #SPE🅰K 🆙🙋

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

How Do You Communicate When You Barely Even Have Friends?? 😢😢

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Start up conversations with your school mates or take up extra curricular activities at your school. That way you can meet friends who have similar interests as you. Put yourself out there, good luck. Let me know how it goes.

How do I act after being laughed at , when I raised my hand and gave the wrong answer? 😕

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Never be discouraged for trying. If your classmates laugh because you were wrong then they are very immature. Continue to display curiosity an you will keep learning.

Awe .interesting

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Hi people I have a problem please help me

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Hi. How can we help you?

Tip no.2 and no.5 have been really helpful...thanks alot :)

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

how can u stand up on the stage and talk if ur heart is beating very fast and you are scared of the crowd

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Try these few steps that might help you. Practice ways to calm and relax your mind and body, such as deep breathing, relaxation exercises, yoga, and meditation. Exercise, eat well, and practice other healthful lifestyle habits. Try to limit caffeine, sugar, and alcohol as much as possible.Visualize your success: Always focus on your strength and ability to handle challenging situations. Prepare your material in advance and read it aloud to hear your voice and give up trying to be perfect and know that it is OK to make mistakes. Be natural, be yourself. Good luck.

that's really compromising😊😊

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

What if your friend doesn't want to listen to you

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Hi Springster. We have control over no one. If you give your friend advise and she doesn't take it or doesn't listen to you then you've done your part. Just be a support, they don't have to take your advice.

what if speaking up to our friends we end up hurting they feelings

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

Why must we stop apologising before we speak? I dont understand that point . Please explain

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Girls should stop apologising before they speak because they need to have conviction and confidence in their thoughts and opinions on topics they are passionate about. So instead of saying "I'm sorry but I don't like kwaito music" you'd just say "I don't like kwaito music" full stop.

what if your friends just leave you without explaining does that mean there is something wrong with me and no saying anything to you.

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Here's a story on how best friends should be http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-life/be-the-best-to-your-bestie/ and if the friends who left you behind aren't good to you it's okay to fiind better friends.

Its true that you should speak up to people about how you feel about them and not hide it because you are throwing away your confidence , Speak up don't be scared .

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

So, I'm a really happy, loud and out going person, the only problem I have is that, when I'm called up on stage at school, I panic and feel afraid of going up the stage to get my award. Hw can I over come this fear of walking up the stage in front of my school?

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Hi Springster. Many people feel fearful or nervous about speaking in front of huge crowds. I'd advise you prepare what you want to say, project your voice and speak clearly, be yourself and remember to make eye contact and not to rush. Good luck

I think these 5 tips gave me light

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

Wow these tips are too helpful🙌

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

Guys just a little help here Is it oke to get married Young? Let's say you both are really in love and just wana be together for the rest of your lives...Would this be a problem at a later stage?

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Hi Springster. If you're of legal age to get married and you and your partner can financially support yourselves and be independent then I don't see why you shouldn't be able to get married. You don't have to rush things though, it's okay to date for a while and get to know one another better. Getting married is a big step which shouldn't be taken lightly. Think about it and make the best decision for you both.

My boyfriend and I have 10months together we always fight and he always cheat whenever we fight...he told me that he don't want to meet with me ever again but when I ask him are we done he says no...I really need help

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

My boyfriend and I have 10months together we always fight and he always cheat whenever we fight...he told me that he don't want to meet with me ever again but when I ask him are we done he says no...I really need help

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Hi Springster. Thanks for your comment. Love means respect, loyalty and honesty. Your boyfriend is unable to show you these traits when you fight. I would advise that you not give him the choice of whether your relationship is over or not but decide for yourself if you're still happy and if you want to be in an unhealthy relationship. You're still young and can still find someone who loves and respects you or focus on your goals while you're single. Good luck!

My boyfriend is approaching my ex friend what should I do?

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Thank you for your comment. He sounds very selfish and unconcerned about your feelings. Let him be with your ex friend. You'll find a guy that can treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Focus on your goals and bettering yourself. He'll regret it in no time and by then you'll be over him. Good luck!

Hi.I'm a virgin. So every time I go to my boyfriends house we do foreplay. So is it possible that you get pregnant whilst a virgin. Please help.

I have low self esteem problem it like im living with a monster inside of me and it like im in a deep dark hole that i cant escape what should i do? It been 6 years now and i feel like no one in this earth has felt what i am feeling right now

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Noluthandovuyo117. Thank you for your comment. It must be a very difficult time for you but you're not alone. There are people and places where you can seek help. Have you thought about talking to a parent, teacher or professional for support? Often, being lonely makes you want to withdraw even more, but there could be people trying to reach out to you. Slowly gather supportive friends and loving people around you. Having people in your life that you can talk to will help you cope with your disappointment, loss, loneliness or sadness. And over time, you will start to trust people again.Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, depressed or feel alone. They are here to help you! Contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

hi..my sister is 11 years old and she tells me all about her love life and I support her really but im scared that she will end up having sex..am I wrong?

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not at all girl.you cannot stop her from having a boyfie because of wants to have one she will supporting her is best but talk to her and tell her that there is a lot of fun above the belt.

No u can't stop her frm havin a boyfie but u need to talk to her as a older sister tell her to always meet her boyfie in a public place...n tell her about dangers of havin sex at an early age because it will eventually get there at some point.....gud luck springster.....

I think you should tell her about the consequences of having sex at the young age...

Hi I struggle with self esteem because of the way I look. I have terrible acne and it's been like this for most of my life. I can't be in a crowd of people and I don't like being out in public.

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Hi MisokaSosoh. Thanks for sharing your comment. It must be very difficult for you but there are places you can seek help. Ask your parents if you can visit your GP or a dermatologist to recommend what could help clear your skin. This is curable. For now increase your water intake and eat less sugary and oily foods! You'll be fine. Good luck!

✨Hi I’ve got very sensitive skin so any dirt that comes in contact with my face causes acne .. the cheapest products always work . I’ve been using gentle magic and also my dr put me on contraceptives for 6 months which really cleared up my acne .. at first for the first month the acne gets worse but as the months progress you do see amazing results especially if you use gentle magic alongside the contraceptive pills also water does wonders and always exfoliate your skin so the dirt can be removed ..

Hi I struggle with self esteem because of the way I look. I have terrible acne and it's been like this for most of my life. I can't be in a crowd of people and I don't like being out in public.

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

Hi I have a low self esteem because I have yellow teeth and I do brush my teeth but people say I do not brush my teeth and when any boy ask for my pic I send a pic of my friend , so wat should I do about my yellow teeth

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Hi Nomhle, thank you for your comment. To whiten your teeth, you can try brushing with a mixture of bicarbonate of soda and lemon before brushing with your normal toothpaste. Remember though that true beauty comes from the inside. You can read articles under our confidence tag to help boost your confidence and self-esteem. Good luck Springster!

Hi, a lot of the time I've realized that boys are attracted to girls who have big butts and breasts. It wasn't a problem until I got to highschool and everyone called me thin and really hurt my feelings. I have however learned to love my body because it's still developing. What exercises can I do to give my body a great shape?

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Hi. To give your body a great shape you can do various exercises such as squats: which will give your butt a great shape.Lundges: which tighten up your thigh muscles. Sit-ups for a flat great looking stomach. Leg raises for your stomach and hip lining too.

Hi. To give your body a great shape you can do various exercises such as squats: which will give your butt a great shape.Lundges: which tighten up your thigh muscles. Sit-ups for a flat great looking stomach. Leg raises for your stomach and hip lining too.

Hi Raven, thank you for your comment. There is no one body type that is better than the other. You should look in the mirror and see how wonderful, awesome and beautiful you are. If you want to exercise for your health, there are many easy exercises that you can do like brisk walking. Be safe when walking outside though and always tell those at home where you are going.

Hi there I have a problem im lesbian(femme) so my parents dnt know that im lesbian n i dnt know how to tell them and i think they dnt like lesbians so im afraid to tell them..i need an advice...

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I am a lesbain too(Femme), I can't tell my parents because they are against but Im happy where I am but the problem is how will I handle them when their find out that I'm a lesbain??

Hi Springster, thanks for your comment. You don't have to come out to your parents if you don't feel ready. Telling them that you are a lesbian is a personal decision that you don't have to make if you feel uncomfortable. When you are completely ready then you can tell them in any way that you feel fit. Good luck Springster.

Those tips were really helpful, thanks so much🙌

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Hi board. Thanks for reading our stories and letting them inspire you.

I guys my name is Tylee Wagener.I'm new here I hope I will find sum gud frnds here .Im 12 yes old

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Welcome Tylee. You can read our stories and even contribute your own stories here http://za.heyspringster.com/Your-words-competitions/calling-out-all-girl-writers/ Have fun and we're so glad you're a part of the Springster community now!

Hi

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Hi Wagener

Hey guys.. Uhm so shy in class...i can't raise my hand whn i want to be clarified...even when i know the correct answer....what should i do to boast my confidence??there is this stupid thing in my mind"wat if i get it wrong"!"?

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Hi Springster, speaking in front of people can be scary but don't let that stop you. Read this Springster article called Is Your Confidence In Check to learn about how to improve your confidence: http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-life/your-confidence-check/

Hi. I thing it good to speak up in CLASS Even you not sho about ur answer brcause u learn frm ur mistakes.if you wrong ur teacher will assist u so u get it the next time.

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

But sometimes it's so difficult to raise your hand in class all the Times as people end up giving you names such as 'Miss too goody too shoes'

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Hi Mphoentle24. Thanks for your comment. Never be embarrassed about how smart you are or if people think you're trying to be a teachers pet. Work hard and don't worry about what other people say.

Yeah true to that...that is why i prefer not raising my hand also but prefering a teacher to see my perfomance in the test....

Sometimes raising your hand up in class it quite hard knowing you might be laughed at

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Yeah I always feel like dat when I raised my hand in de classroom,I feel like i wil say an embarrassing thng nd end up being a laughing stock

What du u do wen gals take u for a ride help a friend

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

Thank you so much I'll speak up, raise my hand in class and ask for help.Which i never did.

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It's always good to confess with your mouth but its better to declare and show some action. And be determined

Hey guyss im scared of raising a hand in class because im a voiding that thing of being a laughingstock in the classroom

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

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The point is: you asked a question because you didn't understand, if that question makes everyone laugh then well done! Not everyone has that gift to make a dull moment in class fun- if you have the gift then use it.

Am always scared n shy to raise my hand in class n I want that to stop but am scared to be a laughingstocks so plz help me guyz

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Just try! Nobody's perfect after all, if people laugh at you it's natural so you shouldn't be bothered by it - wash it off and continue raising your hands. Besides, not everyone that laughs knows the right answers and/or questions to ask which makes you better for trying. Who knows, you might be right. And in this way, not only does your confidence get boosted but it will be easier for you to remember in the exams since you offered the answer/question. Try and never stop trying!v

Hi Serah. I think Emily_Lea gave such a perfectly crafted answer and she is right. Also remember why you're at school. You're there to learn and sometimes before you learn something you make a mistake and get it wrong, that's just part of the process. Don't be too hard on yourself and don't let the fear of other people laughing discourage you from being the best student you could be. Good luck

Hie guys I'm new here I also do this in class I'm shy around every gal So if i raise my friend they think I'm a lesbian

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Well don't pay attention to what they say coz people will alwaus talk just focus on what your saying n be confident....me too I'm also new

Always be yourself don't fake others.. ..love yourself n choose your friends wisely

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

Hi Guys I just want to ask what is it maybe I didn't get ma periods on February what might it be?

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Hi Springster, don't panic. Many women experience an irregular period at one point or another in their lives. Here are a few things you need to know. 1) Your menstrual cycle begins on the first day of your period 2) The average menstrual cycle is 28 - 32 days long 3) Normal cycles can range between 21 - 45 days in young teens So it's perfectly normal to see a period show up in the beginning of the month then again towards the end.

Its normal l also do that sometimes

If l raise my hand they laugh at me what should l do.

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Hi Springster, it's not about them - it's about you. Don't let anyone stop you from doing what's best for your future. You can also try talking to your teacher before or after class.

Hey..so I just want to ask something for advice about a friendship..so I have a friend and we have been since grade 4 and every time I go and get something new at the shops or do something for myself she goes and does the exact same thing as what I've done ? I have told her that it upsets me but yet she still does it ..

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Hi Springster, maybe your friend just admires your style. Have you heard this saying, "imitation is the best form of flattery"? Ask yourself, is this something really worth fighting over? You could see it as a chance for you to help your friend develop her own sense of style. Go shopping together, help pick clothes that will suit her. She clearly thinks highly of the way you dress.

I've tried helping her go shopping but that didn't help much ...I get where you are coming from ...I got a piercing a while ago and then she went and got the same thing as me like I said I wanted a tongue ring and before I even got it she went to get it ..?

I don't have confidence at all but I'll try using your tips

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am 17 years and am still a virgin and i will lyk to stay lyk that until i get marrige that is my wish

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hi am new I just don't feel confident abt myself .....I just feel out of place when I'm with other pole. help!

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hi am new I just don't feel confident abt myself .....I just feel out of place when I'm with other pole. help!

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I am twelve yrs old and my Lil sister is ten she is starting to develop breasts ...I feel that she will have period before I even get myne so I ask that is there something wrong with me

I am twelve yrs old and my Lil sister is ten she is starting to develop breasts ...I feel that she will have period before I even get myne so I ask that is there something wrong with me

hy I'm new in this group . I don't have confidence at all. I lack confidence especially for myself

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Hey Marsh ... you ain't the only one with self esteem problems hun 😔

Hey, Marsh thanks for your comment. Low self-esteem and lack of confidence is a very common occurrence in teens and it is nothing to be ashamed about. If you're looking for articles on how to work on your confidence, you can click on the confidence tag on the website.

I have a lack of confidence

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

Hy guys I'm new in this group I don't have confidence at all...I have low-self esteem sometimes I feel like I won't make it in life cause of what I've been through I really need help n mentor as well please help

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hey I feel like that at most time, you know I stopped believing in myself, I don't have anything/anyone to motivate me, I try to motivate myself about the struggles I face everyday, but I fail.

Hy guyz I have a problem I'm participating well in class but when it comes to tests I don't know what's the problem my marks come back very low plzzz help

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Yeah ... In class some people brainstorm ideas on how to work on equations but as soon as it's test time you get confused and forget all the forms of using the equations to work out the answer

you know other girls think cheating is something u should be proud of .No that's totally wrongly because if u are cheating is easy for u to get disease or any infaction .So girl & also guys cheating is not something u should be proud of

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Me either but my friends always telling me that I must break my virginity

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Well then tell them its yr body & they must respect yr body If they can't then they aren't real friends

Hey Springster, no one should ever make you feel pressured to have sex. Do things that make you feel comfortable and safe and surround yourself with people who respect your decisions and values.

Hi friend if you dont wana do things that they do.tell them dont be scared or feel sorry about they telling you.remember god has a plan.love from allison to u♥ #be comifiy♥ #ur body is worth it keep it safe♥

if you not ready they must accept that AMD not pressure you its your body and if they are true friends they will totally understand so

I lack confidence and sonehow I feel like I've lost my faith too, I get lonely most of the times. I lost believing in myself it's so sad and scrary at the same time.

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I for one am scared to answer in class if am not sure about my answer because am I afraid I could be the laughing stock of the class and I don't want that

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Same here but how will we develop confidence if we in a class like that😟

Hi guys ...whenever i ask my friends at school to help me get better marks like them in Maths they sometimes ignore me or hesitate What must I do ?Are they real friends ?

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Not rlly.leave dem alone cz dey don't wanna c u getting success.de best way is to stay away frm them

They are being jealous bcZ they Don't want u to get higher marks Look practice maths & u'll be like them..

Its true cause its the way I feel

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Hey Springster, we appreciate the comment. Thank you :).

Girls hie I want to know when is the perfect age to use creams on my face maybe like lemon lite or Ponds??I'm 13 yrs.

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Hey Lebolicious, I don't think there is a specific age for you to wear face creams. Usually when you hit puberty, your skin may start to change or get more sensitive. So if you are experiencing this or you feel like your skin needs special care, you can speak to your mother about starting to use face creams. At the store you should ask the shop assistant or a skin care professional about which products will be suited to your skin.

hey guys I just wanted to know if I can use make up while I am 17 years old or not❤

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I have black spots on ma face wat should I do???

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Hey Springster, dark spots on your skin can be a result of various factors. Reasons can include harsh contact with the sun, pimples and acne that have healed or wounds and scars that have healed. In these cases, your skin increases the production of melanin to protect itself. You should consider going to a skin care shop and explaining your situation to an assistant or skin care specialists. They may be able to explain your spots better or perhaps even give you alternative method of treating your skin.

Just get some ointment in the pharmacy and u will be fine other thing eat healthy most of your time…?

I'm 25 years of age got a problem with self confidence I'm open laugh a lot but if i have to stand in front of people and talk i get scared and nervous i shake i fear like what i would say would be wrong but i want to be a teacher

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Hello Springster It is a good thing that you would like to become a teacher.Being a teacher means that you have to be able to communicate well with your learners.Please read the article called "Look in the mirror article..." which talk about confidence.Goodluck on becoming a teacher,we wish you well here at Springster.

U'll get there, just practise being in front of the audience more often u'll there don't stress and otherway it's not a problem laughing if it makes u feel better than why not do it...…

Me to tho ,me too

I am glad to have sistas lyk u

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Wow ok that i need to try but tell m how u g about soeaking up nt trying to hurt someone bt jst bringing a point across

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You have to think for others don't think for your self only

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Am honestly a confident dark girl and i literally love myself.Sometimes i feel down and think am ugly and especially aftr my boyfriend left me for my light skinned friend.I started thinking that gyz only love light skinned girlz or am i being paranoid.

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get a jimming app nd do some squeds

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I have a lot of CONFIDENCE ...I usually give presentations on behalf of my school .community.pupils etc ...but sometimes people tell me that I'm not Good Enough to SPEAK ...UP .....so that's why I joined a PUBLIC SPEAKING COMMITTEE ...to help improve my skills ....and to BELIEVE AND TRUST MYSELF THAT I CAN AND WILL MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE ...there's a lot of pupils that have the skills that I have but ...they're too SCARED OF WHAT PEOPLE SAY ...so from my side don't care what people say JUST DO WHAT U DO BEST ...AND BE U ...(#CONFIDENCE) u have a great gift to speak up FOR OTHERS ...so make use of it and SPEAK UP ND MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE

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Hello Caitlin You are such a brave girl and we hope that you will continue to have such confidence.If you want to do something positive then you shouldn't let anyone stop it.We really admire you Springster.

Wow,I'm so inspired 😊

I also really there must be a girls day

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Yes viva to that gal... I pro u...

Yes good one amanda

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Thanks for the comment Springster.

That good one really ......and only by reading this has uplifted my confident which made me win when I was contesting

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Thats true thts how i am

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thαt'ѕ mє

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I sometimes have problems speaking to my dad ...like ...um..I feel like I've been pushed into a corner before he even opens his mouth to say a word ..I just don't know

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Hello maidi Having a good relationship with parents is a good thing. We advice you to start small by asking him how his day was and also telling him what you learned at school. In that way, you will be able to build a good relationship with your father. Let us know if this worked. Goodluck Springster, we wish you nothing but the best.

Ok

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Hi... I'm too shy and I don't like to talk to talk to others even if they said bad things about my friends I always thought to keep quiet is the best way to have peace... Is that wrong?

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Eish!!!!me I have lot of problems but I don't lyk telling people about my personal problems

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Me and my friend is pretty close... She means the world to me... But since she got this other friend she has been leaving me alone or sometimes I'll wait for her but she never shows up what do I do

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Hi Miela, with any relationship, including friendships, communication and honesty is key. We would advise you to communicate the way you are feeling about your friendship to your friend and ask her if anything has changed. It will be a good way to find out if there are any issues between the two of you. From what we can read in your comment, we doubt that there's anything major that happened. Try to remember that friendships can sometimes change and evolve because of reasons like moving, meeting new people, and other life experiences. It doesn't have to be a bad thing, it's just a matter of accepting that changes happen and adjusting to the new kind friendship that you have.

Me and my friend is pretty close... She means the world to me... But since she got this other friend she has been leaving me alone or sometimes I'll wait for her but she never shows up what do I do

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Hi Miela, with any relationship, including friendships, communication and honesty is key. We would advise you to communicate the way you are feeling about your friendship to your friend and ask her if anything has changed. It will be a good way to find out if there are any issues between the two of you. From what we can read in your comment, we doubt that there's anything major that happened. Try to remember that friendships can sometimes change and evolve because of reasons like moving, meeting new people, and other life experiences. It doesn't have to be a bad thing, it's just a matter of accepting that changes happen and adjusting to the new kind friendship that you have.

that's what it is

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

my best friend is close with the girl whose sleeping with my lover , what do i do?

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Hey Springster, sorry to hear this. You need to have a talk with a bae first and foremost and find out if you're willing to be with someone who cheats. If you're sexually active, please also make sure you use protection. Also, you are allowed to speak to your friend and express your feelings about how hurt you feel about her being friends with her. Be open, see what she says and see how you feel about your friendship and what you can do afterwards.

Thankc but ..I need an opinion on something

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Me and my boyfriend are both in grade12 I'm 17 he is 18, and we started dating this year february.he says he is ready for us to have sex..and I've never had sex.., I feel as if im ready but somehow I I just feel like i ain't.. Wht should I do.plz help.

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

I am too shy in class should I speak up or what

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hii big sis......ever since my friend changed the same school we attended, I have a lack of confidence and I feel so lonely

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hii big sis......ever since my friend changed the same school we attended, I have a lack of confidence and I feel so lonely

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Hi Aya, thanks for sharing your story with us. It can be really hard to be seperated from someone like your bestie, so it's normal for you to be feeling a bit insecure and down. We think you should feel all the emotions you need to feel and take some time to get used not being there during break or after school. It's not always going to be easy, but you should be aware that this is also a great opportunity for you to make new friends whenever you are ready. It may be intimidating at first, but having some kind of support while you're at school is really important. Also, remember that many teachers know a lot about the kinds of things happening at school and they are trained to deal with issues that young children are experiencing. Don't be afraid to approach your teacher for a chat about what you're going through, especially if they can affect something like your work ethic or concentration at school. You can also call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Ever since i got to high school.i dnt knw whts wrong with me.i hv not been confident lyk i was in high school and i need help. I try to concentrate but i just cnt.can sm1 help me plz.

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March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hy guys plz help me I really need your help In my class they make jokes about me because Im so fat than them all I was thinking to commit suicide mah self because i am tired of being a joke Plz advice me guys

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Hi Mahlophe, thank you so much for reaching out to us and telling us your story. Everyone has a different size and shape and all bodies are beautiful in their own way. No one has the right to bully anyone just because of their size. Remember that you have every right to report this to your teacher or principal. You should also consider confiding in an adult you can trust, like a parent, relative or teacher. Sadly, we can't talk to you face to face, but you can call Childline SA. They offer counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Hey Lily ...never feel intimidated by the negative things said towards you or behind your back , because one way or the other , you're probably a threat towards them.cause they know that they'll never look as precious and appealing as you are ...tons of girl (with myself included) stuff themselves with food cause they feel less appreciated by their peers or because they feel way too skinny for the world to see them.. What I'm actually trying to say is that embrace your plus sized body , and be madly inlove with it ...not to mention walking with pride and confidence without caring what people say because that's how humans are -they always talk , and they ALWAYS will talk .....and there sure ain't nothing that either you nor I can do about it.... So stop feeling sorry about yourself babe and stand out , who knows you'd probably be the outmost inspiration towards the girls who cannot speak up for themselves #DO THE RIGHT THING !!

Listen up Lily just ignore those people talk behind your back, just let them talk and waiste their time in talking about you. And don't ever think about them all the time because you are damaging yourself. Just report this to your teacher, parent, guardian or someone very close up to you. And remember, you have bright future ahead of you in your life and hey!! You are special 💸💸💷💰💳💲✌✊💃be strong and listen to Septic_016

Lily.. Babe you are unique special,take pride in yourself. Stand up for yourself and u will see that they will no longer call bad names....Trust yrself

Sometimes I feel like relationships are not for girls like me cause I always find myself caught up in a situation where I'm the one who has fall in too deep without the feeling being mutual towards the guy...what does this mean ? Should I just give up on love and focus on building and loving myself instead?

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

That's me!! Can I please have relationship tips 🙏🙏

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

That's me!! Can I please have relationship tips 🙏🙏

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Me too😅

Hey guys I'm new here and I'm married my husband want me to get pregnant and I was using implanon and I just remove it this August and I don't know if I will get pregnant or not help me guys

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hey ladies am an 18 year old girl ..still a virgin....and am hoping to break my virginity this holidays ....is it the right thing to do?!

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Hello Vee_radebe1508 It is always better to have sex when you are ready and not being pressurised to do so. If your partner is the one who is insisting let him know that you are not ready. If you need someone to talk to about this, it can be a parent or someone you trust. If not, you can speak to a professional who can offer you support or you can call Love Life on 0800 121 900 or send them a please call me on this number 0 8 3 3 2 3 1 0 2 3 to call you back.

Thanks Gabi.....

Hi gals am new in this group I hope u will all welcome me with worm handa

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

U don't have to rush braking ur Virginity if u ar not ready😘😙

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

I think to jump into things that are not important

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hii guys I'm a 13 year old girl. I've started my "mensies" and feel pretty normal bout my body My problem is that boys are always looking at me, saying that I have got a amazing body. I know I have a huge butt,boobs and curves and some boys want me to be their girlfriend. There were even these guys who wanted to stab my older brothers just so they can get to People say I am a loose giirl because I get along with everyone even my mom thinks that. I'm not even allowed to go to the shop anymore

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

Hii guys I'm a 13 year old girl. I've started my "mensies" and feel pretty normal bout my body My problem is that boys are always looking at me, saying that I have got a amazing body. I know I have a huge butt,boobs and curves and some boys want me to be their girlfriend. There were even these guys who wanted to stab my older brothers just so they can get to People say I am a loose giirl because I get along with everyone even my mom thinks that. I'm not even allowed to go to the shop anymore I feel like a caged tiger I am always sad cause I love interacting with people now I can't because I am constantly being judged without any who knows the true me that I am not a victim of rape but I am a survivor not even my mom knows that I was molested then raped by my uncle her brother so I feel that interacting with

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Why girl don't be shy

You haven't got used to people in high school it's still your early days so don't worry you'll be fine as time goes on sweetie

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March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

M very shy too every time when I support to speak I just think what others will say

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

Hy am about to look for a job and it my first time looking for a job and on Monday I will going around dropping my CV in stores.so my question is how do I approach the manager for a job or for him or her to take my CV

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

Hi girls my name is lehlohonolo I just want to say I am in grade 7 these year at my class room the is are girl call Meyelane every day they say to me my boom is so small and I am not strong but now I told him that back off to my body these is my on body if I am not strong is noun of his business

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Good girl😊♥️.you shouldn't let anyone have an opinion about your body.

You really made a great choice👊