Stand up

For what you believe in

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Life can be hard sometimes and some of us learn really fast that the world is not always cupcakes and rainbows. You may have seen a friend being bullied for being different or you may have been bullied. We had a chat with Terry-Ann, a girl who had to stand up for herself and people just like her.

Terry-Ann told us her story:

I come from a township in Johannesburg called Eldorado Park. Eldorado means the place of gold in Spanish but it didn’t feel that golden when I was growing up. See, I look different. I am a person with albinism, a genetic condition(I was born this way). I have no melanin in my skin, hair and eyes. Melanin is what gives our skin colour. The more melanin you have, the darker you are. Having colour in your eyes also helps you to see better, having very light eyes means that I can’t see very well. I was often bullied by kids in my street for how I look. They would throw stones at me and smear charcoal on my body. I didn’t do much about it because I was scared of them.

Having a disability also meant that I couldn’t get into the school that I wanted. They refused to accept me because they thought that I would require more attention. I had to work twice as hard as the kids in my class, and when I got to university, I had to fight to get treated just like everyone else. Everyone either bullied me or felt sorry for me but I didn’t let that get me down.

I realised that the kids who bully me are also being bullied by something bigger.I learned that when people are being oppressed, they want to reclaim power by oppressing others.

That is why I started talking about my disability on TV, I became an ambassador for Casual Day (an organisation that helps people with disabilities) in their honour.

I believe that every child deserves the chance to a future regardless of background, race, gender or ability. I wanted people to know that everyone is equal.

I now go around speaking about the injustices of ableism- the discrimination against people with disabilities and how we can make the world a fairer place.

Here are three tips from Terry-Ann on how to speak up for what you believe in:

Confidence is key. When standing up for yourself or others, you need to be confident. People are less likely to take you seriously if your voice isn’t clear or you stutter over your words.

2) Practice makes perfect Practice what you are going to say before you have the opportunity to speak out publicly - you can even practice with your friends or family.

3) Don’t give up People might not listen to you the first time, they may even try to put you down. Don’t let that be the reason you give up.

Did you learn anything from Terry-Ann’s story?

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My name is Boity I leave in Diretsane people in my village are teasing me about my body because I'm tiny they hate they don't like me but I'm living my life but I don't care what they say about me I have 3 tips I like to share 1)Don't let people tease you 2)Don't let people laugh at you 3)Leave your life,your future,your goals

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

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Hey Springster, you are inspirational!

Nonka

Yeah to be honest i've learn a lot from springster🤞💗

I also have the child that has albinism I hope when he grows he will have confidence like you

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

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Hi Springster, be the best parent that you can be to your child. Instill in your child the values that you hope he/she will grow up to have. All best!

Kabelo.bby

He will be something that conquer the world 🌍

People will always judge.They must except that we are all the same,but different in our own ways.#CONFIDENTS IS THE KEY,STAND UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE IS RIGHT🙋.

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

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Hey springster, here, here!

Life is a gamble Nd it's whether u choose to play or whether u just going to walk away from everything Nd people will think u are a fool by just walking away from all situations..... Think before things get out of hand it doesn't matter how hard life hits u but u can always shine

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

I am Kgomotso Shibane I grew up in Benoni with my big family. I have a left eye twitching condition and it causes my left eye to twitch whenever I eat, read or concentrate. I used to get bullied alot in primary but never physically, always emotionally and I used to think it really meant nothing, well because I didn't even know emotional abuse was a thing. I got called names like frog eye and if that was not enough I was a little darker than I am now so that didn't do me much help either. I used to escape by writing how I feel since I learnt to keep things to myself out of a fear of rejection or betrayal(things I'd gotten very used to). Now I'm almost done with highschool and I'm super confident and I still get bullied for different reasons but non the less it continues but I learnt to ignore it and I hope others like myself and Terry-Anne learn to love themseleves unconditionally regardless of how they look because they are amazing and beautiful beyond measure. ♡

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

hy guys am 17 years old I have a problem of bed wetting I can't feel when I have to wake nd go nd pee my family always make jokes about me I don't know what I am I once tried to commit suicide but luckly I survived..th ey always say am just lazy to wake up ive lost confidence about my self I can't even go out with church camps because am scared of what may happen I even visit relatives I don't know what's going on I think god hates me

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

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Hey buhle,I also had the same problem and trust me I know how painful it is,But luckily for me my mom did all she could to find me help.And when I was about to turn 18 we found out of a MORINGA POWDER. I'd put some in my bath water and would swallo some twice a day and in less than 2weeks the bedwetting stopped and haven't wet my bed till this day. Try it and see if it will help you😘

thanks a lot I hope it will help

I'm glad you took a stand in fighting for equal rights

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

I also have a skin problem. My entire body is covered with birthmarks.i try to cover it by wearing long things. I dont know how it feels to wear something short. Im 18 years and when i was growing at primary i didnt realise my skin was unique . And kids would ask me if i was burnt or am i having a skin cancer🙁. Honestly ,thats when i realised that my skin was different and i started dressing long things. Hot or cold im always in long things to avoid such discomforting questions. At school i used to wear track pant or stockings i never experienced wearing short skirts and short socks like other children😢. Even when i started dating the first thing i told my boyfriend was my skin problem and dearly love me the way i am. The problem is what if i pass this to my offsprings😭😭. It will take me forever to gain confidence with the person i am even though im told its not bad!

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

I also have a skin problem. My entire body is covered with birthmarks.i try to cover it by wearing long things. I dont know how it feels to wear something short. Im 18 years and when i was growing at primary i didnt realise my skin was unique . And kids would ask me if i was burnt or am i having a skin cancer🙁. Honestly ,thats when i realised that my skin was different and i started dressing long things. Hot or cold im always in long things to avoid such discomforting questions. At school i used to wear track pant or stockings i never experienced wearing short skirts and short socks like other children😢. Even when i started dating the first thing i told my boyfriend was my skin problem and dearly love me the way i am. The problem is what if i pass this to my offsprings😭😭. It will take me forever to gain confidence with the person i am even though im told its not bad!

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

I also have a problem ..on my face I have hair and I am trying to remove but it won't ...and it keeps growing further ...plz help

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Hey Cphe, unfortunately we don't have any ideas on what you can do, but there are lot of website you can look up online where they have remedies that you can make with natural ingredients to remove the hair on your face. We hope you find the one that works for you.

thank you Terry and yah I agree with you we shouldn't give up on what we really wanted from the start, we should push until we're at the top

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

Hey.. Please help...... I was a great singer in primary , now I can't sing at all and all those I attended with last year are making fun of me ... what can I do

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

I was being told about how dark my skin colour

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

You must stand up and speak up when there's something that is bothering you that's when people will realize and know that you didn't like the way they treated you and no one deserves to be illtreated we are all equal.

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Nice lesson, hope we will learn from others and how to treat others.my teacher used to say treat others the way you want to be treated

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

Boom

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.