Relationship goals: me and mom

Find out how to make your relationship with mom work.

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Here’s a lesson you need that no one told you: you need to work on your relationship with your mom. Moms can be a great support system, offering love, wisdom and support. That’s why the two of you need each other.

Make the first move
This Sunday, cook together or help her with a chore. Show your mom that even though sometimes you yell at each other, you still understand that it will pass. It’s not just her job to care for you, it’s your job to care for her.

Someone who totally gets you
Do you want someone who will truly understand how you feel? Try your mom. Everything you’re going through, she’s already been through. Turn the drama down a little and just talk to your mom about what’s bothering you.

Saying sorry is easy
Sometimes there are fights you have between you and your parents that aren’t little things — they’re big, life changing, things. We’re not talking about those. We’re talking about that one time when you yelled at her for embarrassing you in front of your friends. We’re talking about the dumb stuff. The stuff that when you think about it, you know is pretty much your fault. When you do dumb stuff, say you’re sorry. Part of growing up is taking responsibility for your mistakes. She might seem like she’s made of stone, but she gets hurt too. Learning to say you’re sorry can make all the difference. It’s a skill that will help you your entire life.

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Aneliswa554

Yoo ngaze ngamthanda umama I love you Mom hope you are well and enjoying your time lapho okhona 😭😭😘😘🛌🧚🧚🧚🧜

Sept. 25, 2022, 5:02 a.m.

Sandiswa

I love you mom🤞🤞😭😭🥺♥️❤️💗💋

Sept. 24, 2022, 6:51 p.m.

momodacutiegurl1

Love ❤️ my mom 💓 so much 🌹

Sept. 23, 2022, 7:07 a.m.

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Palipali

So cute

Bayolise

Guys please add me to 072 836 4063 it's boring you 🙇

Sept. 17, 2022, 7:41 p.m.

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Aneliswa554

It is not your Mama's phone ??

Aneliswa554

Ngeke ngisaku adder ngoba awufuni ukungiphendula

SweetNATS

Hi everyone I have a stepmom who is good to me sometimes and other times it's a whole different story naughty but nice

Sept. 16, 2022, 5:55 p.m.

Oyza

I don't have a fucken mom

Sept. 13, 2022, 7:11 p.m.

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@Connie_dee45

I'm sorry 😔😔

Dembe

Sorry

myssmisterigyrl2

Love my mom💖💖💖

Sept. 9, 2022, 12:13 p.m.

1234

First thing to say is that you have a lot of comments and what you are saying is true plz text me on Moya app l would like to know how you doing things are you using lucky charms 😲☺️😊🥰l am joking Bye

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:24 p.m.

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Asa

Ooh what a wow

Atalia

Mara to get bored sometimes haaaay😏😏😉🙂

alondiwe

Sorry💔💔💔💔💔

Aug. 17, 2022, 3:22 p.m.

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1234

Just that mxm lamo 🤬

Zandile_22

💔💔💔💔💔😭.... I wish she was here, God took her from me💔 uhm now alone, lonely,sad, tears forever until I meet her again 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔😭😭

Aug. 14, 2022, 8:10 p.m.

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Magugu

Sorry nhe💔

alondiwe

Mhh

23we

Sorry my friend 😭😭🤧☺

REABETSWE

Uhm baby girl u will be fyn when tym goes onnn❤️🥺

SboRh

💔😳😢

Onkarabetswe

Sorry my friend 💔💔💔😥😢😥

momodacutiegurl1

So sorry 🥺😭

Sandiswa

I am really sorry for you 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞💯💯💯💯

Siphesihle34

Thanks for showing me what to do when things are very hard such as saying sorry I never say sorry but after I saw your story by teaching us I have learnt to say sorry to people because of your story

Aug. 12, 2022, 12:10 p.m.

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23we

How many sorry x3

Lalitha

Hi everyone i grew up in the hands of my granny.i do not know the love of my mom am that person who grew up so sad bcz I felt like my mom didn't love/like me at all . People gave me clothes bcz they saw that nobody brings clothes for me ..at school my mom wasn't buying me enough books/stationaries .I learnt to be independent when I was so young the little money that I got I was saving it so that I can atleast buy myself a cheap T shirt or a dress. My mom never bought me izinto zokugheza actually she never did anything good for me . until now she decided to stay with me but still I don't see her changes

July 25, 2022, 7:48 p.m.

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23we

I feel sorry for your 🙏🙏

Madikizela

I love my mother ❤️❤️🤩💕

July 14, 2022, 5:14 p.m.

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Asa

Me 2

Nonka

Good tips👍.I like them and it seems like it's gonna work on my mom.Thank you so much Springster !!!I learn a lot every single day😘😍

July 11, 2022, 10:52 a.m.

Sthandiwe

Me and my mom we dont see eye to eye and it has escalated to a point where i wish i was not even born i even have suicide thought because iam tired of this life im living i was raped 2017 they told me that i can terminate the pregnancy but i refused not that i loved having a baby by that time i understood that a baby is a gift from god ....iam struggling now and my baby boy is 5 Years now last was his birthday. I felt so down i was not even able to buy him a cake nor any toy i felt so bad

July 5, 2022, 11:49 p.m.

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Preet

No no don't think about the suicide thing u did a good job by raising your baby boy I always say to girl's god created us for a purpose and if it wasn't so he would have ended our lives but no he let us live our lives and enjoy continue raising your baby boy may god bless u 👐👐 for not aborting ur baby

Lauren

Good tips I will follow this tips sooner are later👍

July 3, 2022, 6:39 a.m.

Ntethe

Hey guys I'm 18 old mena nomama wam asinabo ubudlelwano obuhle because ubengi abuse n everyday bengathi akangizali and okubuhlung ngacishe nga t ngadlwengulwa but akaze ebenandaba

June 30, 2022, 7:49 p.m.

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Ntethe

😭

Nihan

Diya xolisa😭😭😭😭that's so sad man.

Nandi

I am very sorry. This is a very painful story because the only thing that you want is that , you want to have a good relationship with your mom but ur mom doesn't care.The only thing I can say is that be strong because there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.😭😭😭😭😭

Sthandiwe

I can relate same here 😥😭😭

Nonka

Mmmm I can imagine 😭😭💔

Asimbonge

😥

23we

Are boys allowed here 🙄🙄🤨🤨🤔🤔

Ntetherh

Hey I'm 18 umawam unengihlukumeza bengathi akangizali engishaya Noma ngan ayibonay

June 25, 2022, 6:53 a.m.

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Nihan

Sorry😭😭😭

Ntando17

Sorry 🥺God be with you

23we

Lier🤪🤪

YES.m sorry for what m done I was wrong

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

i'm srry for wat happend btwn us

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

MY REALESHINSHIP WITH MY MOM ITS CIMOLICATED ALWAYS YELLING AT ME

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

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Try the steps in the story and see if that helps the communication between you and your mother. Here's a reminder of what they are: 1) Make the first move. Help her cook or help with chores. You're a team! 2) Do you want someone who will truly understand how you feel? Try your mom. Everything you’re going through, she’s already been through. 3) When you do dumb stuff, say you’re sorry. Part of growing up is taking responsibility for your mistakes. She might seem like she’s made of stone, but she gets hurt too. Good luck and let us know how it goes...

My relationship with My Mom ,is complicated I even prefer talking to My father than my mother, I'm even afraid of her😔

I can talk to my mother but I still can't talk to her about everything

WHEN I STARTED MY PERIODS WHEN I TOLD MY MOM SHE DID NOT BELIEVE ME

My mom and i are like strangers we don't communicate like mom and daughter

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

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WHY WATS WRONG??

Nihan

Why😮?

I have a good relationship with my mom but am afraid if I tell her that am dating it would ruin our relationship what do I do??

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Honesty is the best policy. I'd suggest you bring it up in conversation and see how she reacts. It would be better if she found out from you than someone. When you're out she'll know who you're with so if anything happened to you she'd know how to contact you. Good luck

if your relationship with her is very important to u ,u will have to tell her and that will show her that u trust her .Even though she wont take it at first but as time goes on she will understand. i think u should tell her before she finds out herself coz it will hurt her and your relationship with her will never be like before

Hey ya'll , I relate to everything that has been said here & I feel like your mom or my mom knows that you're in a relationship , but she's acting as if she doesn't know . Maybe she doesn't want to accept the fact that you're now grown up , she just wants you to stay young and beautiful . She might be afraid that you may get hurt , remember our parents were once teenagers & they know how things goes out there.

Nihan

Be honest with mom and try not to be scared,you might find out she won't be so angry as you think.

Well ! Mom & I have a 'fine' relationship but sometimes. I find her very moody & she just talks to me anyhow & shout out of the blue. I believe that she loves my younger brother more. I always try to reach out to her but sometimes she doesn't bother . She keeps comparing me to my step-sister . She thinks am going to turn out to be like them & have a child at Sixteen or run with my boyfriend & never come back. She doesn't have positive expectations about me

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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dont try too hard to prove it to her that u not like your sisters.just do your own thing and trying to get her to like u will take u away from your goals and who u wanna be . focus on yourself and maybe she will cum around

Good morning fist of all i wld lov to thnk u for such a good blog. im24 yrs of age my mom n I dnt get along snce i ws 12yrs she treatd me dffrent frm my siblings she used to beat me with Kettle cable it was unbearable pain she call me names idk wat to do plz help me im willing to make things right bcoz she's de only thing i have.

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hey Springster. Relationships are not always easy, including the ones we have with parents. But there is always a way to heal them. When there’s tension, talking about what is causing it helps. Maybe you can make the first move? Do it when you’re both free. Appeal to her with your actions by offering to help with chores before she asks you to. Afterwards, make her tea and start the conversation lightly, like telling her how much you enjoyed working with her. If you can’t talk to your mom, think about getting a an adult or sibling that your mom trusts and respects to help you talk to her.

Nihan

I know it's hard,but try to sit down with her and tell her how u feel.Ask her to apologize and try to make peace with her,cause once you've lost yr mom you'll regret the time you didn't spend with her for the rest of yr life

I tried to bond with my mother but it's hard though.

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Thanks for commenting. Mother-daughter relationships can be tough. But relationships take work so keep at it. Good luck!

My mom is like a stranger. We only get along when ii go to her church (I dnt believe in her religion bt my relatives are Romans n ii truly believe there). She ignores me sometimes. I tryd fixing our relationship n talking to her bt ii cnt help bt it makes me cry while explaining to her the things she does. She is not there for me emotionally n when ii cry she just ignores tht n carry on wid at she was doing. Bt believing it's me n the world alone makes me more strong

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Eish! Mothers! We love them but it just seems like there’s no way to make them understand us. Arg! But you know what we’ve also discovered? Everything you are going through now, they’ve experienced before. Still, talking to mom can be a bit scary, so What’s a girl to do? Find a topic that will make her laugh or smile, like something silly that she says you used to do when you were a kid. If you can’t think of a memory, talk about her favourite TV show. If you want someone’s attention, don’t approach them when they’re busy with someone or in a hurry to get somewhere. The same applies to talking to your mom about sensitive issues. Tell her that you have something important to talk to her about and when she will have time to give you her full attention.

The woman doesn't love me. I did tht... making her laugh, she'll laugh and it ends there, no strings attached. Asked her to spend time with me bt she'd rather go spend all her time with the church lady's.

Nihan

You must respect others religions,exept that,sort out your differences and try to bond with her.What you've just said is so sad😭😭😭🤤I'm sorry

Mʏ ʍօʍ ċaռ't taʟҡ tօ ʍɛ as a ċɦɨʟɖ sɦɛ ɨs sɦօʊtɨռɢ at ʍɛ ռօt ɮʊʏɨռɢ ʍɛ ċʟօtɦɛs I ɢɛt ʍօռɛʏ ʄʀօʍ sօċɨaʟ ɢʀaռts Sօ sքʀɨռɢɛsts ɦօա ċaռ I ʟɨʋɛ ʟɨҡɛ tɦɨs...??

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Boo trytta talk ta her about buying you clothes... n finish ya chores in the meanTarm, it'll impress her

Hi Springster. Thanks for your comment. It must be difficult going through what you are with your mother but there are always places you can get support. Maybe speak to your mother when you can and communicate how you're feeling. If you're not ready to speak t her then maybe consult a teacher, mentor or professional for support. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. You can feel free to speak to them without being judged. They are here to help you! Contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Nihan

If yr mom is using the money for important stuff like food and school fees l understand her,but if she's not doing anything with the money then try to talk to her and if she refuses to listen then call the child helpline.

Well i tried that..i even tried showing her that i love her but all she does is shut me out and let strangers into our lives..its only the two of us no male figure in the hpyse since well there is none she usually lets her male friends in and out of the house .. They enter every room how they like .. They take things without asking for them and when I stand to say NO! Am taken as a joke or a useless thing but when she wants something i have to jump not that i am complaining but it really eats me up.. Ending up having thoughts of leaving her with her friends and mind you i just gave birth to a little beautiful girl who was turming two months yesterday

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Mbalie I have had a similar experience as u so I understand where ur coming from coz whenever I talk to my mom she shuts me out to. I need advice. How can I open up to my mom.

Hi MbalieSego04. Thank you for sharing your comment. It can't be easy for you having a newborn and not getting along with your mother. Have you thought about speaking to a friend, mentor or professional for support? You mentioned wanting to leave, I'd only advise you do so if you have a safe place to go to for you and your newborn. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and you can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, depressed or feel alone. They are here to help you! Contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. You can also check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za for more information. You don't need to deal with this alone.

I will try ...I just wanna keep quiet nowadays

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Boineo. thanks for reading. We're glad our tips have helped in some way.

U read mines Gabe

U read mines Gabi

Hie thanks a lot this really inspired me will try my level best to make it work with my mom

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Very good 😊

Hi Collin. Thanks for reading our stories and being inspired to change the relationship with your mother. Good luck!

sometimes I wish I could move out of house and live somewhere because I and my mom we r always fighting ...my she is abusive .. she always insult me wit my father who dead long tym ago and that thing it doesn't make me feel good .....since I have sleeped wit a guy and told my mom about that .......she always have heavy thoughts about me and I don't like that she think that I wanna have sex wit every guy am dating few weeks we were fighting . she insult me and insult her back but I did that over the phone ....pls help me because sometimes I think if killing my self .....I have once go to church ...and they told me that in weeks I will fighting wit someone and that was my mom and they told me that I will feel like killing my self or running away from home

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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My dear , I know what you're going through , see my lady try to sit down with your mom , she's your mom by the way ,sit down with her tell her your emotions make her understand thy what's she's doing is not good kneel down ask for forgiveness , ask even God to forgive you what you did was wrong insulting her its very wrong , this shall pass I will even pray for you okay , get your life straight and don't forget to talk to your mom

Just be still and know that he is God,this situation u are in will pass away...

Hi slay. Thank you for sharing this with us, it's very brave of you and we're sorry you're having to go through this experience. It's important for you to know that what's happening is in no way your fault. I'm sorry that youand your mother have a difficult relationship, but there are people and places you can go to for support. You amazing first step by telling us. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. The service is completely confidential - you don't even need to give them your name if you don't want to. They will help you think through your options and work out what the best next steps are - you can do this over the phone, in person and online. You can contact them any time of the day or night on their Toll Free Helpline on 08 000 55 555 or check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za

Some times i feel the exact same way but we just have to stay strong don't worry ther are many people out there who love u like me i love u lots don't let the haters bring u down love

My mom and I we are frightening a lot ,but I love her she is my role model,my Queen,my mentor...

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Mokgeledi. That's great. Glad you two could work it out!

Mom's are important, they are the only support system we have. They love us unconditionally even if we fight and hurt them with our dumb actions they always there for us and they love us through thin and thick I love my mom so much.

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

Whàt if he pretend to love and be so carrying about u

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

hey its that easy with my mom I fine it hard to talk to her even with the smallest things like I've reached my periods its hard to open up coz she judges everything I doing without asking me why im doing it

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Springster, mother-daughter relationships are complicated. Talk to your mom about being on your period because she's been through it too. This could be the thing that brings you closer. But prepare for the fact that she may not be as supportive as you'd like but don't let that stop you from telling her.m

Hi i find it very hard to talk to my mom as she is one of those moms who r very paranoid she checks my messages she dominates me for everything she expects me to be perfect but she as an adult should know tht nobody can or is perfect i am just so sick of her she told me tht if ivget a boyfie she will kill me she doesn't even allow me to talk the way peo-me my age do i can't be the way she wants me to coz I'm still immature after all I'm just 12 turning 13 next year in April

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Pks reply gabi I'm really confused nw

Hi donalee28. Thanks for sharing your comment. Sorry that you're having a difficult time with your relationship with your mother. Strict parents are the way they are because they are concerned about you and your well being. Being your age means you have to abide by your parents rules and regulations. If she wants to check your phone from time to time that's fine she wants to make sure you aren't engaging in risky behavior online and in your interactions with other people and that's completely normal. Just stick with it and prove to her you can be trusted then maybe oyu can have a discussion with her about giving you more freedom. Good luck.

My mom is also like yours😒

Ameerah

My mom is the same

I really want my mom to be my best friend but I can't we always fight its lyk my mom is against me,again its like,my mom doesnt appreciate want I do which makes me angry and unwanted ,sometimes I feel lyk hurting my self what can I do

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Springster, thank you for your comment. You are not alone, many girls have tricky relationships with their moms. You can try talking to her and telling her exactly how you feel and what it is that makes you feel that way. Or you can talk to another trusted adult and le them know how you feel. Good luck Springster!

It never easy to share things with my mom ,it just make everything worse and i lack trust for her.

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi masembo33. Eish! Mothers! We love them but it just seems like there’s no way to make them understand us. Arg! But you know what we’ve also discovered? Everything you are going through now, they’ve experienced before. Still, talking to mom can be a bit scary, so What’s a girl to do? Find a topic that will make her laugh or smile, like something silly that she says you used to do when you were a kid. If you can’t think of a memory, talk about her favourite TV show. If you want someone’s attention, don’t approach them when they’re busy with someone or in a hurry to get somewhere. The same applies to talking to your mom about sensitive issues. Tell her that you have something important to talk to her about and when she will have time to give you her full attention.

I need help!! I have a bf but my mommy does not allow to date boys wat do I do ?

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi girlygirl. Thanks for your comment. I think maybe discuss with your mother the idea of dating and see what she says. She's just trying to look out for you and your best interests. I wouldn't recommend dating behind her back she might feel very betrayed when finding out you were being dishonest. So speak with her. Good luck

һєʟʟo spяıňɢsţєяs,ı ѧm sċѧяєԀ oғ mʏ mom ɞєċѧusє,sһє ѧʟɰѧʏs ʏєʟʟs ѧţ mє ѧňԀ ɰһєň ı ňєєԀ ţo ţѧʟҡ ţo һєя ѧɞouţ somєţһıňɢ ţһѧţ ı mıɢһţ ňєєԀ ѧň ѧԀνıċє ,sһє Ԁoєsň'ţ ,sһє oňʟʏ sһouţs ʟıҡє ı ѧm ѧ ɞѧԀ pєяsoň.....ňo ı ɢıνє up now

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

I live with my mom and dad but am afraid to talk to my mom and she doesn't talk to me about life stuff

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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You are not alone in that girl.... I also am going through the same thing

You are not alone in that girl.... I also am going through the same thing

You not alone on this girl.......coz am also going through the same but am lucky that I have a granny so I do talk to her about my personality than after that she will tell me what to do so don't stress your self we here for you

My mom is my everything, I usually share my problems with her and she understands me better than anyone, she's always there for me no matter the situation. She's my mom and my best friend.I LOVE U MOM N I'M BLESSED TO HAVE A MOM LIKE HER....😇😇

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hey Promise, thanks for your comment. Your mom sounds awesome!

My mom and I don't really have a relationship ,when she come from work she is on her phone all the time .What should I do ? please help

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hey Layla, thanks for your comment. You can try connecting with your mom by making her a handmade gift and chatting about something that she finds interesting. Those are small ways that you can open the gates for communication.

Nihan

Tell her how you're dying and longing for her attention

Me and my mom get along buh I'm scared to talk to her about who I am dating I jst dont know how to bring up that topic...plz help what should i do

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

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Hi Llowndie. thanks for your comment. It's understandable that you'd be anxious about telling your mother about who you're dating. Here's an article to help you better communicate with your mom http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-life/relationship-goals-me-and-mom/

My mom lives in JHB. I don't really talk to her that much. I don't feel comfortable when ever I'm talking to her it feels like I'm talking to a person I don't know

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

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Hi Zama60. Thanks for sharing your comment. It's not always an easy relationship dynamic between mothers and daughters and it's unfortunate that you feel uneasy about opening up to your mom. Here's an article I think you should read http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-life/moms-word/

I've trying to regain trust from my mom but things are not working out please help.....hope this will give me some patience to rebuild my relationship with mom

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

Hi guys am 17 years old so I need an advice how should I tell my mom am dating a 27 year old guy n I luv this guy a lot but am so scared to tell my mom wat if she get angry plz help

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

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Cjay.... since you can't talk to your mom I think you should sometimes leave your phone without passwords near her cause somehow she will be interested going through your conversations that's where she'll discover that you are dating this guy.... And she maybe will start wanting to know who this guy is and how old he is.... Plz gal tell her the truth.... And if she asks you why you don't tell her that you are seeing someone 10 years older than you... Tell her that she never tells you which age group people must you date.... So you do what think is best for yourself

Hi Serah. Thanks for sharing your comment. Dating older guys can be tricky especially because they have more life experience than you. I'd say it's good to be in love but it's even better to follow your instincts. There are boys out there who you can date closer to your age as well. My advice is to go with you gut and to never do anything you aren't 100% comfortable with. Perhaps you are afraid of telling your mother because you know she won't approve of it and that she'll encourage you to end things. If you're really in love then you should speak to your mom and be honest. Good luck

hey guys I need help...I think my mom just found out that I'm dating she has been told by one of our neighbours that i was standing with a boy...my mom is acting strange she has been shouting at me at every single thing nd looks at me different but she hasn't talked to me about because my father is around ...I'm scared she might tell him...I really don't know what to do to make her trust me

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

Thank you for these tips ♡

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

Hy guys" actually my mom is no more,i leave with my aunt like she make a fuss out of nothing' sh lik to accuse me of things dt i ddnt do lik,so we end up fighting n i cnt say am sorry

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

Hy guys" actually my mom is no more,i leave with my aunt like she make a fuss out of nothing' sh lik to accuse me of things dt i ddnt do lik,so we end up fighting n i cnt say am sorry

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growing up I was a trouble sum kid,I fought with my mother uncountable times because of my reckless behavior then.I would stay about a week without talking to her because she told my frie,steal money she worked hard for to entertain friends, get in trouble at school an bring her reputation down

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even though I did all those things she still loved me,and I could see the hurt on her eyes of my bad behavior but never thought how it affected her .right now I must say after all hell I've put her through um proud to call her MY MOTHER because she loved me unconditionally regardless of everything I've done she stood strong to see me become a better person. crying at night when everybody is asleep because of my behavior, talking to neighbors to help her with me and all the pain I've caused her is nothing in her eyes compared to the relationship I am trying to build with her now ....I must say I appreciate the love, care and support above all love dat she has shown n is still showing me

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

Eish my problems is that I dnt get girls how are respected to me so wht I must do other's they use my as I hv lots of money why?!

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I think that u should just ignore these girls and all will be alright

That is show true i really love the nice story.This makes me think of myself really.Whe need too Respect our Mothers Our Parents.

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

Hi guys am mbalenhle am 14 yrs old I'm dating this guy called paseka this is our second time dating my mother doesn't wanna see me dating so I'm confused why not cause I love this guy please help me I am even starting to hate my mom for not wanting me to be happy I once tried committing suicide becoz of this ppl plz help me what can I do to tell my mom am dating?

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Oh gal, I've been there n trust me, ur mom knows it all n she knows what's best fr u...she can never do things to hurt u she's only protecting u cz she knows how relationship's work....trust her opinion

Nah .. I don't agree with you on that Sisani ... You know our parents like to compare us to themselves .. Just because she maybe got you at a young age or has seen people who are impregnated at a young age turns to think that you'll do the same thing not knowing what her actions may lead to because now you'll start lying to her and end up not telling her when you are engaging in sexual activities and because you know nothing about you become pregnant ... All started with you saying you're doing this so your mom can see you're a grown girl now

ok gal hence ur age hve been seen or mention bi u gal.i think at ur age u mst nt commit ur self into boys nd on mi second thought ur mom knows da situation or challenges dat u may cme through hey which may ur mom as a parent to advise nd dat age of urs it da where purberty stage is gng to control u

My mom is a non care mother I want to kill myself because she always drinks and she wants to care when she wants too

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Talk to her about what is bothebothering you and ask her to tell you, what you have to do when she comes home drunk

My mom is a non care mother I want to kill myself because she always drinks and she wants to care when she wants too

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Your background never determine who u are, at the end of the day, she's still ur mom...be that change n light to her, show her love so she will feel guilty for neglecting u....talk to her about how u feel. All the best

thats brilliant

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

Pls ii rly need advice I'm turning 19 thiis yr. I live with her. My mom can support me financially, things ii need for my education... she is there to gimme money. I appreciate tht bt the problem is with my emotional being. She can really break my heart. She ignores sometimes n wen ii confront her she denies it. She is not a hugging person and she can't comfort me when I'm crying. Another day I told her and came crying to her bCos it really hurts me and she was just quiet... She said nothing.I rlly think he doesn't love me, she's just supporting me financially to be seen as a good mother.

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

Well what if your mom kicks you out the house then begs for you to come back, all because of jealousy..and may I say its the 2nd time this has happened???

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

Thanks for the advice...but sometimes it is not easy to just talk anything with her although we are very close

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True its just sad caz i as a single parent did try everything for my girl now i chased hee away

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Mom is a pillar of strength. Having a good relationship with her it's the best But sometimes mothers gets to be annoying

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True Esihle..sometime mothers get to be annoying..for an example my mother always treat me like i'm still a child...she doesn't understand dat am a teen..n that mean i have my own rules§but i still love her 😍she's my African Queen💞💘

I have a good relationship with my mum and we share everything. My mum is my best friend and someone I can talk to about anything and someone I can trust with my secrets. My mum does not judge me but gives me good advice and I don't regret one day of taking her advice. #love #support #respect #honesty

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Wow that's nice i just wish it was like that with my mom ..........like my mom is very open but i don't think she has to know my secrets ..but i hope we will be much closer when im older

well I don't stay with my mom and I'm not saying she has are burned me because for her if she has given me money it like she has done everything....mmm I wish I could spend time with her

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Mom's aren't always there for you.... Me nd my mom we are like so alike yet different she always yells at me calls me names and even swear... She thinks I'm this slut child stupid dumb child. She thinks I'm already dating yet I'm not Yes I'll be 16 this year but that doesn't mean I'm a bad person I help her in everything she does she never thanks me.... I like to experience and learn about a lot of stuff I do talk to my friends but I don't feel safe to talk to them I crushed on a guy at school and for months 🏫 I still like him I mean I'm lonely I don't know how to get my feelings out for this guy and surely my mom I'd not the

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My mom is not the person to talk to heeeelp😥😥😥😥

Maybe you should sit down with her and tell her how you are feeling

My mom is my best friend , I'm delightful with our relationship , I'm open with her , I spend most of my time with her while I don't like crowd because I enjoy my own company and I feel like it's a good thing to have an open with the person who borne you she actually knows everything about you & I feel like she can play a big role in your life that will keeps you on the right road and she is all about knowing you

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

My mom doesn't understand me she doesn't let me enjoy myself sometimes with friends at a party or something and she always yells me and not my lil sis

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

My mom doesn't understand me she doesn't let me enjoy myself sometimes with friends at a party or something and she always yells me and not my lil sis

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Like my mom

My mom always does dat n its hurts me cos we always make the same mistakes but my lil sister is always THE PERFECT DAUGHTER ...n I feel unimportant to her n the rest of the family....whenever I go n hang out wit the girls she yells at me so much dat I feel like ending my life .....but whenever my lil sister goes out nothing happens...i feel like mom doesn't love me dat much ...at some times she says that she only has one daughter n dat is my lil sister....nothing seems to be going good in my life ....everyone turns their backs at me....what will become of me?😭😭😭

When you in love with someone you like him very much do not send him what you do your family Like you very much

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Hey Ntshipa, thanks for the comment!

Tips on how to convince a girl #relationship #love #topics

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

I have a problem....my mom doesn't like the guy im currently dating...i tried telling her dat I love dat guy n he loves me too...i just cannot leave him but she thinks dat she should be the one who chooses some1 for me ....i don't know wat to do becos mom was the only person I talked to whenever I'm in trouble ....i just can no longer ask her for advice bcos she judges everything I tell her ....she judges me for the mistakes I made in the past n I don't like dat.....it feels like mom has turned against and I end up trying to do stupid things...what should I do to solve this ????

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Mom shouldn't be choosing for you cause in the end ull end up in a love less relationship all she need to do is support i suggest u shouldn't talk about him when you with her

But my mom does,nt take my apology what can I do

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

Mom is so important person in a child's life make sure you make mom your bestie trust me you'll never go wrong

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I think that I will love to just have a nice time with my mom

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Hi me nd my mom we ddnt hv a good relationship, she used to call me names in front of my young brother telling me um an abortion child nd i would cry myslf to sleep evry day nd i ended up dating older men bcz my dad ddnt me nd where i was raised thinkng they were my fam da so called father abused me wth words nd i decided to date older men cus i would cook nd they ate nd pour mine wth a soapy water i regret evn today bt i had no choice thnx

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Hi guys I'm new here and I joined in coz I think its time to share my story...at the age of seven my mother stopped giving me attention and got abused. I had to take care of myself coz she was too busy loving another man,but I still love her because I care for her even though I feel that she doesn't. I deserve better. I can't even be happy with my bf because every time I visit him she ends up asking me to do favors,expecting me to come back home within two days. I fight a lot with him because we don't spend enough time together,I'll never disrespect my mother because I will not allow my daughter to do it to me. I'm stressed because I'm loosing hope for my bf and I to carry on,cause I came across things he does behind my back.

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That's very painful

Hi,my mom is dating a man in the same street where we live and am so scares bcoz if my friends find out about what my mom is doing they gonna call Mii some kinda bad names ,my 2 brothers don't know about this and they always share secrets with me ,do u think am being far by not telling them ??

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Scared* Fair*

u should tell ur brothers Cuz at the end of the day they are going to find out n be angry at u that u didn't tell them...as for ur friends ...if they gonna do that to you then they r not ur real friends ...u don't have to keep them

Speak 2 ur 2 brothers and find solution about this matter

Hi Am always arguing with my mom and stuff but this time is worse because we are living with my step dad and he doesn't like me at all. He would always call me by nasty name and tell me that I don't have any perpose in life,the thing is that they both wanna see me doing chores all the time (I mean they want me to clean the house ,wash the dishes and cook for them...the worst part is that they don't care about my school work but at the end of the year my mom expect a pass from my school report) What should I do because this makes me sick

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

Hi Am always arguing with my mom and stuff but this time is worse because we are living with my step dad and he doesn't like me at all. He would always call me by nasty name and tell me that I don't have any perpose in life,the thing is that they both wanna see me doing chores all the time (I mean they want me to clean the house ,wash the dishes and cook for them...the worst part is that they don't care about my school work but at the end of the year my mom expect a pass from my school report) What should I do because this makes me sick

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Talk to an adult u trust or visit childline

How to tell Mom that you've lost your virginity After she has trusted you because you're her only daughter her only hope ??? When she sees a bright future ahead of you.

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I won't even try because she'll be disappointed and you know how they react when we've disappointed them so I think it's for the best to keep quiet until you become an adult so that she can see it by herself.

Nihan

To be honest I'll just keep my mouth shut.

So my mom and I have stayed in separate cities for about 13 years , I'm 17 now I matriculated last year and now I'm taking a gap year and moved to my mom's place . It is extremely hard ,it feels like we don't know each other because I'm so grown now and she missed out on most of my life . And now I've got two baby brothers so now obviously. Most of her attention has to be directed to them which I totally understand. My biggest problem is that we argue all the time , both of us have this fiery personalities and our arguments become ugly . I don't think I totally hate my mom I just feel like there's a lot of healing to be done for both of us . I just want our relationship to be stable because right now I'm picturing my life without her and sadly a part of me feels like I can live without her and that's scary ,I'm not supposed to feel like that . Do you guys think therapy will help or will too many things come out that shouldn't have? Should I just continue this cycle of loving her and then wishing thus year to be over so I can leave and study in another city ?????

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Making your mom, your best friend is the best feeling ever.

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

hey springter. i'm really confused. my mother spends most of her time with her friends drinking and everynight she leaves to go to her boyfriend. i'm not sure if I hate her because of this or if it's just puberty like everyone else says. please help😭

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

hey springter. i'm really confused. my mother spends most of her time with her friends drinking and everynight she leaves to go to her boyfriend. i'm not sure if I hate her because of this or if it's just puberty like everyone else says. please help😭

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Maybe u are embarrassed about the things she do

It is very important to have a relationship with your mother ask me I am talking from experience

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

I need help..my friend and her mother don't get along bcz her mom has married another man which is a stepfather to my frïend. She can't concentrate in class and I really don't like it...plz give me some advice

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Hi springster am starting to hate my mom and i don't know if its her or its me please help

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Hey Springster, moms can be difficult to deal with at times but surely your mother loves you and only wants the best for you. Have a chat with her about how you feel and see how you can work around the things she is doing that are making you feel this way. Open and honest communication is always best.

no it's not right 2 hate ur mom bcz u will need her help next tym n u will never know how 2 do!!!

I was once in the sme problem

Love and Respect your mom

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That's very true. Thanks for the comment Springster.

guys I love my mother coz she sacrifices a lot for me .so all of us must love our mother's

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That's true, mothers do make a lot of sacrifices for us. It's awesome to hear that you have such a great relationship with your mom Springster.

guys I love my mother coz she sacrifices a lot for me .so all of us must love our mother's

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That's true, mothers do make a lot of sacrifices for us. It's awesome to hear that you have such a great relationship with your mom Springster.

That's gud to hear dear

That's painful

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my mom hate me and my son and she loves my brother and his 3 children.my mom always abuse me emotionally ,always call me names say that I'm a fool.she even sold me to their best friend because she don't wanna buy my sons diapers BT she buys my brother's 3 children.I even sold my soul to older men seeking for the love that I didn't get at home and also hustling for my son its really painful living in this house sometimes they eat meet and dish me tomatoes only so now I have developed some hatred,cold heart,I don't have friends I always lock my self Into a room trying to commit suicide.can you plz help me?

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Look anonymous what you're going through is very sad😔 If you believe in God,you gotta pray about your situation. He'll take care of everything only if you believe in Him. See friends and family will leave you when things go South but He won't leave you. I'm sorry about you giving yourself to older men but please stop doing that,you're a mom now act like a responsible person and make your child to be proud of you one day. Imagine if your childs hears what you've been doing. It'll kill the child,emotionally. I'm sure you have other family members,if they don't want to help then try the baby daddy's family. You might leave your child with the family and look for a job then once you're able to look after yourself you take your child. It's no longer about you but the baby now. Just be strong dear!!!

Anonymous, I understand where you're coming from, what you're going through is tragic but the first step into changing your life is making decisions that will not affect your son, clear up your image, seek for jobs anywhere so you're able to purchase your needs, take care of your son, don't do to him what your mom did to you.... Sure suicide seems like the easy way out but but you have a baby to think about... My advise to you sweety is to plan everything out, send as many CVs as you can and I promise you, you'll find a job, which will be a start to a better life

Nihan

What you're going through is very sad,and it's clear yr mom loves yr brother more than you,but don't depend on ma,try to be independent for you and yr kids so that you can buy diapers for them.I'm sure you also wish and want to live a good life and you can,weather you have matric or not

despite the fact that your mom abuse just be thankful that you have a son who doesn't abuse you , so which means you n your son make a great team to Rock your world n live to the fullest

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

My mom keeps yelling at me and makes like everything is my fault what should I do?

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

My mom keeps yelling at me and makes like everything is my fault what should I do?

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My mom is so against the fact of me dating, and always tend to choose friends for me which i get frustrated about. I can't talk bout my mom about anything especially if ii need someone to talk to or need advice because she thinks I'm small or I dont know our relationship is just so weird, what should I do ?

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hello everyone my mom is always against me she ialways shout at me she always see the bad things l do she never comments the goodthingethings that l do . l coOK wash the dishes but no she never appreciate she even called me a witch when my little sister got sick . sometimes she said l wanted to kill her for cooking bad food for her can you believe it guys l feel like an outsider in my on home sometimes l feel like ending my life so what should l do guys should l tell her about the way l feel and about the way she treats me plz tell what to do

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

My mom is always shouted at me because I get low marks and when I start to data she always against me

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I also have a problem with my mom we don't get along when she's sober nothing goes wrong but when she's drunk she likes to fight I don't know why that really hurts me because I end up saying things that I was not supposed to say. I end up regretting.

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I have a very good relationship with my mom..she's supportive BT when it comes to me with dating, she is against that.she doesn't understand that this is a stage that everybody get to.what should I do to convince her?

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Hey Springster, sometimes it can be really hard to convince people to think differently about something. Your mom probably doesn't want you to date because she thinks it will have a negative impact on your studies and your future. If you are going to decide to date despite what your mother says you still need to have someone like a trusted adult that you can trust and talk to about boys and dating. Find someone like a teacher, relative or counselor to discuss dating and to update when you are going through dating problems or when you want advice.

I wish my mom could be my bestfriend but things haven't been working out between us.. To such as extend that she kicked me out.. I remember that night till now I cried my lungs out.. I stay alone.. Renting and doing matric .. Depression is slowy talking my life.. I always wanted things to work out between us.. But nothing worked out till now.. To such an extent that I do everything for my self ..I REALLY NEED HELP

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Hey ShantieeJoY, thank you for sharing your story with us. Your well being means so much to us, so thank you for being so brave. Many people experience tension with their family, and sometimes it can affect their emotional health, so, it's totally normal for you to be feeling this way. If you feel like you are depressed right now, you have to make yourself your first priority. See if you cannot reach out to a family member that you can trust. Also, Counselling and therapy is super important when it comes to mental health. Sadly, we can't speak to you directly but you can call the counselors at Childline SA. They offer counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Ohhh thanks a lot to Springster I did as you said and got all the help I needed I'm now happy safe and I feel wanted because I have a new family that treats me as their own I forgave my mom and I do communicate with her whenever I can #SpringsterSaveMyLife

Hey everyone!♡ I won't lie, my mom is pretty difficult. She never listens to my opinion or to what I have to say. She always thinks she right and I'm always wrong. She prefers to listen to what other people say about me, then she jumps to her own conclusions without listening to my part of the story. Her trust levels towards me is zero. I really try to be my mother's friend but I can't. Please someone help me. Tnx❤

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Hey crzyteen, thank you for sharing your story with us. It can be really difficult for some parents to a bit more understanding with their children. For some children, it takes a little more effort to connect with their parents. If you are saying that it's hard for your mother to trust you, then perhaps you can try proving to your mother that you can be trusted. However, make sure not to overwhelm yourself with pressure to prove yourself to your mother. While working on your relationship with your mother, make sure you have another trusted adult figure that you can get support from and that you can speak to. You can talk to a teacher, a relative or maybe even an older sibling. If you can't, then you can always call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information. All the best Springster.

hi guys l have just join springster now .l need advice what should l do .l don't know what happens to me sometimes l just become sad for trival matters so it happens again the last few days and l stopped talking to anyone .my mom didn't ask me what was wrong and the following day she was ignoring me until now l tried to talk to her,doing chores to make her happy but nothing changes . this not the first time it happens most of the time even last year on christmas. what hurts me the most is that it was my first christmas with her that day it wasn't my fault she just become angry without listenig to what l have to say. yes she does everything for me but still its not enough because a child needs mothers love .l have lived 15 years without her so we dont know each other so well .sometimes she does or say hurtful things to me that l could even Think of commiting suicide. that is because l love her so much l can't bear to see her angry with me. she is not someone who will forgive you when you apologise sometimes l wonder if she loves me or she only love her two sons what should l do .because l can't even apologise

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Hey everyone, i must admit i do love my mom but I'm not sure if i understand her. She's gets moody now and then and that stops me from talking to her. Please tell me how do i cool her down or how do i open up to her?

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