#NoShame

What to do if you are being sexually shamed online.

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Taking sexy pictures and video of yourself seems harmless. But you need to be careful because something you think is harmless, like sending a sexy video or picture of yourself dressed in only your underwear to bae, can end up on Facebook, Twitter and WhatsApp.

People laugh at you, make fun of your body and call you nasty names. You feel guilty and ashamed, and start believing that it was your fault. However, it’s never your fault if someone puts your sexy pictures and video on social media without your permission. If you are under the age of 18 - whether you agree to it or not - posting or sharing sexual pictures featuring a minor is against the law.

When people post, share or use sexual pictures or videos of someone who is underage it’s called child pornography. This includes pictures or videos of you undressed, having sex or describing you in a sexual manner.

If this happens to you, the first thing you should do is to tell an adult you trust. The people sharing or posting the material are breaking the law and so you can go to a police station to open a case, if you feel comfortable to do so. The police should investigate such a case and if the offenders are charged and found guilty, they can go to jail.

Remember you are not alone. Reach out to a trusted adult if you need someone to talk to. It could be that you are being pressured into sending an inappropriate photo or maybe you’re being bullied into doing something that doesn’t make you feel comfortable. Don’t keep it to yourself.

You can also speak to a Lifeline counsellor to help you deal with feelings like anger and shame, should something be making you feel bad or sad. Counselling is available 24/7 at their toll-free line, 0861 322 322.

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Ziyand

No shame at all ❤️❤️

Aug. 30, 2022, 7:14 p.m.

Pulane

#no shame😘😘

July 24, 2022, 1:59 p.m.

thats true

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Telling de thrut

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

I ddnt knw yaz that if u r posting vedio or photo whithout that prsn prmsn u r breking de law

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

What can I do if me n my bae are always fighting for lame reasons?

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

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Communication is very important in relationships. Arguing and fighting usually happen even over lame reasons if there are misunderstandings and miscommunications. Suggest better ways of resolving issues like speaking about it in person and compromising for one another.

Just take a deep bteath,go outside for a little fresh air or just walk away

It always happens to me n him but why, I don't know

Yah...People post everyday these things

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

I think everybody should have their own privacy

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

I'm new and i think everybody should have their own privacy!!!!!

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

I do love taking pictures with bae bt he get bored

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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What does he get bored of

Why is he bored ?

Twerk for him without panties and sit on his face.he wont ever get bored

Tshedza

Why is he bored get naked girl

that is a serious shame and it disappointing if it was someone you love and trust who has done that particular shame to u it not a nice thing not at all

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Yes i agree cause if someone that loves u must shame u online then there is no loyalty n trust in that relationship

Yes it is a shame

l also l agree...yu know tht also make yu tu never trust any1 in any relationship onwards

sex is something that 2 people agree to do it responsably many sometimes for fun because i would

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

sex is ment for two people that love one other and want to share that feeling between them and I think that you should not feel shame the person that put you there should feel shame

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

I actually enjoy taking pictures with bae, some of them are nude n som are not but usually we take pics in public n I use them as my profile pictures on Facebook n WhatsApp I'm not ashamed of him he's my man n I'm his woman. I don care what ppl have to say I'm jus happy in my relationship♥

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Thanks for your comment. Just a little advice on taking inappropriate picures and sharing them. People other than the person you intended to see it can find it and share it and that could become a very tricky situation. So just be careful when taking nude images with your boyfriend and keep your settings private. Remember to never do anything you aren't 100% comfortable with.

Gabi answered you very well ....just to add ,whatever you put in social network always comes back to hunt you later so be careful

I don't know what is it , but I do a solo sex evrytime

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Are you referring to touching yourself? That's completely normal and safe and you shouldn't be embarrassed. It's okay!

So do one for me

Bathabile45

That's called masturbating its normal

Really

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

Really

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

For real guys 😭

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

U can't just go slip with your.boyfriend friend

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

Yeah sometimes your boyfriend might want some nude pictures saying that it's part of the relationship.... Don't ever feel like sending pictures that are uncomfortable to you.....if he loves you then he'll respect both you and your body and he'll wait till your ready to show him and he keeps threatening you that he'll dump you or what ....dear just let him go cause he only wants your nudes not your love and though even if you send him those nudes one day you guys will fight and he'll post those nudes on Facebook and that will haunt you wherever you are so rather BE SAFE THAN SORRY

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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That's great hey He better go away then

Thank you for all the info i always take nudes but never send them to anyone🙂

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

My only way to ascape death is through death itself.. comment with some lines

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

My boyfriend always say I must send him nudes or twerking videos... Which I like but after reading this,its disturbing.He will get mad if I stop sending them wat must I do?

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

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Then he is just going to have to be upset because it is your body so he can't tell you what to do

If u don't want to continue sending those kinda pictures💦then STOP!! Cuz that's your body,and u have a right to say NO!💥so if u really love him,he will understand/just tell him u cant continue sending the pics😿😖cuz u starting to feel uncomfortable😖😿💥...that's it💩...

I really feels that sending those pictures comes from us being insecure I feel that a lot and its not something to boast about but it can be of lack of self -esteem at the moment it feels like a need cause girls might look for love at wrong places ,we can't fully blame the person who sends the pics those who sends the pics are also to blame unless its another situation hope who ever reads this get my point of view .

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Hi Tassie107, we are glad you have such a strong point of view, although we hope you don't mind us disagreeing with you. Making decisions about your own body is important because it shows that you have freedom of choice and control when it comes to your own body. When people think that the things you have chosen to do with your body have to do with a lack of love for yourself or no self-esteem it can make you feel unnecessarily shameful and take away the feeling of control you thought you had over your body. It's important to not make people feel ashamed or or less worthy because of the decisions that they make with their own lives! We hope you can understand our view too :)

So sharing and posting vedios and pictures of children under 18 having sex or just nudes is illegal And can lend someone in jail right? What about the kids that are under 18 having sex,is it not statutory rape? Are those children not to be arrested too? Help me to understand

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Having s** is your choice💥and if you are older and you've seen kids at the age of 10-15 having S**,don't disturb them, let them finish💫what they started.Then when they done, go talk to them...💫

Having s** is your choice💥and if you are older and you've seen kids at the age of 10-15 having S**,don't disturb them, let them finish💫what they started.Then when they done, go talk to them...💫

Hi everyone, I just want to share something with you guys, I'm now in a relationship with a boy and I love him so much, and we have sexuality life active and he is very kind with me, but now I moved to South Africa and he is in another side of the world (Angola where I was living), and now we don't have sex because me and he we're far away from each other,and sometimes I feel that I need to send him nudes and stuff like this, and he like, I do it because I feel that it will make our sexuality thoughts active, so what must I do? Keep it? Or stop doing it? I need help.

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

hei everyone I just want to know if it's safe for your boyfriend to have your sex tapes and nudes even though you've been together for years?

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Hey Pear45, taking and sending nudes is definitely a personal decision. Whether the other person is to be trusted or not is the difficult part. Remember to communicate to your boyfriend how you feel about keeping the pictures private because they are something personal and not to share with everyone.

It's not safe girl if u broke up with him he can expose u

No gal thats not safe

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Hi...everyone.I'm 19 and my boyfriend does not want to abstain from sex and he suggested that I go to the clinic to prevent pregnancy since condoms can burst. Well, I'm not sure about it since I've heard of the consequences and my mother is against it. I don't know what to do, please help before it's too late.

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Star prevention is better...not saying you must stop using a condom cause it also prevent HIV and other diseases ...it is better to be safe than sorry

yes they make fun off people

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

hi everyone l need your help..am 25 yrs,can l ask if Am having sex with my boyfriend and l dnt have feels , l dnt feel anything or to produce any thing l dnt n its not the first tym am doing this even with my first boyfriend..help

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Jst thnk about u will knw wats right 4 u

Jst thnk about u will knw wats right 4 u

say no

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hey guys I'm 21years old and I'm really becoming an addicted to sex. Me and my ex boyfriend use to have sex every weekend cause during the week he is working...He always licked my pussy before sex and we never used a condom and every time he spermed on me and one day he he didn't pull out and spermed in me mara the tests came back negative that was before I started preventing and my HIV tests were negative too ...Mara every time I eat I feel like vomiting

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hello guys M 16 gonna turn 17 soon. .well I think I'm ready to have sex with my boyfriend but m not really sure 😢. .all my friends did it n well m craving 4 it too What should I do

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Well @Tobakko First of all having sex, shouldn't be based on the fact that (all) your friends already had it. It should be something that comes within your own decision. Because at the end of the day, your the one having sex and not your friends having sex on your behalf. But most of all it should be something you won't regret at the end of the day. But before you think of doing that, make sure that your relationship with your bf is something that is stable and promises that there is a future between you two. Cause you don't wanna have sex with a guy who goes around sexing any/everything that moves and has a puccy. You would rather have sex with a guy who at least respects you enough to have it with you and you alone. Take the right decision that will make you happy at the end of the day. - TeddyTouch_TT

Hello gyz I want girlfriend for anyone this is series gema

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

I want to share my story

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Ntombizethu

You may share it

I'm looking for a friend

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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We are here friend

Am also here hey