How to nurture relationships with your strict parents/guardians

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Parents, we love them for taking care of us but sometimes communicating with them can be difficult. Some parents are easy going and give you a bit of freedom, others can be strict and difficult to reason with. If your parent is the second kind then communication can often break down. We’ve got some tips that you can use to start a healthy relationship with your strict parent.

Meet on mutual territory

Talking about topics that interest both you and your parent can be a gateway to starting a healthy relationship. Try to talk to your parent about things that they enjoy as well. Ask them about their day and how they are doing. You will be surprised to see how much they warm up when they notice that someone genuinely cares about them. Ask for stories of their youth and get them talking about who they were when they were younger. Nostalgia always tends to put adults in a good mood.

Do activities that you both enjoy

Spend some time bonding with your parent by doing activities that you both love. It doesn’t have to take much time or money. You can help you parent by washing the car or doing the dishes Watching TV also counts as a bonding experience. Spending time with someone gives you an opportunity to get to know that person better and this helps you understand them better.

Do something nice

Your parent is often overworked and tired. You can do something small to show that you care. This may seem irrelevant but by showing that you care, you change the mood of your parent for the better. And a happy parent is a more open parent.

When establishing a relationship with your strict parent, remember that timing is everything. If you don’t time your approach perfectly, you may damage your relationship further. Try not to approach your parents with sensitive topics when they are busy or in a grumpy mood. Soften them up with mild conversation before bringing in the heavier topics.

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Looking For Tips On How To Tell My Strict Parents That I'm Now Dating..How Can I Tell Them In Good Manner..??

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

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Hi Springster, talking to your parents can be hard. Try making an appointment with your mom, dad or both of them. Tell them that there's something that you've been thinking about that you would like to discuss and give them a date. On the day of the meeting you going to do something called, "the sandwich". Your start with telling them that you want to make them proud (it's important to stress), don't want o disappoint them and that you're focused on doing well in school. But you also need peers and to connect with people outside of the family and school. Then you tell them that you are dating. Stress that your relationship will not affect your education and that you are still determined to do well and make them proud and hope that this doesn't change their opinion of you. End off with telling them that if you grades falter or if you veer off course you will stop seeing your boyfriend. Because all you want is for them to be proud of you. You can also bring along someone in the family that you consider to be an ally who will have your back during the conversation and mediate. Also be prepared that things may not go as you'd like.

My mom is the second kind of nature. Getting her to talk about sensitive topics is like trying to keep a dog from bucking. Yes I do love love my mom,and she encouges me about my studies and the good Lord.But sometimes I really just want us to talk about girl stuff,be best of friends,take walks together.But the more I try to build a relationship with her,its like am making things worse..I really don't know what to do anymore.

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

My mom is the second kind of nature. Getting her to talk about sensitive topics is like trying to keep a dog from bucking. Yes I do love love my mom,and she encouges me about my studies and the good Lord.But sometimes I really just want us to talk about girl stuff,be best of friends,take walks together.But the more I try to build a relationship with her,its like am making things worse..I really don't know what to do anymore.

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Hey Springster thanks for your comment. Try talking to your mom about how you feel. She might not know that you see her as unapproachable. Try to also see things from her point of view in order to know how to approach her. Good luck Springster!

My mom is so difficult to tall with becouse first she doesnt want to listen becouse she thinks she's always ryt n sometimes i feel lyk she doesnt me near her so with dat type of attitude i cant communicate with her

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Hey Zendeya, we are sure many other Springsters can relate with you. Many parents feel like their views are right and there is no other way. It's important to get into our parents' heads and understand why parents believe the things they do. Once you understand, show your mother that you are aware of her reasoning and then tell her about what you feel and why too. Meeting your parents in the middle can be help nurture understanding and sympathy in relationships. We know this is difficult, but it's definitely worth a try. Also, you can try talking to other adults that you trust about your mom. Maybe they can help you approach her. We hope this helps you.

my mom is a difficult woman to talk to she's very strict. talking to her about sensitive topics is hard

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

Hi guys i have a problem im pregnant and my b.f have'nt told his family yet.what worries me is that they love the mother of his first child im still hiding when im going to his house

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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if ur man luvs u theres no prob I wish I could be u

if ur man luvs u theres no prob I wish I could be u

my aunt is alwaiz grumpy im scared of talkung to her abt girl's stuff eg going to periods help me

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

My mother is a very strict person she want be to be perfect do all the chores at home and I hate washing dishes I can do all the chores at home but not washing dishes at home even though my granny the way she talks to me its loike they are hating me they always swere at me with strong language

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Hy springsters I hv a strit mother who do not sit down with m and talk about girls staff I stay at home all day if she I not at work she does not allow m to data or go out with friends bt when I got a chance to go out of th house I go and meet my friends or boyfriend and came back home on time if my mother gets to known that I would b home less so I hv to do my things secretly I don't know wht to do plz help m on how to make my mom understand that I hv grown that I'm 17

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Hey Springster, we understand how tough it can be sometimes to have strict parents. Please understand that our parents make some rules in order to protect and keep us safe. If you are finding it difficult to talk to your mother maybe you can tell a trusted adult or sibling and you all can sit down and talk about the issues that are frustrating you. What is important is that you communicate honestly with your mother.

Hy springsters I hv a strit mother who do not sit down with m and talk about girls staff I stay at home all day if she I not at work she does not allow m to data or go out with friends bt when I got a chance to go out of th house I go and meet my friends or boyfriend and came back home on time if my mother gets to known that I would b home less so I hv to do my things secretly I don't know wht to do plz help m on how to make my mom understand that I hv grown that I'm 17

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Hey Springster, we understand how tough it can be sometimes to have strict parents. Please understand that our parents make some rules in order to protect and keep us safe. If you are finding it difficult to talk to your mother maybe you can tell a trusted adult or sibling and you all can sit down and talk about the issues that are frustrating you. What is important is that you communicate honestly with your mother.

Hi Anonymous am Mpumiza and I would like to tell you that you are not alone..My Mom is so much like yours.. She is very much overprotective over me, she tells me am not allowed to go outside, have friends,date and sometimes have friends.. I cant understand why they cant allow us to make mistakes so that we can grow from them.. I am turning 18 in few weeks but it doesn't show the way I am treated.. few weeks ago my Mom found out that I have a Boyfriend and she went crazy on me..she took my Phone, I became grounded for no reason and also I was told to choose between my family and The guy.. like she does everything in her power to make sure that she has control over my life reason being? I don't know.. so dear just be strong and hope for the best..

mine too I am 21 years old I am always indoors I dont even have a boyfriend. one day I durf through internet and I came across sex videos and now I always masturbate I am scared I might lose my virginity plz help how can I stop this?

she mu bestie we are always together I normally obey her rules so that I dont get her crossed

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

I feel rileased

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Pity I don't have any friends as I am not an outdoor person I'd rather be in bed reading something

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

How do you tell your strict parents that your pregnant?

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

How do you tell your strict parents that your pregnant?

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

My mom is really strict , but what can I do to reason with her sometimes?

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

My grandmother doesn't believe in those spiritual church and my friend said that I have a spiritual husband but when I ask my grandmother to go at my friends church she refuse and I haven't told her that I have a spiritual husband and my mother is deaf she won't understand what I'm trying to say please help me sisters

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Hey Beauty217, everyone has different belief systems and no one can stop you from believing in what you want to believe in. If you are not harming anyone with your faith, then we don't see what could be the problem. Find out from your grandmother why she doesn't want you to go to that church and consider her reasons. Explain your reasons as well and maybe even have someone come in from the church if that is appropriate. It's always good to discuss and share both views. At the end of the day, it will be your choice to go or not to go.

Guyz I on had this guy who said he loved ,bit I think for my body😑😑 but my parents think he is a gud guy😐what should I do??

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hey. .I betrayed my parents's trust..I need help restoring that trust back😢😢😭😭😭

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

My mom is very strict and won't let me go out with my friends,How can I get her to let her let me go out with my friends and she does not also want me to get in relationships how can I get let her accept that I am dating?

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Hi Thato2000 We understand that it must be hard to see your friends go out while you are not. Sometimes our parents try to protect us from things which we can't see. Make time and sit with her, tell how you feel.We hope this helps Springster.

Hi there I am 21 years old I just wanted to know how I can make up actually the thing is my parents found out I am on birth controls I wasn't on birth controls for any other reason as they think it is the reason why I was on birth controls was for my weight gain but somehow they just don't believe me at all Nd I don't blame them for not believing me coz anyone could of thort something else because of tht me and my parents aren't talking..because of something stupidity I'm not allowed to go out at all ...I feel like I want to get married

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

My dads very strict I can't go out with friends and I'm not allowed to have a bf ,lots of guys asked me out but then I say yes and we hang out sometimes but he doesn't know and I'm scared to tell him because I think he might think other things about me and I really like some of the guys I dated should I tell him or should I just keep it secret?

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Hey Springster! Sorry for the delay, I had some technical issues. I have hidden your comment to protect your privacy. I am pleased you felt able to share your thoughts, it's a really brave first step. Have you thought about talking to an adult that you can trust about this? This could be anyone from your parents/grandparents, a relative like an aunt, a neighbour or teacher. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can get extra advice from CHILDLINE SA. They can offer you counselling over the phone. You do not need to give your name and can call them 24/7. Their toll free helpline is : 0800 055 555 or check out https://www.childlinesa.org.za/ you will receive the support you need, by a friendly person trained to help you in a confidential way. Take care.

This is such a great thing to know on ur daily basis

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.