Help! I’m sad and lonely

And don’t know where to go.

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Feeling sad and lonely? You’re not alone. It’s normal to feel down. Maybe you’re sad because of something that’s going on in your life, like failing a test or missing a loved one. Or maybe you’re just stressing about your body changes. Here’s what you can do to feel better...

Positive attitude: Remind yourself of all the things that make you amazing, like being kind, not being afraid to start again when you get something wrong; it can be anything that you’re good at. Keeping a notebook also helps. Write stuff that makes you feel great, like motivational quotes about beauty, power and success. Don’t forget to include a list of all the unique things that make you amazing, slayer!

Get a hobby: Join a club or start one. Hanging out with people like us is good for laughs and self-esteem. Let’s say you love reading; start a book club that meets at your local library or at school. You can also try sports and art groups.

Do good: Look around your community. Is there an organisation that needs volunteers? Or try your neighbourhood. Is there an old person who needs someone to help them shop or someone who needs help with homework? Before doing good, remember that your safety comes first. Get an adult you trust, like a parent or teacher, to help you find the best organisation or person to help.

Get it out of your chest: Tell an adult you trust what’s happening inside you. Ask them to help you find counseling (try a clinic or hospital). LifeLine and Childline provide free counseling over the phone at 0861322322 and 0800055555. Their experts are available 24/7

With the right support, things do get better.

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Im a suicidal person, I've tried to kill myself several times and every time I feel depressed I drag a razor on my skin, I just realized that I need help this has become a habit now

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Thank you for being brave and sharing your comment with us. This must be very difficult for you but you don't have to feel alone, there are places that can offer you help. Have you thought about speaking to a teacher, mentor or friend for support. Sometimes sharing why we are sad helps us find solutions from others because we are more alike than we are different. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, depressed or feel alone. They are here to help you! Contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information

Hey girl! Thanks for being brave. Life is precious. Remember temporary solution have permanent consequences. You're important and you're loved!

Yes girl u must belive in ur self?

Hey everyone I'm really struggling because at school I've lost friends even the lamest ones who smoke weed don't wanna chill with me only my boyfriend does. am I boring?

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi creamybutterfly. Thanks for your comment. Losing friends isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes you need to lose friends who aren't good for you and meet friends who have similar interests to you. You aren't boring, don't panic. Many people have had to make new friends growing up and it's part of life. Don't take it too hard, you'll be fine and now maybe focus on your studies because it's the end of the year.

Can anyone help me m 20 years old i hv three year baby this year i was doing my grade 11 but i failed so now i dont know what to do with y life as no one around me and supporting me as i dont hv a family m staying with my baby in a small room paying for rent ...my family baby dont care about her now i just think giving her for adoption can be a solution cz m not happy with the life m living i always cried when i think of my life just some times i think of killing myself but the problem is that where m going to leave my baby as she dont hv anyone else beside me plz if someone can give me an advice that take me out from ths situation plz help cz now i can do it alone please

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Nomcebo. Thanks for sharing your comment with us. It's great that you're still trying to complete school and I think it's important to pursue that dream still, even if you failed you can still do it and pass. With regard to your living arrangements, it must be very difficult to decide what you're going to do and it's not a decision that should be taken lightly. Have you spoken to a teacher, mentor or professional for support? Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but it might be a good idea to talk your feelings through with someone from Childline SA. Give them a call and they will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. You can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Hi I am 19 years old. I have a baby gil at the age of 2 . ever since I gave birth I've lost my confidence when I look at my self and compare to my friends I feel unloved and not part of my peers I just hate myself I've lost weight because of the hatred I carry in my heart everyday. Yes I hate my baby daddy for making me pregnant and ruining my life like this .. Some of my friends have finished school and are now in varsity I am only going to do grade 11 next year.. I just need help in getting my confidence back and loving myself again i and find a way to forgive my baby daddy for the rejection he gave me when I fell pregnant ... Guys plz help me to forgive and forget about every thing

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Philanqo. Thanks for your comment. Here's an article I think you should read http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/girl-stories/mother-16-matriculant-22/ The worst thing you can do is compare yourself to other people. Your journey has been different but that doesn't mean you can't achieve your goals or be successful. Hatred is a negative emotion. You need to remember your power and that you are capable of anything and you can achieve anything you put your mind to. Here's another article you can read to boost your confidence http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-life/your-confidence-check/

Hey Springster, thank you for your comment. You are very brave for sharing how you feel. It is very important that you speak to someone about your body image and how you are feeling. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are suicidal, depressed or feel alone. They are here to help you! Contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

I also have a problem with my family they have totally rejected me at least if I had some support and love at home I would cope but they always judge me call me names I know I've done wrong and I've tried many times to show regret but they always treat me as an outsider Christmas is coming soon and they haven't talked about buying me new clothes or anything of that sort they bought their own things and ignored me I feel left out worse by my own family we are all girls and should be supporting one another but here I am being lonely and unloved when I talk to them they always remind me of my past and show total rejection towards me... How can I make them love me like their own family and understand that I don't need much from them but love and support this really kills me :(

How do you run away from home?I hate my family,everyone in this house.Everyone wants something I have and I hate that,they want the same clothes as me this christmas.Everyone hates me even my parents I can feel it in thee atmosphere.As I'm writing this comment I'm crying and I'm broken.I was accused of stealing in my home by my own mother but I'm only 13 years old.!!!!I just want it all to end I wanna leave I wanna die if I have to.I'm not who they think I am.I am different .I gave my heart to the Lord but even that wasent enough.They judged me .Hated Me.Please help me for I have no one else to talk to.

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Hanli, we are sorry that you have to go through this. Call Childline on 08 000 55 555 (Its free, you don't need airtime) they are there for you should you need someone to talk to.

Hey Hanli... Am a 20 year old guy experiencing the same thing.. It all started so innocent ... We had a fight with my mom.. She lie to me everytime about serious matters.. So I decided to Leave the house for a week.. I thought of a place where there's no human being but just me.. I left my phone and everything home.. Went to the bush.. I wanted to kill myself but someone saw me.. He brought me back home.. That's when I started doing drugs.. They didn't seem to care about me at home.. A month passed by still in drugs. But one day while i was on my way to buy some drug.. I met a Pastor. He told me how dangerous and bad my life is.. He invited me to his church.. I didn't wanna go there but my heart kept pushing me.. I saw myself there.. They prayed for me.. aS we speek am out of drugs.. Am a church goer I got help in the name of Jesus... buT what hurts the most is that Me and my family still ain't close

Hi Hanli and Teebae. Thank you both for your comments. This must be a very difficult time for you both, considering running away from home is a big deal and I think you should both think about speaking to a friend, mentor or professional for support. There are people and places where you can seek assistance. Having people in your life that you can talk to will help you cope with your disappointment, loss, loneliness or sadness. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are suicidal, depressed or feel alone. They are here to help you! Contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

I wouldn't say run. But if you can distance yourself from all that negativity for a bit you'll feel a lot better. Stay with a friend or maybe another family member? For a week or however long it takes for your family to value you for what you are.

You see don't think that no one is with you for god has his times I also had that feeling to run away and I did cozs I am not happy where I was staying but killing yourself is the devils saying don't sell ur life to the devil but to Jesus . Jesus loves you he will give u directions

Hey my name justin u see u don't need to feel lonely for people to care about u but always know that god is always with u . I went through what u are going through its tough but let god fight ur fears,battles n weaknesses don't let any thing come ur way for god is with u when u need help . Take care

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

Hey springster I am 21 years I don't know how I feel.i do have friends but I don't feel comfortable when am with them I only feel loved nd appreciated when am with my family.

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Believe in ur self girl/boy woman/man

hey everyone. I am currently going through a lot in life. I am constantly sad and lonely. And ryt now I think it is safe to say my sadness has turned into depression. I sleep after 3am every night and lately I've noticed that I am having suicidal thoughts.l went to my nearest clinic to ask for help but I wasn't noticed. plz help me coz I know l am tougher than this.

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

I'm 21 years old no friends problem is I've always been very shy so I cudnt myk friends or ,sumtyms I wud push people away who would try to get close to me ,because I felt I would bore them off coz I neva have anything to say ,but now I c da importance of having friends I really need a friend but at this age 21 it's very difficult any advice on how I can make friends at this age.

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Hey Nwabee, we know Springsters who are the same age as you and have felt the same way as you do. You shouldn't worry. What are your interests? Maybe you can join a dance class, go to the library, visit the park or something like that. If you can't figure that out, maybe you can check out our article in the link below. It tells you how you can find friends online. Copy and paste it. We think it will help you. Good luck! http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-life/meet-your-bestie-facebook/

I'm 21 years old no friends problem is I've always been very shy so I cudnt myk friends or ,sumtyms I wud push people away who would try to get close to me ,because I felt I would bore them off coz I neva have anything to say ,but now I c da importance of having friends I really need a friend but at this age 21 it's very difficult any advice on how I can make friends at this age.

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Hey Nwabee, we know Springsters who are the same age as you and have felt the same way as you do. You shouldn't worry. What are your interests? Maybe you can join a dance class, go to the library, visit the park or something like that. If you can't figure that out, maybe you can check out our article in the link below. It tells you how you can find friends online. Copy and paste it. We think it will help you. Good luck! http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-life/meet-your-bestie-facebook/

hey.....life hasn't been perfect lately....im forever crying and im even planning to take my own life😭i nolonger have a relationship with my family....starting with my mother....my older sister and my little sister....everytime wen I try opening up to someone.....all I do is crying.....I'm hopeless...I nolonger see the reason of living....I'm tired spiritually,physically and emotionally...💔 I really need help😪😭

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Hey Kgaugelo20, thank you for being brave enough to share your troubles with us here at Springster. Life and family relationships can be really tough at times. However, tough times do not last. Please take the time to talk to an older sibling, aunt, mentor or teacher. This is important to help you with everything that is making you feel sad, lonely and helpless. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information. All the best Springster!

Hi guys I'm very sad because why my true friend i trust i told her everything about me and my bf and things what is she doing she is telling my staff that is. Not mean to tell her friends now. Im so sad and angry i Trust her i give her everything that she ask from me now. I don't no what to do because i love and care much for her guys. What must i do guys. I need comments guys plz before its to lite

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Sorry

Hi guys I'm very sad because why my true friend i trust i told her everything about me and my bf and things what is she doing she is telling my staff that is. Not mean to tell her friends now. Im so sad and angry i Trust her i give her everything that she ask from me now. I don't no what to do because i love and care much for her guys. What must i do guys. I need comments guys plz before its to lite

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Hey Lottering, sorry for what you are going through. Sometimes people can be unkind and unfair to us in life and that's really uncool. You should consider telling your friend what you felt about what she did. See how she responds and decide if you want o forgive her. It's really good to share details about your life, but try to be more careful about what you share and who you share it with.

what did u say

Hi Springsters. I need closure and help to forgive my grandma. She raised me and I thank her for that. She used to treat me like a slave, doing all the house chores and prevented me from socialising. My older sister and I don't have the same father. So my grandma favours her than me cause she liked her dad, she and my dad have issues and she hates him. Now I feel like I'm being punished due to her sentiments about my dad. I just hate her for all that.

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

M 23 year old...I need help ma family don't love me they treat lyk a visit even ma mummy treat me lyk m not her child,m always lonely crying I even think 2 kill ma self coz I don't see any reason 2 live in this world.. Even ma lil sister don't rspct me now n t really hurt..n I decide 2 leave ma home n I don't feel 2 go back there...I fail even sleep at the night n that make me sick

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Hey Springster, we're so sorry to hear that you are going through so much. Thank you for reaching out to us. It's really brave of you to do so. We feel like it's really important to talk to and communicate your feelings to your loved ones. Perhaps you should communicate these feelings to the people who you feel hurt by because they might not know that they are causing you so much distress. We understand that it would be difficult to do so, but it could help save you and them from losing you. Maybe even talk to another trusted relative, teacher or school counsellor and they might be able to help the situation better. Another great place to go to is Childline SA.They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information. Take care of yourself Springster and know that you are loved.

I sometimes feel lonely and left out because 3 years back I was diagnosed with HIV and now I feel worthless and I sometimes have suicidal thoughts so I don't know if I'm going through depression or what because I get mad easily and I'm sometimes quite and down.

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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HI Carousel, don't forget to use the support system we mentioned to you earlier. It's totally normal for you to be feeling down, but you need to talk to someone to cope with those feelings. Remember your support system can also include your school counsellor or an older relative. You can also always call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

What Babe

Hi there! That's what happened to me back in 2010 when I was diagnosed,but the love and support from family kept me alive and living a positive life.

Hi there! That's what happened to me back in 2010 when I was diagnosed,but the love and support from family kept me alive and living a positive life.

Never ever feel lonely because know that there is someone by your side

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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This is so true!❤️️

It is the truth to us all in the world!!!!!!!!!!

A week ago I was feeling lonely bcz my friend was starting to group herself with other girls at school but just after two days I realised that I didn't come for friends at school but I came to succeed my dream not friends who have expired😢now I'm making new friends and having a new and good status...

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Good

N I would be ur friend n my name is QUEEN KB 2828

I need friends asap like I'm dying of boredom, I'm also a introvert

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Hey Springster, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being an introvert. Spending time alone and indoors is not a bad thing at all. However, if you do feel like you need to get out more then maybe you could consider joining a book club, extra mural activity or any society at school or in the neighbourhood that offers something you enjoy. That way you'll get to meet new people while doing some fun stuff you enjoy and getting better at something you're good at like a sport or cultural activity.

Hi guys I want to share my illtreated by my family they says I must not talk to my friends n they says I must play alone but my sisters n brothers must play n they says I must not eat plz talk to me so I could forget them plz. Love u all.

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Firstly forgive them fr their unacceptable treatment towards u,secondly read ur bible radomly bcuz God duznt desert his own children.pray n dnt expect rapis changes u shuld be patient eventually God will make a way fr u

I am new here don't know what is going on

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

I am new here don't know what is going on

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Hi guys I'm mami when I was doing grade 11 I fell pregnant an I didn't wat a baby so I had an arbotion so I CNT live my life to the fullest what should I do?

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Go see a therapist

Hey Springster, we're so sorry that you had to go through something like this. You should know that you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. It's totally normal to be feeling emotional at this point. The most important thing for you to do is to have some support around you and for you to have someone you can trust with your feelings. Also consider speaking to the counsellors at Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information. All the best Springster.

hy springster my boyfriend n i have been trying for a baby two monthes back i took a pregnancy test and its said invalid but am going on ma periods normal but somtymes i feel lyk puking what is de meaning of all of this?

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Hey Springster, perhaps you can take a pregnancy test again after a week or so. If you are still having the same problem you can always go to your nearest doctor or clinic for a pregnancy test.

hy springster ...I always feel lonely ,,like I'm trapped in a cage alone with the monsters in my mind... I feel like the universe has turned against me....my family tolerate me only because their blood runs in my veins ..they don't support ,care nor love me ...I've attempted to commit suicide more than twice ...and I can't defeat these thought hence I'm still living with the people I'm forced to call family

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

hy springster ...I always feel lonely ,,like I'm trapped in a cage alone with the monsters in my mind... I feel like the universe has turned against me....my family tolerate me only because their blood runs in my veins ..they don't support ,care nor love me ...I've attempted to commit suicide more than twice ...and I can't defeat these thought hence I'm still living with the people I'm forced to call family

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

I always feel alone n sad hopeless and sometimes I say in my heart that I have nothing to live for I don't go out n don't go to town I'm scared to evn go to the nearest shop wen I go to I feel like people are laughing at me

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Hey Springster, thank for sharing your story with us.This is an important first step in getting the support that you need. You really should try approaching a family member or a friend to help by being there for you when you experience sadness. Unfortunately we cannot speak to your directly, but we recommend that you speak to a counsellor. The counsellors at Childline SA. They offer counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Hy guys im namhla ...Guys i feel lonely no one care about me even my own mom today she told me to live the house i dont know where to go ...I tried many times to kill my self ...Guys everyone in my life turn their back on me...I just feel lonely in my life

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Hey Namhla, we really care about your safety so please do not use your real name when commenting online, if you click on the girl icon, in the top left hand corner of Springster, then click update user profile, you can really easily change this to something that helps you remain anonymous and safe! Also, thank you so much for reaching out to us. We think you should try to contact another family member, a trusted neighbour or a schoolteacher to ask for assistance. Please do not be afraid to ask for help in this situation. Once you are in a safe place you can also call Childline SA. They offer counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Look girl I'm gonna advice you to be strong cause I know one day your mom gonna regret all the things she did and said to you just hang in there if your old enough go and look for work and rent a place bb

Look girl I'm gonna advice you to be strong cause I know one day your mom gonna regret all the things she did and said to you just hang in there if your old enough go and look for work and rent a place bb

Hi springster please help I'm not sure if I'm pregnant or not I had an unprotected sex for the first time with my boyfriend we have both tested so I know his status, we brought the morning after pills same day so the following month I went on my periods normal but now I have been having headache everyday and i feel like something is moving in my stomach sometimes I don't know what happening I'm scared to go and check can it be possible that I'm pregnant?

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Please help me people I feel so lonely and always sad its like I am not alive anymore and sometimes I feel like killing myself.... My children are far away from me and my boyfriend isn't talking to me and my mom says words that don't build my confidence my little sister has her own issues so I figure I've got nothing to live for just like nothing is ever going to come my way and I don't have any friends so as lonely as a broken shell am and am loosing my mind

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

I found the article helpful interms of starting to myself busy.I will join an organisation around my community so that im able to help the next person ineed and aswell to destress from thinking alot about what had happened.

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

I'm so hurt I used to stay with father of my two sons for eleven years he became abusive and aggressive so I left him last of last week .he came at my house he wanted to beat me so a family friend who was with me try to stop him he stabbed him he almost killed him. Now this guy want to date me and I don't like him and he make me feel like I have to just becouse he was stabbed for me even my own mother is selling me out. and he's starting to control me and my mother and other people are on his side.so I'm so hurt and alone I'm even crying as I'm writing this please help

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

I'm so hurt I used to stay with father of my two sons for eleven years he became abusive and aggressive so I left him last of last week .he came at my house he wanted to beat me so a family friend who was with me try to stop him he stabbed him he almost killed him. Now this guy want to date me and I don't like him and he make me feel like I have to just becouse he was stabbed for me even my own mother is selling me out. and he's starting to control me and my mother and other people are on his side.so I'm so hurt and alone I'm even crying as I'm writing this please help

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Guys....right now I feel like the world has turned against me, I have always felt that way since I was very young. Every now and then I have suicidal thoughts, no one notices my tears but I just feel like I don't belong. On top of that i feel like my friends are now not there to support me, not even my closest friend

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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U are not alone in this world ,u have your loved ones in your life ,u hv God who loves you and maybe try to go to church so that they can give good advise to you.Be confident and stay strong

U are not alone in this world ,u have your loved ones in your life ,u hv God who loves you and maybe try to go to church so that they can give good advise to you.Be confident and stay strong

You are not alone in this world.You have your loved ones in your life.You have God who loves you don't mind they say just keep praying ... ✊😭

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

Guys my friends starting to be apart to me coz I'm a virgin dont know what to do coz they now think that I think I am big than them

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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