Feeling low?

Don’t worry it’s normal!

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Have you ever found yourself crying for no reason? Or maybe your chest feels tight and you just feel a certain weight on you.

You may also feel like being alone a lot of the time and think negative thoughts about yourself. Don’t worry! It’s ok to feel like this sometimes. You are not alone and you definitely matter.

When we’re growing up we experience all sorts of emotions. Sometimes we’re up, then we’re down, then we’re back up again. My friend Dineo came to me last week feeling down. I was able to help her because I was feeling the exact same way last month. The good thing about bad feelings is that they always pass. Last month I felt helpless but now I’ve been able to use what I learnt to help my friend out.

Here’s the advice I gave her that can work for you too.

1. Always remember that you are never alone.

We all have similar experiences of happiness and sadness. It’s a natural part of life. We can’t be happy all the time and we won’t remain sad forever. If you’re feeling low remember you have your fellow Springsters and Big Sisters that you can come here and talk to. You should also open up to your crew about how you feel, you never know who can help.

2. Have a happiness plan.

When we go through puberty our emotions are all over the place. So in preparation for the bad days, you can create a happiness plan of all the things you can do to make yourself laugh and feel better. For me, my activities involved being with friends. Like going to the library with Lukhele or baking cakes with Dimpho. Doing things you love with people you love makes you feel better quicker.

3. Practice gratitude.

A bad day doesn’t mean a bad life so always try and look at the bigger picture. Writing down 5 things you are grateful for every day can put you in an amazing mood.

In general talking to friends really helps because you quickly realise you are never alone in what you are going through, and if other girls can survive then so can you.

What things do you do to stop yourself from feeling low?

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Chesszen

I tried to kill my self by drinking pills after and after but it never happened that l die. my father told me that God will never let you die because you never did your work in the world 😔💖💖🙏

June 27, 2022, 8:42 a.m.

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owami_cindi9

@Chesszen girl/boy I also have suicidal thoughts but my heart tells me NO don't do it😍

akhona

but I can't help myself no matter how hard I try so make myself feel okay

June 23, 2022, 4:04 p.m.

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Ameerah

Me to🥺

I now understand that it is normal to feel down once in awhile and should learn to just find stuff to lift your mood up, but some times you feel down for a long time, it can go on for months and months without a little sparkle of happiness. I normally listen to music when I'm down, it either makes me cry everything out or it brings back all the good memories that the song reminds me of.

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Chesszen

Thanks l all so learned much about feeling down 💖💖🤞😔

I loosing a wait

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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How

How

Ori34

How

Yes, I'M NOT ALONE 😊

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

If I never experienced it...does it mean the is something wrong with me?

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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No, there's nothing wrong with you😊 sometimes it delay. Remember we are not all the same.

Yees i do agree i am not alone whos in??

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Chesszen

I'm in we just need to believe 💖💖 we not alone 🙏🙏

Make myself Happy

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

KNOWING WHATS BEST FOR MYSELF.

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Chesszen

Good now you'll know what person who are 💖💖😘

You. Wat. Sex.

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Chesszen

No do that when you 20 because u will know what to do next I tried because I needed someone in my life 😔😔 but now I understand never have sex when it's not time for you to do 😔😔

Some times I also feel low

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Some times I also feel low

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

am a 29 year old with 3kids i just found out that my whole body is spread with cancer i got a cyst in my brain and pcost i got highblood to i got no mother or father i feel so low and like my life got no meaning cease of the way i got so ill and at the age of 29 i struggle alot i cant wotk cease of my illness all i want to say is wen got give u a cross like this the friends u did keep nice times with are no were to befound wen days are dark friends are few

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Really 😱

2003fog60

Be strong just for ur kids😭

Chesszen

Sorry but l hope you luck what will happen to your children but I'm really sorry and I will pray for u and your children 💖💖😔🤲🙏🙏

Tshedza

I will pray for you 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏if you are not lying

I need help concerning my relationship with my boyfriend and also how to earn my parents'so trust back

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Maybe I can help

I always feel low ,even after the pregnancy ,I always feel sad ,unwanted, ugly ,or judge my body or even blame my baby but as months pass I realised that in order to defeat these feelings ,I have to love myself more and appreciate how I am.Bcoz they might be people who are in the worst situation than urs so be grateful

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

Feeling helplessly 👀👀 :now thats a stage I would say brings about many developments in our mind ,body and soul.🙏💪❤ :this stage determine the level of your emotional wreck, or whether you are willing to support yourself or not😎😎😎😗😗😌😌 :personally when I feel this kind of experience ,I tend to do what I've always been doing for the past 4 years ,I draw 😇😇😇😇😊😊 :whenever I think to myself "will I ever find happiness in life or will I die alone",😨😨I sometimes just tend to feel suicidal but I hold those kinds of thoughts by doing what I do best :me and friends are like the same thing we like to watch the same thing ,we deal with the same girls again and again ,well of course for them not for me😂 :when I see them having fun with their partners I just feel lost but you can't be lost forever .....In the end there is always happiness ,hang in there👍👍👍👊👊👊👊👊✌✌✌✌ #my name is ZANKIO 👋👋👋👋 #shareacokewithme❄❄❄

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

I U IOVE SEX

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Chesszen

Hy l am chesszen have you ever had sex before 😔🤞🍑🍆

I smoke weed

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Ameerah

No I smoke a Air pop so I don't get adictite to cigeretes

thanx girl💪

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

My Granny Once Said To Me That I Killed My Own Mother Just Because She Died Giving Birth To Me😭😭💔...Even Though She Apologised It Still Haunts Me 💔...

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Hi Springster, we're so sorry that you had to hear those words from your grandmother. We can only imagine how hurt you must feel. We really hope that you don't feel guilty for your mother's passing. Childbirth is not easy at all and unfortunately there are still many instances of mothers who don't make it through all the way. Therefore, it makes no sense for you or anyone to blame you for what happened. We would advise you to talk to an adult that you trust about how you are feeling. Talking to a trusted adult may help you process your emotions better. You can talk to anyone from a relative, a neighbour or a teacher. Have you also thought about speaking to the counselors at Childline SA. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information. You can also call the people at Love Life for help on 0800 121 900 or send them a please call me on this number 0 8 3 3 2 3 1 0 2 3 to call you back.

akhona

yooh that's really hurt even though she apologised but am sure that you can't stop thinking about what she was used to say to you

Tshedza

Sorry for that

I also feel like that I once tried to commit suicide by drinking pills every time things don't go the way I want I think of suicide can't I overcome that?😩😩😩

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Hey Lingethando, thank you for reaching out to us. Suicide is a very serious issue among teens, so we're really glad you're speaking out about how you feel. We know that feelings of suicide can be quite difficult to deal with, but there are some steps you can take to help with these feelings. First, we'd recommend you speak to a trusted adult in your community. It's always good to have some support when you're down and feeling low. Once you've decided who you want to speak with (this can be anyone from a parent/guardian, relative, neighbour or teacher) you can call them or reach out to them when you feel like you want to harm yourself. If that isn't an option for you, you can also call the counselors at Childline SA. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information. You can also call the people at Love Life for help on 0800 121 900 or send them a please call me on this number 0 8 3 3 2 3 1 0 2 3 to call you back.