3 reasons you don't need a boy

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I am about to start my senior year in Kwa-Zakhele Secondary School. I want to be an electrical engineer – so I need to keep high grades. I’m so determined to reach my goals.

But recently my parents told me they want me to leave school and get married to a family friend that goes to the same church that we do. They think it is the best thing for my future.

I love school and am not ready to focus on building a family. I know they just want the best for me, but I knew I could show them that I can build my own future without a boy.

One night I sat them down and went through 3 reasons that I don’t need a boy in my life right now.

Focusing on my education is the key to my future.

I told my parents that my education secures my future for life. I showed them how good my grades are and shared feedback from my teachers about how clever they thought I was. My dad was so proud, he had a huge smile on his face.

My money, my choices.

At my weekend job at Shoprite, I’m making enough money to cover my study costs while learning important skills. Studying hard all week and working during the weekend doesn't leave time for a boy. I can study and earn my own money, which gives me independence for life – rather than being dependant on a boy.

Strong female figures are more important.

Through school, I signed up to a local mentorship program. Women graduates offer career support to help you reach your goals. My mentor Sis Ntsiki helps me to plan my future. She is at university studying engineering and also works at the electrical company. I visit her there and she teaches me so much about many things. With her help, I’m sure I can get the marks to get into the course I want at the university.

I’m so thankful that my parents were able to listen to my needs. Now I have their support to finish my senior years as well as have them cheering me on to get into university.

What dreams do you have for yourself? Share them below and let’s get motivated to achieve our dreams!

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We don't need boys girl power

Sept. 27, 2022, 6:04 p.m.


Hey girls I'm new here, hoping to enjoy every moment that I'm going to spend with you guys and I'm looking forward to learn as much as i can

July 16, 2022, 10:37 a.m.

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You will gul^^*


I want to go to varsity to study Media course and through studying there i want to participate in radio to prepare myself for future cooperational world

July 16, 2022, 10:33 a.m.


I don't need a boyfriend because l will lose focus in class and I will not be focusing on my studies

July 15, 2022, 7:36 p.m.


I don't need no man😎

July 14, 2022, 1:47 p.m.


Wow guys love the story and the advices🥰💯

July 10, 2022, 7:57 p.m.


I am Diketso From Tlakgameng,And I've been in love With Music....and i want to be a musician But I don't have someone Who advice me in everything please Guys Help Me out

June 26, 2022, 5:28 p.m.

That is really great Besides depending on some else is really not great

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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It is good to be independent

Wow Love it

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.


March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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7 Bees(Books Before Boys Because Boys Bring Babies)

Yes, and if you dependent on a boy he will take advantage on you..so never let any guy have the power to control your life ..you can make it without him..

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

If you is open with your boy he will open with you

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Lօʟ tɦat ɨs ռօt tʀʊtɦ

3 from death

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

I ʟօʋɛ ʍʏ ʟɨʄɛ tɦaռ աɦɛռ ɨ ɢʀօա ʊք ɨ աaռt tօ ɮɛ a ɖօċtօʀ ɮɛċaʊsɛ ʍaռʏ քɛօքʟɛ aʀɛ ɖɨɛɖ ɨ աaռt tօ ɦʟɛք ɦɨʍ

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hi my name is rozari frm katlehong i write my story asking fr a help to you I want to be a social worker my parents dnt support at me the only thing they tell me is tht thy say im very old to go to school i dnt need school i want to go to university do my course tht i love i hv 2 kids to look aftr them i cnt depand on my dad to look aftr my kids i mst doit myself even though im sick hv a growth of mycetoma lung tht affected my right lung and my left kidney im disability now but i want to push until something happen in my life the thing ws fractrating me is my mother insult at me tell me tht im not going to university the only thing i do im going to sell my id to get money fr sex i hated her so much tht she could think bad about me dnt wish me the best in life she influence my dad to kick me out of the house whn i ws young i ws raped 3tyms in my life end hv a daughter thts my last baby i got so those thing wont take me down i will apply to get a couse and study very hard even i really need the proffessional doctor who deal wth this sickness to take it out this growth i cnt take it anymore and at university at unisa they hv rejected my application aftr i payed my fees i really need ur help please i wll appreciate tht if u cn help me thank you God bless u all who are about to read my realy life story

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Wow Roo,thats a very touching story of yrs 😭 wat ever yu decide to do jt know that yu r doing it for child n urself.... when yr pray every thing is going to fyn don't worry.......as for yr parents jt forgive them plz find a way on yr ht to forgive them ..... remember that every thing yu do yu r doing it for yr self n yr child💋

Boys aren't necessary on our lives they just wanna screw you over and dump you just like that #boys must fall......#

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Not true at all some times people should just shut it

Yes I agree with you they think that we're their tissue that they can just use and throw it away

I don't think there are people who are perfect and there who are bad......in evrythn Boys can be rude ... Rough or forcing ..n conivincing when it comes to sex Only if they can control their lust...... It would be better And girls sometyms they are wrong whn it cums to sexual things .....

Wow what a privilege to have understanding parents.. Sometimes our parents take decisions for us thinking that they are protecting our future yet we know whats best for us

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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That really true

Sorry to burst your bubble but I think that one day I would love to have a great husband and I will be he's wife

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.


March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

I just fell pregnant at the age of 19 years and my boyfriend started acting strange when he founds out that I am pregnant and told me to abort the baby but I refuse to do so and I was still studying then on December I graduate and get my certificate and I never told myself this is the end my career was ended there now I'm still studying doing Human Resource Management I wanna keep my dream true and make my child be proud of me

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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You are strong and you can show your boyfriend that you can live without him and raise your child and make her proud of you as her mom

Hi Springster, falling pregnant doesn't have to be the end of your career and we're glad that you were able to realise this and carry on pursuing your dreams. We're super proud of your Springster! We hope you carry on with this kind of spirit!

Am so glad about the way she handles problems.... which is to communicate with your parents,make them understand yr goals u want to achieve.... like me I want to be a mechanical engineer....bt my dad said I should be a doctor.....one I set down with him n I told him my reasons why I want that kind of a career...n he said"that career is for boys only,u can't handle the work"n I said there is no such a thing... never! I will prove to him that mechanical engineering is for every person who is interested in...

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

I'm almost done with high school I've tried to explore my options i still have no idea wich career path i should follow i am confused

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Which subjects r u doing

Hai u brave I can't do that coz they hardly listen 2 me surely this phone they bought it by mistake . Pls give me some tips 2 speak with my parent's

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

I also have the same reasons 🙂🙂

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

True don't need a boy in your life life you can do what you want to make your parents proud🙆

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

That great you can do many things to make your mother to feel proud of your self

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.