I’m pregnant. Now what?

Things to consider after hearing the big news

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So you’ve just found out that you’re pregnant. A million things must be flooding through your mind. The first thing that you should remember is not to panic. It may not be what you planned but it does not mean the end of your dreams. You just need to start mapping out the way forward a little more in advance. Here are a few things you need to think about now that you’re pregnant.

Your finances

Baby clothes, napkins, powdered milk - having a baby is expensive. You need to start thinking of how you will cover the extra costs once the baby gets here. Will you get a job? Will your parents help you with some of the costs? Are you getting any financial support from the father or his family? The good news is that there are child support grants given to some mothers by the government. You can apply for this grant once the baby is born. This grant is only a few hundred rand though so you might want to consider getting extra financial support.

Your education

If you are still in school, consider how having a baby will affect school. Don’t give up on your education - while it will be challenging when you are pregnant and when you have the baby, it is a good investment for the future. There are many teenage mothers who have gone on to finish high school, get their degrees and even pursue postgraduate studies. It is all about better time management, forward thinking and asking those around you for help. You will have to adjust your study schedule and bring in extra support. Read our tips for juggling your studies and having a baby here

If you would like to take a break from school because you can’t cope with the load - have a plan of how long the break will last - whether it is 6 months or even a year. Have a solid plan of what you plan to do with your break. Don’t make excuses when it is time to return.

Tips to help you stay in school while pregnant:

With the bodily changes and time away from school when giving birth, it will be tough to stay on top of school but it is possible. Here are tips to help you pass at the end of the year.

 ● Join a study group, that way even if you are not attending, you will stay on top of work

● Ask a friend to take notes for you when you are not attending

● Try to be available and write most class tests during the last 2 months when you don’t need to be at school - this will ensure you don’t struggle at the end of the year when it’s time for exams.

Your body

The next 9-months are about to be very interesting for your body. You may get sick. You will have weird cravings. Your body is about to change. To make sure a healthy baby grows inside of you, there are small things you can do. The best way to ensure that the baby is healthy is to eat healthy food. Try to remove all of the junk food from your diet. Include some exercise into your life - don’t push your body too hard. Rather go for casual jogs and other exercises which won’t endanger the child.

Are you a teen mother? Tell us in the comment section how you are juggling motherhood and staying on top of your studies?

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Buzzbee

Hey springster. I'm pregnant and recently I've been having junk food cravings which worries me a lot, I know I should be eating healthy but it's impossible. What should i Do?

July 24, 2022, 7:36 p.m.

I wanted to ask is it true that Coffee n Disprin helps to reduce chances of pregnancy after unsafe sex

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Thts a lie if its still within 48 hours if im not mistaken(i cant remember how long) just buy the mornibg after pill

Thts a lie if its still within 48 hours if im not mistaken(i cant remember how long) just buy the morning after pill

Reneilweh, we do not know this to be true. The best thing to do is to always practise safe sex!

Can someone be pregnant but still feel period pains ?

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Hlw guys i am happy to be with url

Yes love it do feel like that but for 2 to 3 mths

hi am 21

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Patsimo

And then???

Guys my friend is pregnant and she said she wants to try this method cause she thinks that this method will help her so wish her luck

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Hey Springster, do you mean that your friend is going to set out a planning out her finances and her education while she is pregnant. This is really great because it's always important to plan out your future when your life suddenly changes like this. We are definitely wish ing her all the best of luck at Springster!

Hi . Growing up without parent n support from ur family can b de most hurtful pain ever .u expected to b perfect nt to myk mistakes .I am ah 19th old turning 20.failing pregnant was dne to myk me fell happy since thr s no happiness bu ht it seems Lyk ah brought myself more miserable days I am even thnkn of abortn .

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Hi Luuthando3, thank you for sharing your story with us. We understand how hard it must be for you right now. Remember that even though you may feel alone, there are always people willing to talk to you and help you with what you are dealing with. Sadly, we can't talk to you face to face but you can always call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

maybe you have it better I have two babies I'm 19 in matrix

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

keep the baby

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

I'm also in the same situation

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

I'm also in the same situation

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

I had a baby this year luckily I've finished my matric last year so I'm taking a gap year nd next I'll be able to continue with my studies cos the vaby will be grown a little

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Hlw guyz am 18 years old and doing gr 12 i lost my virginity on this month and i think i am pregnent can you guyz share symptoms of being pregnant please

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Hey Springster, symptoms for pregnancy are different for different women. Symptoms include nausea, changes in eating habits, food cravings, feeling hormonal and your periods stopping. You might have some or none of these symptoms when you are pregnant, but the best way to find out whether or not you are pregnant is to go for a test at the clinic or at the doctor, or if you buy a home pregnancy test at the supermarket. Please do get tested. If you are negative, make sure to always use a condom or another form of contraception for protection.

Eh girl you are old nd if you preg u have know why love but u be a good lovling mother. ..

U are lucky girl well u are done at school already jst take care of the baby ♥😘

I do advice teenagers & students to avoid unplanned pregnancy, its a process that may change your entire destiny as in careers, health, marriage, school dropout, covered stress, n even disorganize your future. please be adviced to at list condomise if u cannot avoid. In case of unwanted pregnancy n your last thought is to arbort, seek for inquiries from Miss Tasha +27 710 443 508

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hi Can i get pregnant when i had seks the day before my period .. When is the chances higher to get pregnant.. I want a baby so badly.. Plz help

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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U kinda of want a abortion

U kinda of want a abortion

KayDee1020

It's a good thing that you want to keep the baby 👶.

Hey sisters well im not a mother yet but i wll be soon although this whole pregnancy thing just scares me but im not giving up cause the father is very supportive in anything wheather im sick or well or have moods he is here by my side,when it comes to my studies he is very much supportive too and gives me time to study i cannot complain but im not gonna give up no matter what!

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Hello Batlile It is normal and okay to be scared. The good thing about this is that you are getting the support you need. Whenever you feel as if it is hard, talk to someone close to you.

Is it okey to do abortion when you are not feeling ready to have a baby

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Hey LaaPash, having an abortion is a personal choice that you make on your own. No one has the right to tell you that your decision to have an abortion is right or wrong. Of course, this is a very important decision that you have to make - and one that will ultimately impact your life the most. Always remember that in any decision you make you should always put yourself and your well-being first. Abortions should be carried out by a designated government hospital or a registered healthcare service. If it is done anywhere else this could cause serious injuries. You should think about talking to a trusted adult, like a parent, relative, teacher or school counsellor. Sadly, we cannot talk to you face to face, but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Why kill the unborn child he/she did nothing wrong it's considered an blessing there's people who can't concieve so why kill the child ....why not give it up for adoption no blood on your hands ... Am I right or wrong

Being a single parent at a young age is very tuff there was lots of times I felt like giving up just dropping out of school because I needed to look after my son and do my projects or study for the final exams I live with my parents they did sometimes look after him but at as days went on they just ended up not looking after them I don't blame them it's not there son it's mine so I have to take up responsibilities I was very stressed out I didn't have time for myself I couldn't study couldn't do projects when I used to stay behind after school tht also didn't help coz I couldn't stop thinking what he might be doing at home and I would get scolded out for coming late home until this one day arrived where I just decided I couldn't anymore ....this is how I managed ; multi tasking I voice record all the details tht my teachers used to speak about listen to it repeatly while I'm bathing my son or giving him food I started saying things aloud until I heard my son repeating me just afterwards I felt soOo blessed

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

Hey guys,can I please get your advises?..I have a crush on a girl from my school and I love her very much..I don't know what else to do because she seems to have no interest?😭💕

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Hey Xolani2000! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you need to know that crush is not love. Also, you need to know that the fact that you have a crush on someone does not mean that they are meant to automatically feel the same way about you. What you need to do is to get to know her better and be friends with her. This way you both are on the same page and it will be easier to know if you both are compatible or not. We hope this helps