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Do you struggle with finding direction and expressing emotions? Try new activities...

You may find a natural talent you never knew you had.
Don't let bad thoughts get to you; try to stay positive, for example, say to yourself, ‘I'm courageous', ‘I'm beautiful’ or ‘I can do this'.

Find friends and mentors who support you to develop your talents.
Friends can build your confidence by encouraging you to keep trying even when you feel down. They also notice when you do well and celebrate with you.

Everyone going through puberty feels strong emotions.
When you're feeling overwhelmed by your emotions, take deep breaths, dance or take a walk (if it’s safe), or find a trusted person to talk to.

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Hallo I'm struggling to get a job and that let me stres and im doning wrong things

June 24, 2022, 11:02 p.m.

I'm suffering from depression/Anxiety it's very hard for me to communicate with people

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

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Thank you for your comment. It is important to speak to a professional when addressing topics such as this, unfortunately we are unable to contact you directly. At SADAG you'll find an emergency centre that you can contact from 8am - 8pm, they will assist with any mental health issues that you may have. Contact them if you are feeling depressed, sad, suicidal or think that you may have a mental illness including schizophrenia, bipolar or any other mental health issue. Don't forget to check out their website www.sadag.org and facebook page SADAG for great and helpful information, if you want more information. To contact a counsellor between 8am-8pm Monday to Sunday, Anxiety Helpline 0800 70 80 90 SMS 31393 Akeso Psychiatric Response Unit 24 Hour 0861 435 787

WHAT DO WE HAVE TO DO IF WE STRUGGLE TO GET BOYFRNDS?......

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

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i also wanto know girl u and me must seriously be friends because I'm so struggling to get a boyfriend heres my number 0 8 4 5 1 6 8 6 5 2. i had to make it like this tho

lol

me I alwys get oldr boyz or guyz......the one i am already dating is 16y and the one that wants me is 20y.......what must I do?......

Hey girl I have major depression button not so much of the anxiety I just hate feeling so extremely sad and alone (Im socially awkward ,its so extremely hard for me to make friends)... (if u want to chat to me all about it im here,I'll help.if u want to ll try and give out a helping hand

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

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Thank you for your comment. It is important to speak to a professional when addressing topics such as this, unfortunately we are unable to contact you directly. At SADAG you'll find an emergency centre that you can contact from 8am - 8pm, they will assist with any mental health issues that you may have. Contact them if you are feeling depressed, sad, suicidal or think that you may have a mental illness including schizophrenia, bipolar or any other mental health issue. Don't forget to check out their website www.sadag.org and facebook page SADAG for great and helpful information, if you want more information. To contact a counsellor between 8am-8pm Monday to Sunday, Anxiety Helpline 0800 70 80 90 SMS 31393 Akeso Psychiatric Response Unit 24 Hour 0861 435 787

The story sounds so positive

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

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Glad we could bring some positivity to your day. Happy reading Springster!

can i ask something?

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

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Yes go ahead, we're listening...

love is by age or not ??

love is by age or not ?

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

kendrick love is not about age

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

hy guys I'm new here my name it Anele

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

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Hey Anele. Thanks for becoming a part of the Springster team. I hope you find stories you enjoy reading and that you have a great time on the site.

Hey guys am new here, hope to get all the answers I have been looking for

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

out communities dont have enough resources that we can use nd discover our talents....im a girl who likes netball but I cant play it coz in my community theres no resources

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hey Springster. Sometimes you don't need resources to start something as much as you need motivation and initiative. Maybe ask your teacher or principal to get a team together who are willing to start extra curricular activities like netball and then you can apply for funding for resources and uniforms afterwards when you can prove that you're serious about competing.

Eish guyz am lost too 😞 I don't know any more weather am going right or not, I lost my parth along the way help me out

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Thank you for your comment. Have you thought about a parent, older sibling, aunty, teacher or a professional who can offer you support? It is important to speak to someone you can trust when dealing with the situation you are in. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

U know sometimes I think I will never date cos I love who don't love me But those who does I shut them away ... is it even possible or normal? ?

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hey Springster. Finding someone you're compatible with isn't easy. Don't be too hard on yourself if you haven't found someone yet. It can take a lifetime finding the one. Don't focus too much on finding someone just enjoy your life and you'll meet someone for you when you least expect it.

When I grow up I'd like to be an actress but then I was told it needs mayhematics which is something I'm not really good atso please help me I need your advice. Does it really require mathematics?

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. No, mathematics isn't a requirement for wanting to pursue acting. I would recommend you complete high school and have drama or acting classes as an extracurricular activity. You should research reputable organisations that offer acting classes that you can participate in. Good luck

When I grow up I want to become a radiologist but I'm struggling with mathematics and physical sciences and its what I really want to become. Piece of advise please on how I can pursue this dream

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. I'd advise speaking to your teachers in the subjects you're struggling with so you can discuss getting a tutor and them helping you become better in practicing maths and physical sciences. Good luck!

Me 2 I struggle with mathematics n physical sciences n I found the best subjects ever like consumer studies I like it becoz I lyk to cook and bake n in the 1st term I know I did well n I'm so positive

When I want to be a tourist

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. If you work hard enough and save then you can tour. Start with researching places you would like to go. There are many, even in South Africa. So you can start touring even in your backyard.

I always wanted to do modeling, but it seems like it ain't a good career.

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. You can do modelling as a side hustle/second job for spare cash. It's fun, involves travel and you wearing awesome clothing. You can research reputable modelling agencies, people have made successful careers out of the modelling industry.

I have been doing my matric this year but I got I'll so I couldn't finish writing me final exams ,so now I'm thinking of finding a job next year because here at home we are really struggling financially, so can please advise me guys on what to do with my life right now

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

I have been doing my matric this year but I got I'll so I couldn't finish writing me final exams ,so now I'm thinking of finding a job next year because here at home we are really struggling financially, so can please advise me guys on what to do with my life right now

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Thanks for your comment. I would advise you speak to a teacher about completing matric next year. You will be better equipped with finding a better paying job if you've completing high school. You need to focus on your education and give yourself the best chance at becoming the best you you can be!

I could not finish my matric this year because of being ill,so I'm kinda lost on what I should do next year with my life ..please help me guys

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Sorry to hear about you being ill, I hope you're better now! Your education is important so I'd advise you ask a teacher about rewriting your matic exams next year. You deserve to complete high school and have a chance at getting a c=good job, internship, learnership, bursary and so on. Give yourself another chance!

Hi. I'm Bianca and I'm in grade 9 this year and as we all know I have to choose a stream and that's where the problem is, I don't know which stream to choose and it's stressing me out. It would be a lot easier if I knew what I want to be when I grow up or what my interests and abilities were. I'm really really stressed out and I'm scared that I'll make a decision and regret it afterwards. Please help😧😧😪

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Taylor_Khuzey. Take a deep breath, don't panic. This decision is all yours to make and think of it as having power instead of becoming stressed. My advice would be to choose the subjects you're already good at. The subjects you get better grades in. That way you'll choose subjects you're naturally better at doing great at and that will be easier to choose a future from there. Good luck!

Sis Gabi's advice is good I like it , well try to see what you like doing , that can give an idea of what you can be in future

Hy

I struggle to... Sigh 😞

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Pray about it

Hi Gothica. Thanks for your comment. If you feel as though you're taking on situations and you need someone to help guide you through it then I recommend you speak to a teacher mentor or professional. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. The service is completely confidential - you don't even need to give them your name if you don't want to. They will help you think through your options and work out what the best next steps are - you can do this over the phone, in person and online. You can contact them any time of the day or night on their Toll Free Helpline on 08 000 55 555 or check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za

hellow am I have been doing Matric this year and I have not even applied for School next year.I really dont know whats wrong with me but i want a better future for my life,can u please help me guys

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

hellow am I have been doing Matric this year and I have not even applied for School next year.I really dont know whats wrong with me but i want a better future for my life,can u please help me guys

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hey Athayabuyela, thanks for your comment. Don't panic you can still apply to some tertiary institutions for next year. Take some time out and research which universities or colleges offer the course that you want to study. Remember to take note of the closing dates. It is awesome that you have made the decision to improve your life. Good luck.

I am doing matric this year yet I don't know what course to take see next year am lost

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi MUTSA. Don't panic you can still apply to some tertiary institutions for next year. Take some time out and research which universities or colleges offer the course that you want to study. Remember to take note of the closing dates. It is awesome that you have made the decision to improve your life. Good luck.

i myself are strugging to finding my way in life

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hey Nicolene, thank you for your comment. Finding your way through life can seem like a mammoth task but remember that you are not alone. You can speak to your parents, a trusted teacher or an adult that you can trust. Take some time to take care of yourself. Good luck Springster!

I'm going to grade 10 next year ... And we are about to choose the tipe of subjects ... But im struggling to choose ...

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hey Audrey, thank you for your comment. Choosing subjects for grade 10 can seem like a really scary task. You're probably wondering if you'll make a bad choice. Don't worry it is completely normal to feel a bit anxious and a lot of older girls have felt this way. You can do research on the careers that you want to pursue after school and then take a look at your subjects. Good luck Springster!

Choose the subjects that u know u r Good at every DAT doing

I'm going to grade 11 in 2018, I was doing the commercial stream but I want to change to the general stream because I want to do law or news reading

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Nomnethezeko. You should change your stream to whichever one you feel you'll be happiest in and be able to make a fulfilling career out of.

I'm also doing G11... science is reeeeally exciting if only I could get the hang of Maths

I failed my grade 11 three times then I went to college I did ncv I failed for subjects on my last year so I dont know what to do

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

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Hey makua u just like me i failed m grade 10 and i went to college doing NCV i failed last year but i didn't give up and this year I'm doing level 3 doing marketing and guys pls pls help me out im not good in english when it come to writing im good when it come to talking to the person face to face and I'm not good when it come to ready too so im hoping you guy's can help me out pls

Me 2 I failed grade 10 n dissapointed every one but here I am I'm so happy again

I'm in matric I didn't really pass my grade 11 like I wanted but I made it through and my best friend didn't make it.I struggle at school with math and science and I'm really worried I won't make it at the end of the year and it seems like everyone in my class has tuitions and it helps them because they get good marks but I can't have tuitions cause we struggle at home financially....what can I do to help my situation?

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

I too am struggling to find a direction 😩😕

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

I fail ma matric but its hard to accept that I fail my matric I dnt know what to do

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Hi Leotlela, it's totally normal for you to be hesitant to accept this fact. As human beings, failure is something that scares us because we never want to feel inadequate. However, we think that you should try to look at it in a different way. Failure does not mean that you are inadequate or less worthy, it simply means you made some mistakes along the way. Try to see 'failure' and mistakes as opportunity to grow, be better and learn more. Use this time to make use of the opportunities to do better. Visit the link below by copying and pasting it into your browser. We think it will be useful to you: http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-life/4-things-youre-doing-might-be-bad-you/

Hey. ...I need serious help, I'm struggling to find what course I'll do next year ...I'm so confused

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Hey Eu225, finding out which course to study and discovering which career path we want to take can often be pretty confusing. Don't panic. Make a list of all the things you're good at and enjoy doing and look at which things you'd like to do for the rest of your life. Also look at the subjects you're doing at school and see if they are in line with the list of things you enjoy doing and are good at. Talk to your life orientation teacher at school and see if they can help with guiding you in choosing your courses. All the best Springster.

Hey..I've been Doing Geography Since Grade 4 n Now Am in Grade10 I Still Struggle to understand it

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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I get what you are going through girl but you just have to keep on studying and acquiring more knowledge on Geography. Read Read and Read some more. Ask someone who you know is good in the subject to help you like a teacher or parent or even a peer. You can even Join a study group. Or start one but make sure you recruit someone or people that understand geography and are willing to share their knowledge.

I failed matric last year 💔 , And now I feel useless and stupid because I'm doing nothing with my life and I hate it . need advice to secure my future

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Ur not useless be positive wth what ur saying to urself .then life start after matric now go n supplement so that u can do wat u wanted to do after matric

I will like to tell you one thing you can still go back to school never to late iam sure you will pass because you will be more powerful and have more motivation in your mind

Anyone who can help I have matrix with 24 points and I want to do teaching anyone who can give me direction what to do I have pass with diploma last year

Anyone who can help I have matrix with 24 points and I want to do teaching anyone who can give me direction what to do I have pass with diploma last year

Hei springster l did my matric last year but unfortunately l did pass so l wrote supplementary and got my bachelor the problem is that l jst the minimum points and lots of varsity does not take me for next year l am afraid that next year l might not study because of this there is only two varsity that can take me plz help what must l do cause time is going and l need to study nxt year

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Try re writing your matric to get higher marks then apply to study furthur with those marks

Hi Springsters so my mother aint chilled shes never home she is always @ church or with the ladies from church all day and when shes at home she is always tired and always angry she doesnt bring peace every day there are fights at home i understand that i also do somethings that are wrong... she doesnt like anyone who is my friend she wants to make friends for me and she wants to live her life through me... i cant hang with ma friends or go shopping with them My mom wants to pick everything for me according to her I have no life outside of church. There isnt love and peace at home ever since she joined the church... she doesnt do anything at home not even her responsibilities but we are always wrong... when ever i try to express myself she says im arogant and rude to her i shouldnt have an opinion so can i get some advice

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Hey Springster! Sorry for the delay, I had some technical issues. I have hidden your comment to protect your privacy. I am pleased you felt able to share your thoughts, it's a really brave first step. Have you thought about talking to an adult that you can trust about this? This could be anyone from your parents/grandparents, a relative like an aunt, a neighbour or teacher. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can get extra advice from CHILDLINE SA. They can offer you counselling over the phone. You do not need to give your name and can call them 24/7. Their toll free helpline is : 0800 055 555 or check out https://www.childlinesa.org.za/ you will receive the support you need, by a friendly person trained to help you in a confidential way. Take care.

Maybe try doing things you never done before or you always wanted to do but never did

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

Hey ummm...peeps need some help...which subjects should I choose if I wanna go for social working?

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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You can do general and make sure you get good results and have 30 points or more then sure sure you will accepted as social work

Hey guys, I'm Sbahle and I dropped out of college and now I want to go back I don't know if Nsfas will be able to fund me again, I was told to come with a sick note but I was not in a hospital I was doing traditional things. Where can I get a doctor to bribe in PMB I'm desperate

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.