When should I start having sex?

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A normal part of growing up is developing romantic and sexual feelings. This brings us to a question everyone asks themselves — at what age should I start being sexually active?

Legally, no one is allowed to have sex with you if you’re below 16 years old. Otherwise, it’s considered statutory rape, this is a criminal offence and is very serious.

So, does this mean 16 is the magic number? It depends — on you. Deciding when to have sex is a decision you should make for yourself. You also need to have an open and honest conversation with bae about whether you are both ready for sex. You need to consider the emotional implications that can come with sex. It can throw up all sorts of emotions! Some good and some bad.

Sex also comes with the risk of pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (including HIV). This is why it’s important to enjoy sex safely and use condoms as they prevent pregnancies and infections! They’re free at all public clinics and hospitals.

Take your time and listen to your heart and head and consider the bad and good aspects of being sexually active. If you think you are ready, it’s worth talking to an adult you trust, like your aunt, big sister or cousin.

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Diamond6

Hello but those people who say that sex is good and all that they are crazy bcoz i believe that sex is for adults that are already married not for younger people that are in high school and are already teenagers🙄🤔

Nov. 28, 2022, 9:28 a.m.

QueenB33

I guys I'm new plz we!come me

Nov. 28, 2022, 8:40 a.m.

Nhlero

Welcome Tizozo🖐️🖐️👍

Nov. 14, 2022, 12:50 p.m.

Tizozo

Hey guys I'm new 😙😚

Nov. 10, 2022, 12:05 p.m.

Nhlero

Hi everyone, I'm new here please welcome me

Nov. 7, 2022, 5:27 p.m.

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Sphindile

Hi to you 😀:-)

Sphindile

Hi guys I'm new🖐️😀

Nov. 1, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Sphindile

Hi guys please reply back to me 😞😟:'(

MasterOfPuppets

Welcome to Sptingster

MasterOfPuppets

*Springster*

Pikinini

Hii guys I am new

Oct. 30, 2022, 10:31 a.m.

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Toby

HI PIKI

mbatha

Guys I am new and I am a Lesbian so if I have ..... With a girl can I get pregnant 🤨😕🤔

Sept. 17, 2022, 9:24 p.m.

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Ongie

No you won't my love

nwane

No u won't hun

Alse

No 🥱🥱🥱babes

X_adri

...n send them yo me.

Sept. 6, 2022, 7:25 p.m.

X_adri

Does anyone have porn vids???if u do plz contact me n i will give u my nmr.

Sept. 6, 2022, 7:24 p.m.

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Kate

Dude I feel the same can anyone send us porn vids I feel so horny anyway I'm single and 20yrs old❤

MasterOfPuppets

Wow Kate

Ombalenhle

Okay I had a fuck buddy that wants to control my entire life,be it about my life choices or our sex encounters he's everywhere.i don't know how to stop our entanglement please help

Aug. 17, 2022, 9:43 p.m.

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MasterOfPuppets

I'm my own fuck buddy (beautiful isn't it)

Annie

Hi everyone i am not active cus im still a virgin qiet proud that im gonna be 16 soon . I want some advice . My friends r virgins while others aren't. I havd only four close friends they r virgins. I am not sure about if im ready but i am certain about one thing and that is if the rght guy enters my life then yes ,but i find it hard to getovr the thought of losing my viginity and being a teenmom. Even thogh my family knows that i can get crazy over guys they will disown me ,im scared this is just upseting plz help me .

May 6, 2022, 8:40 a.m.

Hi guys am dating this guys and we love each other but the problem is when we have sex I always become stressed. that what if am gonna be pregnant because every time when we have sex we use a condom and he always sperms so what should I do to enjoy sex and not keep stressing about being pregnant after

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Don't panic. If you're having protected sex and you're using condoms then there's no reason to be stressed out. Not only will condoms protect you from unwanted pregnancy, but also from STIs and HIV. You can consult your nearest clinic or doctor for an added contraceptive method like the pill , injection or IUD to ease the stress a bit. Consult them for a professional medical opinion and you can relax.

wait until you are absolutely ready because if you fall pregnant and you not ready you will regret it for the rest of your life

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hey Springster. Yes, we do agree that waiting until you're ready is the only time you should take things to the next level. If you're feeling uncertain then just don't do it!

Trust me saving it for marriage is the best choice you will ever make for yourself.

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hey Springster. If you've decided to wait until marriage then that's great too.

That's true billionz

Well I not ready to have sex at an early age like 16-year old, I will have sex when I get married that's when I will have it. But at the end it's your choice whether you want to have it or not. The important thing is that you must focus on your schoolwork , finish schooling and make your parents proud not only your parents but also yourself.

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster 👋 Thanks for your comment. You're right. If you decide to have sex after marriage that's great. Glad that you know you should focus on school and achieving your goals. If you decide to have sex before marriage that's also completely fine. As long as you protect yourself and you're mentally prepared to take things to the next level.

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

Hey. I broke my virginity when I was 13 , which it was last year. The guy who broke it was 16 years old ,it wasn't his first time having sex. Since then I started sleeping with guys who are older than me 16-19 and now I regret the day I broke my virginity, and I feel like committing suicide. What must I do? Please help

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi sunshine. Committing suicide won't help you with anything. What you need to do is to check why you did that in the first place. Did you sleep with them because you wanted to fit in? Or we're you pressured to do so. When you get to the root of it that's when you can start your healing process. Blaming yourself over the past won't hep you with anything, don't frustrate yourself over things you cannot change. It's never too late to abstain. So since you regret having sex in the first place , now you can choose not to have sex until you ready to do so. And don't judge or look down on yourself we all have done things that we not proud of but we choose to move on because we know that the things we do don't define us. I hope you'll get to read this

Thank you so much Bekha_rose. I have realized that holding back to the past won't get me anywhere. XOXO♥

Hey Springster. Thank you for sharing your comment it's really brave of you to seek help.We value you, and your comments are always welcome, remember you do not have to deal with this alone. There is no reason for you to feel bad or ashamed. Don't be too hard on yourself because of a previous choice you made, but rather be happy that you learnt something from it and you can make a change. Have you thought of speaking to friend, teacher or professional? Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, depressed or feel alone. They are here to help you! Contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

be. care. full. for. boys .

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

If you're ready you'll know

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. you're right. When you're ready you'll know and both of you should be consenting partners.

Tһѧţ ıs ţuяє 😊

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

I'm Scared Of Having Sex And Im 16 Years Old

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. That's completely normal. You're still very young and being nervous about the idea of sex is okay. You don't have to o anything that you aren't 100% comfortable with. The time will come when you feel ready emotionally and mentally and when that happens remember to always use a condom which you can find for free at your nearest health care provider.

Yah tt is true

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

Yhoo guys me too am scared nd guys am 17 years but am scared

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Don't panic. It's normal to feel some apprehension because sex is a very big step in a relationship. Don't rush you don't have to go to the next level until you're 100% comfortable. Remember when you do make the decision to use a condom which you can find for free at your nearest health care provider.

Hey😊 I am addicted to adult videos and I can't control it anymore. I really need help! and the last thing I wanna go for is counselling.I'm a girl but I get horny over girl's asses.It's very disgusting I feel ashamed after doing that.But plz don't judge me

Hi Anonymous. Don't be ashamed, a normal part of growing up is developing romantic and sexual feelings. It's not a problem for you to be curious about sex or be attracted to people of the same sex as you. If you feel as though this is distracting your day-to-day life and is not a curiosity but more of an addiction then you should speak to a professional. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. You can feel free to speak to them without being judged. They are here to help you! Contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Yhoo this years came with ...

Some people don't do these things because of religious values.

on this age they don'tknow what they want some of them they sleep with boy earlyage 12 up plz guyz let do thinvs those it will make your parents be proud of you becauseu have plz use condom friend: chommy sex mnandi xa ungsyifakangs i condom 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁. you:yha choomy phinde ndiyifake nam embalmingko umithe

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Thanks for the advice.

Hi guys is it necessary to tell your parents when you no longer a virgin?

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hey Springster. Thanks commenting. Don't do anything that will make you feel uncomfortable. Only tell your parents if it's what you want to do. If you want any advice you can also talk to a trusted adult.

Hi Isabella73. No I don't think it's necessary to tell your parents unless you would like to share that information you aren't obligated to share it if you're not comfortable sharing.

By why Virginia itch after having sex for the first time

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

By why Virginia itch after having sex for the first time

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. I'm not certain if you used protection or not. If you didn't then this might be the cause of the itch. Sadly I cannot give you a diagnoses as I don't know what other symptoms you've been experiencing. I would suggest you visit your nearest clinic or doctor for a professional medical opinion. Don't panic. They'll be able to tel what steps you should take next.

Im not a person who really condones relationships. Is it a bad choice to want to have a best friend break my virginity?

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Thanks for commenting. It's not a bad choice. It's important that you're both consenting and ready to have sex.

I say after marriage

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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I agree with you👍

When u think that u are ready to take full responsibility

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

where do you live

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Bloemfontein n u

I need to practice more wi

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hy. My Friend of mine is no longer a virgin anymore .It not that I'm funny about her I just want to help her.She's not useing a condom .she kepp telling me that the conmdo iatch-hurt her when she have sex with her b.f .When I tell her that she can go and see doctors she refused .She don't use condom at all ,When I tell her that she must use it because it will hepl her in defend (HIV) and all deccise .I 'm tur hard to help her but it seems that she don't need my help .Can anybody let your comments and I want to show her that it not safe to don't use condom.I need your advise .....

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hey Springster. Thanks for your comment. It's very courageous of you to seek help for a friend. Yes you're right, engaging in unprotected sex is a very risky behaviour. One encounter can change her life very dramatically. If she wants to avoid unwanted pregnancy, STIs and HIV then she seriously needs to consider the use of condoms which can be found for free at her nearest health care provider.

hey gal...i should say that it is really kind of you to reach out to your friend like that.im guessing your friend is young and let her know that she still has a whole long life ahead of her and she needs to protect herself .

Hey I have a group of friends (8) all of them are not virgin and am the only one who's a virgin , I am afraid to tell them the truth and I always say I am not a virgin and tht is bad. I do feel the pressure sometimes of wanting to have sex but I can't am not confident enough to be naked in front of my boyfriend(am chubby and have stretch marks ) and we have been dating for two years now and it feels like I am weak and I am making him weak just because we haven't have sex yet...

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Thank you for your comment. Firstly you should never feel obligated to do anything you aren't comfortable with doing even if all of your friends are doing it. There is no reason to feel ashamed about being a virgin. Secondly, your boyfriend is going to have to wait until you're ready to take your relationship to the next level, and if he can't wait then maybe you should reevaluate your relationship seeing as though you aren't on the same page. Thirdly, you should love your body, stretch marks and being chubby doesn't take away from your beauty. Beauty comes in all shapes, sizes and colours. Remember that.

I was also in the same situation but even though you may feel pressured don't feel intimidated to do anything. Regarding your body be confident in the way you look I'm also chubby and I have silver stripes but I have a bae whom I'm comfortable to hang out with while I'm half naked though we haven't started having sex yet.

You need to tell them that you are still a virgin .And u will have sex when you ready.If they don't accept you then they are fake friends .One thing Be PRoud of your body and self bcoz in the end its up to you . GOOD LUCK✌

Hey guys plz help what will happen if u have sex on ur last day of getting ur period will u be pregnant

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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You can get pregnant

no dear u can't get

Hi Springster, anytime you're engaging in unprotected sex, you're at risk of becoming infected with an STI or becoming pregnant, regardless of the time of your cycle. IF you're going to have sex you need to use condoms at all times which you can find for free at your nearest healthcare provider.

hey is it normal to bleed at your first time?

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Don't panic. Some women will bleed after having sex for the first time, while others won't. Both are perfectly normal. A woman may bleed when she has penetrative sex for the first time because of her hymen breaking. ... It usually breaks during sex, if it hasn't already broken before.

hi .. every time I have sex with my bf . my pussy splits water is it nomal

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Perfectly normal darling. It's called an orgasm. The body realeses that to relief it's self from sexual tension. That's when you don't feel like having sex anymore.

Hi Springster. Don't panic. That is completely normal and is described as the female ejaculation.

hy what happen if I drink same pills before shaving a sex

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. What pills are you referring to?

Nice

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

Does a tempon brakes a V.?

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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No dear

Hi Springster. No a tampon cannot break your virginity. Only having penetrative sex can break your virginity. Don't panic.

Hi is it true that..you dont use condom on your first time?

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. No that is not true. You can still contract HIV, STIs and have an unwanted pregnancy if you have unprotected sex, even if it's your first time. You can find condoms for free at your nearest healthcare provider.

who told u that ,u must use it to protect ur self

It's also a healthy exercise..

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

i guess when your ready physically and emosionaly when your confident with the idea and yourself but you also need to be carefull andvyou need to be 100% sure that you want to do it .

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hey NicoleneQ18. We agree. And also that you use condoms which you can find for free at your nearest healthcare provider.

Hey.I'm 17 years old and Whenever I have sex I get extremely emotional. Is there something wrong with me.

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi flikswa. Thanks for sharing. Don't panic. Sex can be a very overwhelming experience so it is normal to feel emotional. As long as the emotions you're feeling are good ones.

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I had a bad virgin breaker he was my father friend so I was a little gal how loved to play and at first I use to know that guy but the day he raped I hated him so much so its important to talk about sex

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi khensane. Thank you for sharing this with us, it's very brave of you and we're sorry you're having to go through this experience. It's important for you to know that what happened was in no way your fault and that you speaking out can help you to heal. There are places you can seek help that won't turn you away. You've taken an amazing first step by telling us about this. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and you can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, depressed or feel alone. They are here to help you! Contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. You can also check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za for more information. You don't need to deal with this alone.

Sorry Kimi...😯

Hy ... My friend once told me that if you have sex while you are on your periods there are chances of you having cervical cancer... Is that true ...?

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Brigette. No that isn't true. You are not more likely to get cervical cancer from having sex during your period.

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Hey is it normal to be hurt by a condom during sex ?

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Do you get wet down there before you had sex?because it might be a lit bit painful sometimes if you are dry downtown

yes I do get wet ,but sometimes I think maybe its because I have a small vagina ,idk is there a problem with me ?

I also went to the clinic to check weather am okay ,the nurse said am fine but she gave me antibiotics just in case ,and now am scared to engage in sexual activity again coz am afraid of the pain I have while using a condom

Hi Mess, thanks for your comment. Try using a water-based lubricant because it's safe to use with condoms and see if that makes a difference. Maybe your partner should try a different brand of condoms and see if that still hurts. You should visit your nearest clinic or doctor if that doesn't change because it's important fr you to stay protected at all times against HIV, STIs and unwanted pregnancy. Good luck!

yes I do get wet ,but sometimes I think maybe its because I have a small vagina idk what do you think is wrong

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Thanks for your comment. I can't give you a diagnoses on why you feel pain during sex, you said you don't have issue with lubrication but that you think you're too small down there. I'd recommend you take things slow, don't rush and stop when you're uncomfortable or in pain. You can also consult your nearest clinic or doctor for a professional medical opinion.

I think I'm addicted to sex bcoz every time I'm included in group chats, I always ask for porn video. Is that normal. Plz answer ASAP

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Normal and I have plenty vids

Boo thnx for replying me.

Gibdick can I have ur 10nz plz boo

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Guys have big dicks is dat why girls bleed when having sex for the first time

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

Want sex chat.If u are available u can ask for my number.Nd sex mate

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi it's Rocco

Am entrusted so can u pls pass me ur 10s

Am entrusted so can u pls pass me ur 10s

Sorry about that I mean interested

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Anon_12

I'm available ,can i have your numb

nwane

Plz gimme ur nmr i would love to sex chat

hi

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Springster. How may I help you?

Hi guys i need help my body is becoming horny when I'm with my boyfriend and I'm not really ready to have sex because of my background and situation I'm facing cos i can feel my body that if I can engage myself into sexually activities my chances of getting pregnant are so high pls help guys help nd my friends always talking of having sex they are virgins too but they are ready nd their aim to have a child

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Azenathy, thanks for your comment. Yes that's completely normal. Once you get to a certain age, you begin to feel things differently than you’ve felt them before, you’re more aware than usual, your skin is buzzing in spaces you’ve never felt before, and you don’t know why. This is called puberty. Hormones help create lubrication for to aid in sexual intercourse. This is just part of growing up. Don't panic. You can use pantyliners if it makes you feel uncomfortable.

I you have fingered you virgina once and youdont know whether you are a virgin or not.What should i do to know whether i am or not?

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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I think im no longer a virgin😢

Hi Themka9. Don't panic. The only way to lose your virginity is by having penetrative sex. Remember to be safe and condomise when you do decide to have sex.

Hi im 26 years of age I like masturbating,even after sex with my patner,is this normal?

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Anzani. Thanks for your comment. There's nothing to be ashamed of, getting to know yourself more intimately is okay and there's nothing to worry about.

hi,im 14 years old and im not ready for sex,but i have thought of giving my bf a blowjob but after i heard that my friend got lumps on her lips,mouth and throat after she shared a hookah pipe with a girl who had given her bf oral sex. I am confused now and i am having 2nd thoughts about oral sex w/ my bf and im afraid he's gonna leave me since i didnt want to have sexual intercourse w/ him.Plus he wants to finger pop me in return. what should i do?

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hey Amoure, thanks for your comment. Having sex for the first time is a big decision and you should be ready for the emotional and physical risks that accompany it. The same risks apply when giving or receiving oral sex. You can contract certain STI's when giving or receiving oral sex and you can prevent these STI's by using a condom which can be found at your nearest clinic or hospital.

Hey guys I had sex and it was not that painful and after that I never saw my periods anymore what is wrong I never used a condom and I (was)on prevention but then I stopped and I got my periods can I still fall pregnant.....

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

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Hey if you dont mind sharing are you pregnant or it was just a complication. .cause my situation is similar to yours

Go to the clinic ur were wise enuf to open ur legs .so continue and buy a pregnancy and hiv test.diseases are worse than being pregnant.

You might be pregnant hun

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

i hv been dating for 8 months with my bf,so he wanted to hv sex with me and i refused bcz i wasnt ready...Then he cheated on me with another gal bcz i ddnt give him what he wants...So i found out n dumped him.After a month he came back n said it was a mistake n he still loves me...He keeps on calling me...Should i get back with him and agree to sleep with him??😭😓

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Hi Springster, consider this - have your reasons for not wanting to have sex changed? If you have have sex would it be for you ad your own desire to have sex or to please him (keep him)? Do you feel ready? Or are you just afraid or confused? Having sex should be a decision that you make, it's something that you should do because you want to. And you shouldn't feel pressured into it. All your ex did was show that sex is a priority for him and that he doesn't respect your decision to not have sex right now. Can you trust him to not cheat on you again? Or to not pressure you into having sex? Ask yourself the really hard questions and write your answers down if you have to. If he betrayed once, who says he won't betray you again?

I agree also there who say he wont betrayed you again after you have giving him sex what he want and looks he just want you to have sex with you and when you say no for sex he goes looking some where els in my eyes it doenst works like that in a relationship you have only sex with your wife or girlfriend nobody els

Dont!!!!!!!! Gal all boys are like that.......😞💔

Princess2

NO!!!!!!😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡

I fell in love with this guy online,then we dated for about two months he started cheating.Then I forgave him so we continued then we dated for 5 months as time went by he started boring me..So i looked for an excuse to dump him and finally did...Last month he sent me a text telling me that i am nothing without him and i will grow up old and alone and i will end up dating his kids...All boys will sleep with me because i will be cheap and worthless...So i told him i never loved him wich is true and i was only passing time dating hin and I'd rather be a lesbian than to date him...Am i a bad person for doing that??? By the way I hv never seen the guy is 18 years of age Plz assist???should i apologise or

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Hey Springster, thanks for sharing. He sounds like he has a pretty abusive personality. It's good that you stood up for yourself. Apologizing for standing up for yourself will just invite him to continue treating you poorly. Continue to keep that distance between the two of you for the sake of your mental health. Never apologize for doing right by you. You are strong, beautiful and capable. You are worthy of love. Live on that truth.

If he starts cheating in the begin of your relationship he will do it every time when you not with him then it will never working out between the two off you so its beter for you to leave that guy because at the end of the day you the one who getting hurt the most

Some guys are ungreatful...You gave him a chance to be loved by you yet he treats you so badly...Girl make sure you never date him again...Know your worth babe ...A guy is supposed to love and protect you...JUST becz u dumped him that does not mean he should tell you that you are worthless because you did him a favour by not leading him on but you were rather honest..Babe just forget about him..There's plenty of fish in the sea 😘😚💗💞

Never apologize to that disrespectful boy,he lost,not you.

This is weird I'm aslo dating an 18 year online

It is your choice and when you are ready to have sex with n male nobody can force you to have sex with then you are the boss of your body and vigina and if you say no for sex then it means no you will tell the men when you are ready to have with them not them tell you , that you must have sex with them

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

:Guys do u believe on this sex before marriage is a sin 💕

March 20, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

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Hi luv,having sex is ur choice,wether its before or after marriage...If u feel ready just go with the flow but remember safety preucautions

Hi Springster,Im always horny and I used to watch porn but Now I hv stopped bcz I regret doing it and I feel it is not right,I have not had sexual intetcourse before bcz im not ready but what suprises me is that I become horny almost everyday.But I dont imagine myself having sex anytime soon.I sometimes try to hold it when I get horny but i just cant stop the feeling...Should i start having sex to stop this feeling or not???plz help

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Getting horny is a normal experience. If you feel that you do not want to have sex right now then dont do so. There are alot of ways you can satisfy or calm yourself. Dont see being horny as shameful. Enjoy the sensation its meant to be a fun experience. Some ladies try masturbation however not everyone is comfortable with this. You can also try distracting your mind with exercise, reading, swiming,etc. If you do masturbate however make sure you are clean and do not hurt yourself. And this does not mean you will break your virginity. Porn can become and unhealthy experience when not used correctly but in my opinion as ladies we have strong and active imaginations lol. If you want let your imagination take you where you want to be sexually.

Lol thanks😊😊Gabz

Nkateko

Yes if you feel like you want to have sex

nwane

Me too almost everyday im horny i try not to watch porn but it is hard

Sis GAbi u dont answer our comments

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Heyy I am 17 years old and I am still a virgin you guys I feel ready but really afraid of what will happen If even using condoms is really safe for me now I wane know am I really ready or is this just a normal feeling of me being worried about this

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Its absolutely normal to be afraid of what might happen once you have sex. Even if you unsure and decide not to have sex just yet..it might be wise to go to a clinic and find out what precautionary options you have . Eg injection, pill, condoms.. maybe even start using them beforehand. This will make ypu feel more confident and in control of deciding if and when you ready. #Fear is wise.

#NO REGRETS! While dating i have been exposed to alot of sexual opportunities, and sometimes i played along but only because I wanted to and it was fun for me. However i knew that these guys were just a phase in my life and i wanted to wait to be truely inlove. I never really told myself if wait for marriage, only true love and the moment i felt i really wanted to explore sex. When i was 18 i was ready! I truely felt tgat even if i haf sex with a guy i knee i wasn't going to marry tgat i wouldnt regret it because i wad doing it for myself. I guess its just luck that at this age i met my soulmate. The first time we were about to have sex i wasnt afraid at all. I was more afraid of exposing my body lol. THEN IT HAPPENED. It wasnt all sunshine and roses #50 shades of grey. It hurt so much we couldn't finish however my bf knew i was a virgin and was extremely patient. Only by the 3rd time we tried did doing the deed actually feel great. Not to say i ddmt enjoy it the first time because even though it hurt just being that intimate and close to someone i cared about felt more amazing than anything else. From there on out we made sure we were safe as i knew i was going to keep sleeping with him. I used the injection and condoms. We even went for hiv test together. This is all possible ladies if you are open and honest with your guy. Going to the clinic we achieved all this in one day. I look younger than i am but instead of judging me the nurses were more happy with the fact that i wanted to take precautions. If you dont want your family to know you can go alone and just say you are going for family planing and an hiv test. I have only had sex with one man and years later i now call him my loving husband and father to my 2 beautiful children.

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Wow that's so romantic

You're so blessed

Hey Gabz, thank you for sharing your story with us. It's beautiful and we know other Springster will appreciate it too! Thank you!

Hey. I'M 23 years of age, and i have a 1 year old daughter. I'm still seeing the father of my child and we have a very great relationship. Problem is I feel like I'm holding my own goals and dreams because I don't wanna go back finishing College because I'm scared of what the distance might do to our relationship. I feel like he'll start cheating on me something he's never done before before we will no longer be having sex as

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Frequently as we used to. What should I do?

Go to school, ur getting older.You cannot keep him by sleeping with him if he wants to leave , he'll do it anyway if not now probably later.Fact remains u need to be able to provide 4 ur child with or without him.

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I was deeply in love with my bf ....he said that he loves me and he was really ready to start having sex and we were both virgines. .I asked him to wait for me to be ready sexually coz I knew I was ready emotionally and I felt more mature then he said its okay he will wait for me...after few weeks we had a huge fight ''apparently he was angry with me coz I said I i was not ready to have sex with him....I can't just stop thinking about him guys I love him too much

hyyyy guys.I have a really serious prblm,I love sex(I haven't slept with a boy yet but I really like it.I watch porn and I like to finger myself or put objects in my vagina.I am only 15.Is there something wrong with me??

Try today my dear.

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《B A F A N A ii dnt agree with u ... u can only strt hving sex whn u are ready. .. and no-one cn force u to hve sex ...u do hve the right to say NO to SEX...·》

I'm 16 .. There's a boy I really like and he wants to get sexual I'm not really sure if I want to ... I mean I would give my all to this boy but I know if I do he will ignore me and only text for sex . Its been a year of him asking and i don't know what I should do... Do you think I should go for him and let him have it or just be friends ...please help x

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It ur choice

In this situation you're the only one doing the liking so lose the boy he'll use you babey

Hiy ...I'm 17 ,my boiF is starting to ask me when I'm going to have sex, do you think that he wants to have sex with me??

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Hey Known, the only way to find out if he wants to have sex is to ask him. The important thing to remember is that the right time to have sex is when YOU feel ready. Saying no might seem impossible or scary right now and the only reason you'd want to do it is to keep your partner happy and that’s not okay! If you're not ready to have sex write down a list of reasons why you’re not ready, like being scared of pregnancy, being unsure about your feelings, or wanting to wait until you’re little bit older, and practice your answers.

Heyy guys i have a problem Why cant we chat with each other like get numbers or so.. That will also help to buld trust.. Just tell me plz #springster❤❤❤

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I agree wit u

I agree with u

Maybe we can give number so that we can be invited to WhatsApp

Maybe we can give number so that we can be invited to WhatsApp and create a group chat

Nkateko

What about here at moya????

I think my boyfriend he only wanted to sleep with me

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Hello everyone, my aunt has a problem with sex and she often tells me that its a sin to have sex at a young age What do I do Because I had sex before and I'm 18years

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Be honest with your aunty, for sure she'll understand even though it'll be kinda hard as she will be angry with you for a little while but she'll get over it.

just like zozo said just tell her coz the truth will come out and it will be very difficult to to control your aunt

How can i tell my bae I'm now ready to have sex with him?

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

hyy guys im 24 years old and i have two children first born whith 4ys second with 11mnths but the problem we staying together with my wife but she no longer have sex with me for 11mnths she says she wanna grow up a baby until we have sex so what must i do coz im full of sperms * must i cheat her

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Sure come to my house I need a baby

Come to me Honey❤let's have sex .Come bby ,drop ur tens I will WhatsApp you Anyone who's in for sex? Live ur n.o I'll WhatsApp you and meet so we can do the Deed

Hi..I'm a 20 year old girl n I'm still a virgin. I've dated this guy for like 2 months bt we weren't that crc (we didn't even kiss), so I broke up with him cz I didn't lyk him that much. Since then I've never dated any guy n I'm afraid tht if I start dating one he'll dump me bcz I'm not so sure even if I can kiss or not (as I never kissed a guy before) and I feel so ashamed about this. So the problem r have is that..at times I feel this strong sexual feeling which make me to murstabate which feels so good. I like fantasizing and I think I'm ready to have sex but I'm really scared. Please help me..is it a problem to fantasize about sexual activities n is it abnormal to hv these intense sexual feelings almost 3-4 times a week?😔

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you should have sex when you ready do not feel ashamed coz its your body

Visit me in my house and I will tech you I'm good at it

Hey Springster, the feelings and desires you have are not abnormal or wrong. Everyone has sexual desires. The only important thing to keep in mind with regards to that is to make sure that you masturbate in your own private space without disturbing anyone. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. The only thing you should keep in mind is to respect others too. There is also nothing wrong with not having kissed anyone. You will do it when you are ready. Be honest with whoever you date next and let them know your limits and your boundaries when it comes to sex and touching.

When u are ready

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hy guys,I'm Lish I'm still a virgin, I don't know much about sex but I have this bf we've dated 3 years now and he wants us to have sex and wat can I say, I am ready the thing is my mother she was checking my virginity and that was a long time ago and I'm afraid if I do it she might want to check me or like see my body changing,What do I do???

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

People love to do sex. Sometimes they say it fun ,makes you feel happy,and it take out the stress. That why I want to do sex with my boy friend but he don't like sex because his perants will punish him so... Can you guys find me a boyfriend please I'llove to have sex with a boyfriend please I'll do any

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Yeah i can give you one

I'm in dear cach me

You need a psychologist something's definitely wrong with your honestly ..i mean did u just request for a boyfriend for sex?😨😂😂

Wow where are you bbie I'm here for you

Guys I feel like I'm ready for sex bt I'm scared of what will my parents say and I still enjoy being a virgin .Whenever I'm with my boyfriend, he always get horny and can't help it but ask me for sex. What should I do guys?

Babe u want a boyfriend ? Like damn!! A u 4 real in this time of a year their boys who don't want to have sex😊I requested 4 your boyfriend can I hv him plz

so guys how do you know that you are ready ? Well I'm a sixteen year old girl in grade 10 and I'm in love with this guy from my neighborhood. We've been seeing each other for a while now. And he started talking about sex, I love him and don't wanna lose him. Twist is when I'm with him I get I get this weird feeling especially after we've kissed. Does that mean I'm ready?...

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No sweetheart it means your body is exploring certain feelings so i advice you wait a little longer😊

No its not that lv just that he is moving in your blood streams #u feeling him😊😍

I think you should start when you are married to your men

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I think you should start when you are married to your men

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I am a Christian.I believe that sex before marriage is a sin.

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Is it okay to date someone who is ten years older than you? Please help.

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Is it okay to date someone who is ten years older than you? Please help.

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Age is just a number as long as that person makes you happy but if u think that person is okay no problem you can date if that person really loves you I say go for it

Age is very important my luv😕

Hlw guy's 😔 I'm new here and I've got a problem ... I'm 17 year's old and still a virgin 😯 my new boyfriend keeps on telling me that he's horney and he misses me when he's like that 😦. . Fine. ..I get horney too but I don't think I'm ready to give it all 😢

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Hi Shee, Sex is something you must do when you are ready. Don't let anyone force you to do anything you don't want to do. Talking to someone you trust also helps. It can be a guardian, parent or teacher.

I'm new and I'm a virgin

Hey Guys , I'm new here and I just wanted to share that I broke my virginity at 13 years old by a guy who was 17 years old When we started it was sore and I there was blood on the bed , I regret ever having sex at 13 but what's done is done , I just want to say if you not ready don't , no matter how much you love the guy if you not ready you not 💔😌 so don't do it if you not ready.

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Hello Springster We hope that you have healed from that experience. It would help to talk to someone you trust if ever you feel bad about it. It is important to have sex only when you are ready.

I also had it but never told my parents cause they will kill me or take me out of their house

Hy gals im 14 nd he is 19 yrs we've been dating for about like a month now nd I like him so much although he's a foreigner we have a long distance relationship every time I sleep I think of him nd have that sexually feeling like kinda wanna do sex with him some time ago he wanted to do sex with me but I told him that I'm not ready nd he said I will wait for you but now I would like to have sex with him but i'm little scared What should I do?

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"Hi Springster, thanks for reaching out to us with your question. Having sex is not a small matter, so we don't blame you for feeling a little bit confused and scared right now. When you make the decision to have sex, you want to really be sure that you are ready. Being scared might be a sign that you need to think about it more. Remember that sex isn't something you need to rush right now. Give yourself some time to think about what you want and you will have sex when you are confident that you are ready and when you are comfortable with the person you'd like to be intimate with. When we are faced with these big decisions it can often really help to speak to someone you can trust. For example, an older sibling, a parent, or Aunt? There are also the people at Childline who can provide support as well. They can offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information. "

U are still young ,I know y u are sacred coz u might get pregnant mama follow yr hate gal n i 🙏🙏🙏please

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Gurl... R u for realz😮😮

Plz take this off

How do u take this off

I will have sex with you where do you live

How old are jou

As long as ur comfortable with it girlfriend then go 4 it👌👌

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Please this gal from this

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Hey i am still now so please tell me how do u remove a comment u hv put up

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I am 12 and always craving for sex

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Are a female

Hey Springster! Sorry for the delay, I had some technical issues! Thank you for your question. I am pleased to tell you that you can now chat to Big Sis, a smart robot who will help you make smart choices when it comes to sex and relationships. She's ready to answer all your burning questions. Click on this link to get started: https://bit.ly/2TR8r2H

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How old are jou becaus if jou are almost my age or older i like to have sex with jou

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😲

Just make sure you won't regret having sextet with that particular person ♡

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The safest sex age I think should be 18 there are way too many teenage moms running around like it's just OK ,and yet they wane cry coz they can't find a job ,they a single mom and so on .........well maby they should first finish school than take the big step of sex its not all bout just fun and magic ,let's talk about respect and obidiance and actually using the brain think about urself ,ur parents, and not to get all biblical but .........also consider the rule in the Holy book #marrage before sex!!!!!!!!!!.think about ur future I just recon it shouldn't be *UR CHOICE* of when u think ur'e ready teens kinda have a amazing way of NOT THINKING THINGS THROUGH this is called the reptile brain and at 16 it functions at its highest therefore NO rational or life changing things should be left to the"listening to you're heart and head"

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Hi guys new🖐️😊