When girls get talking...

Magical things can happen!

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I really enjoyed the #AskSpringster show on Massiv Metro. The show focused on specific issues that affect young women and girls like me and you.

I remember when they were talking about body image. Body image is one of the biggest insecurities young women have. A local survey said that 1 in 3 girls stop liking how they look once they hit puberty. Some didn’t think they were pretty enough, and the majority felt they weren’t skinny enough. This happens because many girls don’t know how to handle the changes that come with puberty and getting older.

I found this quite shocking! My mum always told me I was beautiful and amazing just the way I am, but I guess a lot of other girls didn’t have this support. I really wanted to do something about this, so I invited my friends over to my house after school to talk about this issue.

We sat together and shared our feelings and opinions on what it feels like to be young women growing up surrounded by images of bodies that didn’t look like ours. Talking about the changes we experienced going through puberty showed me how similar all our stories were. Girls who felt alone in the past realized they weren’t the only ones experiencing this love-hate relationship with their body. You see girl, you’re never alone in what you are going through. Talking to trusted friends about your body and the changes you experience makes you more powerful.

After talking things through, we decided to focus on finding solutions. We spoke about healthy ways to love our bodies more. At the end, we made a promise to stop comparing our bodies to other peoples. Our bodies change in different and unique ways and as we’re all going through puberty, that’s totally normal.

My little after school chat has now turned into an amazing girls club where we have important conversations around puberty and our experiences as girls! I started off with 5 girls and now I have 50!

When girls get talking, we teach and learn from each other and there is NOTHING more powerful and magical than that.

Do you have a group of girls that you also enjoy opening up to? Tell us more about them in the comment section

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Nice

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Wat is nice?heh

Hey guyz, I think I have a problem coz I started going on periods last year on June but I still don't know my kiss and sex style through dreaming about it, I never dreamt about it, plz help me

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hey guyz, I think I have a problem coz I started going on periods last year on June but I still don't know my kiss and sex style through dreaming about it, I never dreamt about it, plz help me

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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I'm also in that situation, I don't know what wrong with me, Plz help me Springster

Hey girl Well I can't say that I can relate to your story but I believe that this is some kind of message for you , maybe you ain't ready or your mind wants you to act before it can adapt I always dreamt about how my first kiss would be and time arrived whereby I had the chance to explore and trust me it wasn't all great I know I am a good kisser but the person I explored with I can't say the same about him , so I think its best you wait so you can have the kind of experience you'd want to remember at all times💯 Love you ❤

Plze help me aslo guyz I'm 17 i neva kissed once so if i fall inlove with a guy where nd how must it be or begin....plzze coz others would tease me if i tell thm...

Anonymous who is 17 Plz write your own comment so people can reply to you too bvbe - they won't see your post if it is on somebody else's comment

Hlw guys all of you guys .When l have a frnd here Name is Lelethu and here sister we were finds and that byfrnd of that sister tell me that he love me so I don't what can do for that boy can Leave me alone

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Tell ur friend lelethu to tell her sister that her boyfriend wants you n you don't want him but he's busy following u....so that she can tok to her boyfriend.....or tell that guy to leave u alone or u gng to tell her girlfriend

Hlw guys a'm now here so plz make me feel at home

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

I have dis friend nokbonga I lv her a lot we talk about everything bothering us we are true friends

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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That's really wonderful @ndazo. Keep growing that friendship!

Thank you Hlehle for your help💖

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hi guys I have a best friend her name is Naledi .I think she is not a friend I think she is using me because if I buy her food she will walk with me if I don't she won't talk to me the whole day Help Me 😭😭😭

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Just ask her what is wrong with her when she doesn't tell u give her space

Babe just let her b ..she is only after ur money sad but its true ..

I had only 4 friends but there was the only one who I trusted with all my life her name is Maserame... She just got into moodswings and she doesn't tell me she just angry with me and not telling me what wrong did I do to her so what do I do??

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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I understand the state u in ryt now ..I was in the same situation as u in ryt now babe sit down n talk to her ..if. She really loves u and value ur friendship she won't b trowing tantrums ..who knws maybe she heard something about u or saw something n got jealous bout it or its family troubles . sometimes its hard to talk about FAM issues ..even to a bff give her time u need it as well 👍

I don't how to open up to my frnds whenever I have something bad or good happening in my life i cant share becoz I fear that they will judge me especially when it's something that has to do wit boys so wat should I do becoz I feel heavy inside

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

What happening to my body if i used to bath with extremely hot water or wearing tight regularly...?

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Hey Springster Thank you for reaching out. Certain materials such as nylon can trap heat and moisture which increases the chances of getting a yeast infection. This, however, doesn't mean that you will get a yeast infection for sure if you wear tight clothing. Taking hot baths regularly is not damaging to your body. These kind of questions are normal to ask and should you have any more questions please do not hesitate to contact either us here in the comments or Love Life. They will be more than happy to answer any questions you should have and to also teach you more about your body and how it works. Call them on 0800 121 900 or their website www.lovelife.org.za.

hey l was on my periods in September . October , November and now December l haven't been on my periods l don't know what's wrong 😓😓 plz help me springster's

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Hey buhlebethu, many women experience an irregular period at one point or another in their lives, but some women experience irregularity in their menstrual cycle for longer than usual. An irregular period occurs if your period comes more than frequently every 21 days, if it lasts longer than 8 days, if you miss it or if it comes earlier than usual. If you’re experiencing irregular periods it’s probably nothing to worry about. Teenagers are most likely to experience irregularity in their menstrual cycles because they have just gone through puberty and their bodies are settling into a pattern. However, an irregular menstrual cycle can signal mental/physical health issues like stress, over-exercising or extreme dieting, or thyroid disease. Your period is also affected by changes in contraception method or hormonal changes. The only way to fully understand what is happening with your menstrual cycle is to go see your nearest healthcare professional. You can also call Love Life on 0800 121 900 or send them a please call me on this number 0 8 3 3 2 3 1 0 2 3 to call you back.

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March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

hi I'm new here so I think I'm not far in enough I think that I'm skinny and curvy sometimes when walking with friends boys always approach my friends coz they are curvy with big buttocks I get jealous even though I get motivation about jealousy still .......

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

Hy I had sex on the 1st December than second day I drinked morning after pills than Saturday I took pregnancy test it was negative than I had doubts I brought cyctotec pill than drinked them than i started experiencing cramps and went on my periods they had blood clots than 3 week i brought clear blue digital pregnancy test it wrote negative than January I took another test to make sure it was negative than went on my periods which where normal but my aunty decided to take me to a private doctor after I was done with my periods the doctor did a sona pregnancy scan and said I am oky but when I see a pregnant person I get crazy I am going crazy and am in grade 12 so this is making me plz hep me loss focus please help me springster

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.