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Puberty has changed your body, you go on your period and feel sexual urges. It’s normal, including wanting to start having sex. Some girls wait until they’re older. Others feel ready to do it right now. That’s okay too. The right time to go there is when you feel ready.

Your body, your rules
If you don't want to have sex, saying no might seem impossible or scary. You may feel comfortable doing some things with your partner but not others. Have a think about what your rules or boundaries are. It's time to take charge of your body. You need to talk to your partner about your rules, practice them and share your thoughts. If they care, they'll respect them.

Know where you stand
What if your partner has answers to all your reasons? Maybe they say you would do it if you really loved them. What do you say to that? Try this one: if you loved me, you would respect my decision to wait. Or they say all their friends are doing it. Remind them that they are dating you, not their friends’ girlfriends.

Protect yourself
Condoms prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. They are free at public clinics and hospitals.

Talk to bae
It’s necessary to have a conversation about HIV, getting tested and protecting each other from infections. Thinking about it is scary, but you need to protect your health.

You can change your mind
You’ve said yes but having doubts when you think about it. Or the action has started but you really, really don’t feel like sex and want to change your mind. It’s allowed and happens all the time! A good partner will respect this.

Be comfortable
If you freak out every time you think about doing it, chances are you’re not ready. There’s no need to feel guilty, these feelings emerge at different times for everyone.

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Annie

I have alwats been around or known older guys and they wuld ask for sex .i am only 15 -16 i am scared of allowing them not because im not ready but their manhoods r quiet large and when they hugged me i used to feel thier manhood i was quiet uncomfortable. I was later maulested by one of them . I don't know if i am ready 4 sex but i have recovered from the incident i just wanna be with a gud guy who isn't too much .cus then sex won't be an issue.

May 6, 2022, 8:34 a.m.

Yeah he if he really love me he must respect my decision...

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I agree with you if he can respect your decision let him go to hell...............

Yeah I've learned a lot

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True he must wait for u until u are ready to go it if he really loves you

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True he must wait for u until u are ready do it if he really loves you

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Girls often feel pressured by they friends and boyfriends but u should feel not be pressured or ypu might regret the decision

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When you are a girl its hard to say no if you really love your boyfriend

Uhm... hi, I'm kay-leigh. And I'm 14 I have a boyfriend who is now 15 and isn't a vrigin. He broke his previous girl's virginity and because we are dating for a year, he is now putting pressure on me to have sex with him. I feel like I'm not ready but sometimes I feel like I'm no satisfying him and that makes me sad

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Im a boy...Girl wht you need to do is to take decision to say NO because ur not ready and do nt understimate ur feeling...You will do it whn you feel readyy

I would strongly suggest you do not lose your virginity to this guy because you are not ready. Firstly, you're still very young, being in the relationship for a year does not permit him to pressure you. If he loves you he will understand that you are not ready. Having sex with him will not assure that he will stay around.

Guys im 14 i was dating a guy and he was also 14 years old nd we were dating for 2years and 3months and what i liked about him is that he never asked me for my Virgin we never spoked about that.I'm so glad coz i wasn't ready nd stil im not ready.I'm very scared don knw why

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I dont think u should be scared cz he might notice nd take advantage of wateva the situation is

Yas you need to have confident

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with a show of hands how many of u are boys my typical question is why do some of u feel the nerve of when she says no to try and push ur self onto her..thats not cool a forcing urself onto her is called rape im a girl that has almost been raped by my ex and i never saw it coming i dont feel as if i could ever trust a boy ever again

other boys when u say u nt ready theYy bcm angry wit u I dnt knw why😒

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

h ghvyStop ducking. nnbhhhhununhhhhhhnnnjnnybyhm.

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All most boys care about is satisfying their sexual pleasure and us girls want to satisfy them because we're afraid of losing them

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I dnt care if a boy breaks up with me cause I refuse to satisfy his needs.There are 2 many fishes in the sea wanting to be explored. That's my motto in life.If u cnt stand the heat get out of the kitchen.SIMPLE.

Type your comment Not all guys do that,I waited 14months with my previous girlfriend before she was ready.

if he don't want 2 take no 4 a answer then leave him because he can't fores u and he must respect your decides and if he say he love u then he must live with u saying no

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You're so right. No one should force you into something if you aren't ready and you have every right to say no!

If he really loves you he will wait until you are ready

What if you are ready but afraid that something might go wrong....what to do?

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Something wrong like what?

Then you aren't ready. You should be completely comfortable when you take your relationship to the next level and be well informed so you have nothing to worry about.

Why you're not ready?

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

you scared or you not ready

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I'm not ready

Hi ppl i would lyk 2 knw how 2 handle abusive boyfriend...and who doesnt wanna be dumped...

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Thank you for being brave and sharing your story. Contact the childline where you'll find friendly and caring professionals ready to help and assist you. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on a their 24/7 on our Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help..Check out their cool website http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

just get the protection order against him

he is 22 and I'm 14,we just started dating and he is ready for sex well I don't know if im ready or not😔

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Talking to a trusted professional is really important as it's hard to tackle this stuff on your own. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call HI4LIFE where you'll find helpful and reliable information on pregnancy to the importance of using protection and going for a pap smear, HIV and motherhood easily on your mobile phone. Check out their Facebook, visit their website http://hi4life.co.za

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gal u r so young n not ready to HV sex m it will b best for u if u just stay away from him if he is denying not to HV sex

Halo @Unathi..find your self girl

My boyfriend wanted to have sex with me and I told him I'm not ready,his now cheating and I don't wanna lose him so what am I suppose to do😥?

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I think breaking up with him is the best thing to do now because if he really loved you he would have understood that you are not ready I know breaking up with someone you still love is not easy but girl its for the best and it will spare you the. Heartbreak

Hey Springster. I know it must be hard to move on from someone you love. He betrayed your trust and by the sound of things, you wouldn't treat him that way. You're young, and I don't think if you slept with him that he would remain faithful, he's proven this. Good luck.

if he was so SRS abt u then he would HV understood the situation m he would HV just b patient until u tell him dat u a ready..actually I think it will b best for u if u guys get married before u rush into this whole sex thing

Hy gals um new to dc App i hv a prblm of my lver he always falls asleep alwys when um with him as i speak ryt nw he is sleepng n nw um startng to hv second thoughts abwt him t so confusing coz if um nt around he is soo hyper and awake only to find when um around he wll say he is tired n want to take a Nap plz gals help m coz it would hv been better f i knw dat he dnt lv m d prblm i knw him too well n he's crazy abwt m he cnt evn copy to complete a single dai without call n remaind m da way he lvs mee We hang um together n spend quality tym dooo all d thngs dat normal couples doo bt um soo afraid nw dat i wll end up cheating we talked abwt dc bt still there is no changee

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Hi Springster. Thank you for your comment it must be really frustrating to deal with this. Communication is key and if you don't express that this makes you unhappy then he won't know to change. I would suggest you tell him that him sleeping all the time annoys you then see if he tries to change. I wouldn't advise cheating. If you're unhappy then you should end things before you pursue another relationship with someone else. Good luck

Waiting for the right time enables you not to face many challenges or consequences at an early age.....Let's wait ladies

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

The problem is with bae cause he wants us to take our relationship to the next level by having sex which is im not okay with it. When i tell him that im not ready,he gets angry and annoyed . He doesnt understand the fact that im not ready to have sex. I still waiting for the right time to have sex. Im not in a rush to have sex anyway.

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Hey Springster. No means no and if that makes your boo angry then he isn't the one! A relationship is about more than sex, he needs to be understanding that you aren't ready and if he loved you he wouldn't be forcing you to feel otherwise.

love is all about sex , soo we every time is tee time

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can I knw you really plz

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My boyfriend want to have sex with me bt I'm not ready,i don't know what to do, I love him and I told him that I'm not ready , that not sitting well with him .I'm scared I will lose him bt I love him too much.plz help

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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The best thing to do sweetheart is to be honest and explain your situation **if he don't want to hear you out then he doesn't deserve you

My boyfriend want to have sex with me but i am not ready on him it feels like i am not satisfying him with his needs he dont want to accept my decision of waiting so i dont knw what to do couse i do love him alot

My boyfriend respects my decision tht I'm not ready to have sex with him but when we have a conversation about it I freak out like really I even shake something .My question is tht is this Normal?

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My boyfriend lied to his teacher n frnds that he hv a baby with me n right nw he want to make a baby with me nd I told him that I was also thinking about the same thing only to find out that I jt wanted to make him happy Nd to be Honest am too Young to break my V so hv a baby plz help me wat should I do?

Yah

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Amen

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SRS vele

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Prevention is better than ciure

Ohk my problem is I'm in a relationship with a guy that has a wife and a kid to the other country his wife n a kid they don't come this side so I spend lot of time with him I love him a lot but whenever I think of his wife n a kid my heart become sore i don't know wt to do please advice

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Hi Spingster. No matter how much you love him you have no future with a married man. Is your conscience makes you feel bad then maybe you should end things.

But again what confuses is me is why sometimes when he is with me keeps on talking about our future that we going to have a future together or is that all a lie #crying#

Hi Springster. He sounds very manipulative and will tell you what you want to hear. Follow your gut feeling.

Nowadays its in many cases not about love but list ND nt taking responsibilities 4 our actions ND our own decisions we make

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I agree 😥ladies must learn to say no

Girls are weak when it comes to boys they can't say no to them cause they fear they will loose them 😧😭girl's be the best to urself and don't let fear stands in ur way😊😊cause at the end it's u who is going to suffer by being pregnant

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Hey Springster. You're right! We need to stand up for ourselves, stand our ground and say no when we aren't ready. We own our bodies we need to remember that.

I'm new here Guyz but I like your views ...Yes us girls we are afraid of losing our Bfs especially me I'm unable to say no I juc say yes to everything he says but later on will start feeling guilty or regreting every moment that I have spent with him sometimes will juc tell myself won't see him again but wen he app or call will juc losen up

Hey guys I'm new here ⭐... I have a boyfriend whom I love dearly he loves me to . The problem between us always comes out when we are talking about sex.Last night we were hanging in his crib talking having fun suddenly we got to a level were we got turned on to sex . I stop him there , the last time I had sex was with a guy I was dating the way he was treating me was really nice until I had sex with him then I fell really apart from him not knowing to him it all about sex and left me jct like dat . I'm thinking the same about my boyfriend too ... SIS'GABI ADVISE PLS

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Hey Springster. It's understandable that you wouldn't want to take your relationship to the next level because you've been hurt in the past. The only person who can decide if you're ready or not is yourself and until your current boyfriend has gained your trust and until you feel 100% sure that you want to have sex with him then you shouldn't do it and he should understand.

bt is it possible for a guy not to b ready to hv sex or is it onli us gals? coz mst tyms is gals dat r nt ready

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Hi Springster, yes it is possible. Boys should be able to decide to wait if they want to.

Hey Guys I nid ur help please i met this guy he's soh cute but what i hate about him is tht he is a player soh..he want to sleep with meh but i don't want to ... actually I'm not ready for tht ...should i leave him or tell him ??

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Hi Springster. If you know he's a player and can never be loyal to you then I'd suggest you leave. Guard your heart.

I feel that since he is a player, he will proberbly play you as well. Guyz who come into our lives for sex are the ones who will ruin our lives the most. Take care of yourself and heart bee❄

leave him coz he is a player

To be honest jt leave him...coz he's a player n he wl hv sex with u n leave u jt like that OR even worse he wl make u pregnant then after he disappear like he never existed in life so jt do the right thing ok..

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The problem starts when all of his friends and your friends are having sex but you are not ready to have sex I end up doubting his love towards me what if he goes around starting to cheat on me and I will be doing it for him to accommodate him around his friends

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Hi Springster. If he isn't willing to wait until you're ready then he isn't the one. Don't feel pressured because everyone else is having sex, that has nothing to do with your relationship with your boyfriend. Keep your head up and stick to what you feel is best for you.

I've told myself that I'm not ready because you never know boys can be so wicked,, even though my boyfriend tells me "bae boys are not the same" I clearly do understand but I feel that I'm not emotionally nd physically ready.. I mean I'd hate to disappointed my parents even though I do think about doing it I just can't bring myself into agreeing to get intimate

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Hi Springster. That's okay, it's fine for you to wait and you don't need to explain yourself to anyone!

you must talk to him in a good maner about how you feel

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Yes talk to him

I think that you must feel like you are not only ready physically, but emotionally too. If you have sex before you truly understand why you are doing it with him, then you might mess yourself up emotionally. So think about it clearly and make sure that he is also somewhere along the level you are in the issue of being intimate with one another because its great and all to use protection to prevent pregnancy and STI's but what about protecting yourselves against emotional crud that may come after having sex

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Hey Springster, that's very true. Being intimate with someone on that level does create a sense of attachment and when things don't work out as planned it can be very heartbreaking. So you're right, one should be prepared emotionally too.

Its small time to enjoy xsarias life to me

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

Well, I told myself that I would consider sex when I feel I'm ready. Until I met this guy. He told me that by the end of the year he would have gotten sex from me. I ignored it at first until it was around August. He told me that he has waited too long and that if i didn't give him what he wanted, be would never speak to me again. I told him it would be better that way, and ever since that day, i havent spoken to him. I feel that we shouldnt let guys intimidate us. No means No, and we shouldnt live to a dead line based on our virginities.

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Hey Springster. I agree. What you did was the right thing to do. You own your body, it is yours to make the decision over and when you're ready you'll know. Good for you!

You couldn't have said it better girl. I also broke up with three guys who just wanted to have sex on the first week. Most men think that they have an obligation to our bodies and they are so wrong, we should take charge and stand for ouseves. Because even though we are living in the fast life and teenagers are obsessed with sex, we are different and we should do what pleases us other than following the norms of this world.

I have a problem, way too many people in my classroom keep coming to me and are asking for sex. They are convinced I'm not a virgin. And the truth is that I am a virgin. How do I send the message across that I'm a virgin and don't see miself sleeping with any of them. They keep touching me and I often feel uncomfortable. One of them evwn told mi that mi virgirnity is a trophy that the will het. Should i be scared?

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Hi Springster. You are under no obligation to prove to anyone that you're a virgin. These boys shouldn't be asking you about that topic because it's a very personal matter. You are not at fault! Perhaps you should talk to an older sibling, parent, aunt or mentor for support during this time and they can accompany you to your principal to report the fact that these boys touch you and make you feel uncomfortable if you don't want to go alone. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but it might be a good idea to talk your feelings through with someone from Childline SA. Contact them if you are feeling scared or alone. They are here to help you! Give them a call and they will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. You can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information

the thing during sex I feel nothing n yet he feels more satisfied than me the problem is that I keep on thinking about my previous boyfriend that he pleases more than my current boyfriend n sometimes just to be pleased I go bk to my previous boyfriend n do sex my current boyfriend I can't feel him I feel the previous one more n im happy whn I do sex with him I feel free the problem with him for me to be with him is that he has a family so idk wt to do n I lv him so much so I end up cheating with my previous boyfriend

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Hi Springster. It's unfortunate that you are unhappy in your current relationship, but being unfaithful doesn't resolve the issues you are facing. I would recommend you be honest and end the relationship that way you don't have to feel guilty about being dishonest. Any time you're engaging in sexual activity I would recommend you use condoms, which you can find for free at your nearest health care provider, to avoid the contraction of STIs, HIV and pregnancy. Take precautionary measures and stay safe. Good luck

I will do something diffrent like putting it in the other hole

my thing is I like Analsex I did it alot with my ex but now I have a new partner who doesnt know how do I say it to him

i broke up with 2 guys because i didn't want to have sex with them simply because i wasn't ready now am dating a guy i love him so much id never wanna lose him but bcz of de issue of sex i think i might lose him ..am i being self fish ...? please advise

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Hi Springster. The right time to have sex is when YOU feel ready. Saying no might seem impossible or scary right now and the only reason you'd want to do it is to keep your boyfriend happy and that’s not okay! Write down a list of reasons why you’re not ready and practice your answers, like being scared of pregnancy, being unsure about your feelings, or wanting to wait until you’re little bit older. Let’s say he says you would do it if you really loved him. What do you say to that? Try this one: if you loved me, you would respect my decision to wait!

No u not being selfish u doing the right thing if this guy really loves u then he should understand that u are not ready.

if he really loves you he will wait for you until you agree doing it

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Hey Springster. How can I help you?

Some girls are ready but the thing is boys talk you know , and that isn't right becoz there's only two people who took place in the sexual intercourse and am scared that the person will have sexual intercourse with me and then break up after that ? What should I do ?? Abstinence??

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Hi Springster. Deciding to have sex is a big deal. The person you decide to take that step with should be someone you can trust and if you think he will tell his friends or break up with you afterwards then maybe he's not the one and you should wait until you feel 100% comfortable.

You have a right yo say "NO",IF HE LOVES YOU HE WILL NEVER SAY SHOW ME THAT YOU LOVE ME BY HAVING SEX...RATHER LIVE HIM ,DO THE RIGHT THING BY LISTENING TO THE INNER PERSON ...THE INNER PERSON IN YOU IS ALWAYS RIGHT ..NEVER DO SOMETHING THAT U WILL REGRET AT THE END OF THE DAY.

Yoh that awkward moment

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yes you right because is your right to say No and No means No

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Am 16 and I recently broke my virginity two months ago...It was very painful and I didn't enjoy it.My bae wants us to do it again but I don't want to because normally my periods are irregular but after it they became worse and I feel frustrated.I don't regret breaking my virginity but I don't want to feel the pain again

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Hi Springster. Here's an article I think could help you http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-body/ouch/

then tel him how you feel about it ..be honest

Make him understand that you not ready.. If he truly loves you he will be patient with you.

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Gyz I'm new here

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Hey I'm azzy i want share my story oky it goes like this i met this guy and we became friends until he tells me how he feels about me and i wasn't interested and introduce my friend to this guy afterwards my told me that I should give a guy a chace and i think bout it Nd i develop feelings for him and we started dating and enjoy every single minutes when I'm with him he take me to his home to meet up his frnds and his brother i used to visit him more often coz i was enjoying chilling with him and his friends our relationship was okay until he told me that he wants to have sex with me and want to have child with me and I told him that I'm not ready and he asked me when. I'm going to be ready and i said maybe next but not sure it was difficult for him to understand but he tried avoid that cos he never dated a virgin before I'm the first one the problem is that i love him with all my heart i don't wanna lose him but we hardly speak on WhatsApp he just ignoring my messages but if i tell him let not date let be just frndz don't want to even i say let break up his refusing don't know why but i think his having a new girlfriend I'm trying to forget about him but honestly i can't pls gys help what must I do?????

Hi Azenathy. Thank you for your comment. It must be very confusing especially after he's been ignoring you but also doesn't want to end the relationship. I'm glad that you stuck by your word and didn't have sex just to keep him around, that's very mature and courageous of you. I'd advise you never do anything that you aren't ready to do and also never do anything that makes you uncomfortable. If he continues to ignore you then I think you should end things, he's messing with your time and you can't wait around for him to be serious with you. Communication is key but if he's ignoring you then you can't even do that. You're still young and you'll find someone who respects your wishes to wait!

Thank you so much guys i have moved on with my life recently but i keep having Flash backs about him every time when he view my Status but m cool now thnks for the Advice it really helped me I'm so young to stress about the person doesn't care about me

my boyfriend wants to have sex but I am not ready for that

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Hey Springster. The right time t have sex is when you are 100% ready, physically and emotionally. Having sex for the first time is a big step and you decide when the right time for you is. Here's and article that might help you http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-body/he-ready-im-not/

Be open to him and tell him you are not ready if he loves you he will understand

Hello guys, my name is Saleh. I'm new here. i am single. I want to know a friend girl. This is my BlackBerry account: D8A93793 .. Please chat with me

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

what if bae have HIV?

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Hi Springster. Couples with one partner infected and the other not infected is called a serodiscordant couple. I would advise you visit your nearest clinic or doctor who will give you a professional medical opinion on PReP. Several studies have shown that effective antiretroviral treatment dramatically lowers the risk of onward HIV transmission—a concept known as “treatment-as-prevention”—- while PrEP taken consistently reduces the risk of infection by more than 90%. There are methods you can use so that you don't infect him as well as using condoms.

hey.me and my boyfriend we are cool but the problem is that his friends are telling me that he broke up with me . And i want to know what is really happening

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Hi Springster. Communication is key in relationships. Bring up the fact that you've been hearing rumours and he must explain if they are true or not. From there you can both decide what you want to do with your relationship next.

Hi springster

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

Hey.my boyfriend have changed .He says when we gonna do sex coz all his friends are doing it and he feel like he don't have a girlfriend .When I tell him that I'm nit read to have sex he stating to tell me many this like we've date 2 years we, don't even have sex.I keep telling him that he must not lesion his friends .He said he want to be a father know .....i'm not ready for sex and being a mom,I love being a mom but not in this age .....Can you please help me !?

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Hi Springster. Thanks for your comment. Seems like you and your boyfriend are not on the same page in this relationship. I'd encourage you to stick to your decision about not having sex until you're ready. It's a big step to take and you would regret doing it just to please him. If you and him can't come to an agreement then maybe the relationship should come to an end and thee two of you can be friends. Remember you are in charge of what happens with your body and you can meet someone who is willing to wait until you're ready. Good luck

hey there..just because "everyone" is doing it doesnt mean you should or must..its your choice not his or anyone elses .. i mean if everyone jums into fire are you aso going to ..no

if u not ready he must not force u becoz tht is a rape.u have to broke up wth him he

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March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

hi there..if a boy ask you to have intercourse with him and you dont wanto..be honest with him tel him how you feel about it or if your not ready dont let anyone force you into doing anything you dont want to do..its your choice and if he/she tells you if you dont do it with me you dont love me..please thats bullshit to say..if you really love the person you will wait for them and accept their decision and respect it fully if you dont like it then your ony using the person..many people confuse sex with love,,sex is not love and you dont have to have intercourse to show someone you love them..you can show them thru holding them or to give them a lil kiss or to respect them and to love them just to have them in your life..and dont think its fine to bully someone into doing it or to say oh if you dont wanto do it ill do it with someone else..what..!! then it means you dont love neither resect that person or their choice and it means you wil hurt them just to get what you want..girls and boys never let someone let you do things your not ready or comfortable with.......

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Hi NicoleneQ18. Thanks for sharing this with us you're entirely right. Love doesn't mean sex and you should never do anything you aren't 100% comfortable with to prove to someone that you love them!

Hi guys... I'm a very shy person so please 4give me .. Yesterday I went to a bash and this guy wanted to rape my cousin.. he said if I don't want that to happen,then I'll have to kiss him ... so I did .. today is my baes birthday and I haven't called him coz I think he knows I kissed that guy .. what should I *do*??

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Hi niller. Thanks for sharing your comment with us. What happened to you is no way your fault and you shouldn't blame yourself. I can understand that you felt very afraid and threatened and would do anything to help your cousin. You should explain that to your boyfriend. Have you thought of speaking to a parent, mentor or professional for support. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, depressed or feel alone. They are here to help you! Contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

tell him that you saved your cousin's life

Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are suicidal, depressed or feel alone. They are here to help you! Contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Hey...I'm 16 nd dating this guy who's 20, he has a child already with the previous partner. He wants me to make love to me yet I'm a virgin, so he's been telling me how nice is it n i'll enjoy... He also said he can't keep carving for it well I'm with him The problem is I'm not ready I'm not ready n not sure about my feelings for him.

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Hi Thobane_83 . Thanks for your comment. Seems like you and your boyfriend are not on the same page in this relationship. I'd encourage you to stick to your decision about not having sex until you're ready. It's a big step to take and you would regret doing it just to please him. If you and him can't come to an agreement then maybe the relationship should come to an end and thee two of you can be friends. Remember you are in charge of what happens with your body and you can meet someone who is willing to wait until you're ready. Good luck

Than you much

Thank you very much

Hi guys I am 11 years old and I am dating this guy who is always in a rush to have sex with me and I am a bit scared to say no please help me

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NO! Weather its being said gently or roughly you need to say it your 11 not even in high school Keep Calm AND Say NO💑

talk to ur bae but some of them get angry if u come to visit him n do not give him wat he wanted then the relationship started to end .wat u hv to do if ur bae get angry when u do not give him wat he wanted for u seek relationship

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Hey Shozi, thank you for your comment. Sex is not the only way to express love in a relationship. Having sex is also something that you have to be ready for. You should tell your boyfriend how you feel about sex and if he truly wants to be with you, he will respect your feelings and not force you into anything that you are not ready for.

gal i think you should tell him you are equal in this world you can't do something that you dnt want to do cause you can have sex with him he will enjoy you but you dnt enjoy him

Take yo time

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I hv a problem my bf want to hv sex with Mi but I'm scared to hv sex with want if he leave me after having it

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Hi Hlongwa. Thank you for sharing. I understand your hesitation - sex is serious and you shouldn't start having sex because you are feeling pressure from your boyfriend. You should only have sex when you are ready and when it feels right. Tell your boyfriend about your fears and that you aren't ready. If he loves you - he will wait.

I broke up with my boyfriend because he's ready to have sex and I'm not. Do you think I'm being selfish?

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Hi Naydee. Thanks for your question. No that isn't selfish. You shouldn't feel forced to do anything you aren't 100% comfortable with. You broke up with him because you realised you weren't on the same page and that's okay to look out for yourself first.

Hi Springster. I'm a 16 year old girl and I'm still a virgin. I've had two encounters where I nearly lost my virginity. The reason I backed out was because I feel insecure about my body. How can I get over the fear that my boyfriend will not like my body?

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Hi Gemini_Queen. You should never do anything you aren't comfortable with and if having sex now isn't something you're comfortable with then don't do it. You should give yourself some time to gain confidence in yourself and that will make things easier. Here's an article you can read http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-life/your-confidence-check/

Hey Springster, many women have insecurities about our bodies, don't worry you are not alone. You can boost your confidence by complimenting yourself every morning and by replacing every negative thought about your body with a positive affirmation. Surround yourself with people that make you feel good about yourself and slowly cut off people that say bad things about you.

Hi I'm 16 n my b.f is 21 he wants us to do sex but I'm still a virgin n I'm scared that he'll break my virginity n live me for some one else n when I'm with him we usually kiss n he put his finger in my Virginia n it painful but I don't want to tell him what should I do plz help me

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Hi BaekaT. Thanks for your comment. Just remember you should never do anything that you aren't 100% comfortable with. You shouldn't want to have sex with him to keep him around but because you're ready. I recommend you tell him how you feel and if he doesn't understand then you aren't on the same page and maybe you should consider if you want to continue with this relationship.

Tell him that you sori but you don't like that kinda stuff at least not now

what do u do when u wait for her to be ready ..then when she is ready she start cheating on u n hv sex with dose other guyz?

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Hi SKAY.. You break up with her and move on. You need to be with someone who is faithful to you.

Move on 🤘strongs bra

So everytime when Im alone I feel like I'm ready to have sex but when the time comes I feel so emotional and end up crying and this made my ex really angry so yea we broke it off. I think he was only after sex

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Yah he was

Hi GiRls,I nEeD yOuR hElP.I'm DaTiNg WiTh ThIs GuY aNd It'S bEeN a YeAr NoW,hE wAnTs To HaVe SeX wItH mE bUt I kEeP tElLinG hIm ThAt I'm NoT rEaDy AnD bEsIdEs ThAt I dOn'T wAnT tO lOsE mY vIrGiNiTy AnYtImE sOoN.So I'm ScArEd ThAt He MiGhT dUmP mE bEcAuSe I lOvE hIm VeRy MuCh.WhAt ShOuLd I dO....?

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If he really loves you he won't dump you if he does dump you his a jerk that only wanted to get into your pants

Hi Manti. Seems like you and your boyfriend are not on the same page in this relationship. I'd encourage you to stick to your decision about not having sex until you're ready. It's a big step to take and you would regret doing it just to please him. If you and him can't come to an agreement then maybe the relationship should come to an end and thee two of you can be friends. Remember you are in charge of what happens with your body and you can meet someone who is willing to wait until you're ready. Good luck

give me your tenz

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Last week me nd Linda went 2 a very beautiful and romantic date,it was fun and I enjoyed, after we entered his house, he started kissing me non-stop. Our kissing led 2 his bedroom,and he was now forcing himself on me,kissing so hard and holding my hands. I let him touch my body parts because I trusted him,he was my boyfriend I knw him. We have talked about no sex before marriage. He kept on going on,we moved from the bed to the wall,he pushed me gently against the wall and he kept on kissing. We moved again from the wall to the floor from the floor to the table and back again on the bed,he started touching me rough but I tried 2 speak but he would not let me. That was when I started feeling uncomfortable,but he kept on kissing,he took off my skirt,I said No,he was angry and said 2 me he knws I want this. Then off my panties,jacket,shirt,bra. He ran outside for a while and when he came back he found me all dressed up. He went 2 buy some condoms. He then said if I love him we will do this but I held his hand and calmed him down. I think he understood because he is not moody against me.It was not the first time he did this. Why is he understanding? I think he is cheating on me.But I wish all the ladies out there can stand up 4 themselves like I did.I am proud of myself and would like 2 keep it that way

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U must really b in love with this guy ..cs u even know how to calm him after that....u did the ryt though u don't have to sleep with him bcs he wants to n u don't....remember it's ur body u will decide when u ready to have sex

Hi RapBae. Thanks for sharing your story with us. It must've been a very uncomfortable situation for you to have found yourself in. I think that if you continue this relationship that it's important to state clear boundaries of what you want and where this is going. Good for you for standing up for yourself. Here's an article that you can show him that describes consensual sex http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-body/what-consensual-sex/

Me and Linda,we are lovie dovies but when it comes 2 sex we argue a lot. Plz tell me your suggestions on what I should do

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Hi RapBae, respect is very important in a relationship. Whether you disagree or not, respect what your partner says about sex.

Bae is 17 and I am 14 he wants sex i don't want to so i told him, he said its fine out of the blue he wants to have sex, what muoi do?

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Hi michy15. Thanks for sharing your comment. You should never do anything you aren't 100% comfortable with and if he can't accept that you aren't ready then maybe he isn't the right guy for you. Here's an article you can read http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-life/ready-or-not-emotional-risks-early-sex/

Bae is 17 and I am 14 he wants sex i don't want to so i told him, he said its fine out of the blue he wants to have sex, what must i do?

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Hey Michy, thanks for your comment. No one should force you to do anything that you aren't ready for. If he persists then you can end the relationship. You shouldn't be with someone that does not respect your decisions. Good luck Springster!

He is ready for sex but am not....its been for 6 months....we now going to 7 Am really not ready for sex n I don't think I'll be willing to give him my virginity....i really love the guy but do see myself with him in the same bed....And lately his been asking me when are we going to have sex and his telling me its been months without him having Sex....i really don't know what to do

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Tell him that u will start having sex when u a ready and that he must respect ur wishez. If he doesnt and forces himself on u then he doesnt love u, he only wants sex frm u and tbat means that u must dump him only if u want to

Tell him that u will start having sex when u a ready and that he must respect ur wishez. If he doesnt and forces himself on u then he doesnt love u, he only wants sex frm u and tbat means that u must dump him only if u want to

Hi Mbaliie. Thanks for sharing your comment. The right time to have sex is when YOU feel ready. Saying no might seem impossible or scary right now and the only reason you'd want to do it is to keep your partner happy and that’s not okay! Write down a list of reasons why you’re not ready and practice your answers, like being scared of pregnancy, being unsure about your feelings, or wanting to wait until you’re little bit older. Let’s say he says you would do it if you really loved him. What do you say to that? Try this one: if you loved me, you would respect my decision to wait!

every time my b.f and I kiss I just melt like ice I lose control over my actions and let's him do as he pleases but the thing is that I'm still a virgin and all we do is just menstruate each other I have feeling that one day it will go further than that I mean I can't control myself every touch just makes my panties wet same time....I'm not ready to have sex with should I stop seeing him until I decide wat I really want?

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U could stop seeing n then decide on what u really want

babe tell him to stop touching yu whenever u feel uncomfortable

Hey Springster, thanks for your comment. You should communicate your intentions with your boyfriend clearly and let him know that you aren't ready to have sex. Try and avoid situations that will lead you to do things that you may regret later. Think of activities that you and your boyfriend can do without getting physical like taking a walk or playing board games with other couples.

why by your reasons tell us about your lit stories

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Yesisntgood

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Why is sex so important in a relationship??

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Sorry for the bad responce but i thnk cuz sex is nice it makes u feel good

oryt you tlk to him as ur boyfriend ...n he understand n promise tht he ll wait bcuz he love you... aftr a week the contact between the two changes ... is it natural ...or should one talk to 1 if the other has pride!!!!

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Hi Springster, try talking to him and asking him why things between the two of you have changed. One of you has to put your pride aside and reach out. But be prepared for the fact that things may not go the way that you'd like.

i am in a relationship with thus guy and people keep telling me dat he is not gud ..he's sexually active and i love this guy i thought of breaking up with him bcos of wat people say am u doin de right thing or not?

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If u listen to what people say now thn u will do tht always in the future...they jealous to see u being happy...if u love him nd he loves u thn u dnt need other people's opinion.

Hi Springster, your relationship - your choice. But if a lot of people are saying that he's not a good person try to understand where they are coming from and why they're saying what they're saying. Make your decision based on all the facts.

What happen if some one having sex with his girlfriend while she z in period and without use condom

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Hi there, it's very rare but people have been known to fall pregnant if they have unprotected sex while in their period. Every time you have unprotected sec you risk an unwanted pregnancy and STIs.

I thnk she wll be peg

Why now days love z strong with sex?

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I won't be intimidated by a boy I think all girl have the right to say no and dats the first rule saying no is not a crime no one will testify against you so don't feel guilty while saying no to sex

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Hey Springster! Thanks for your comment; never allow anyone into pressuring you into something that you don't want to do. Have you heard this quote, "I have feet in my shoes, a brain in my head and I can steer myself in any direction I choose"

Galz the love for ur man must never be determined by sex if u a not ready u are not ..... Don't make him force just in the name of love

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Hey Springster. Here, here to that!

Hey sisters, I'm new here. I need your advice's. I'm 22 years old and I'm in a relationship with a 24yr old guy. on the first day that we met we had sex but after few days he started distancing himself but after 2 months we got back together but then things started to change again and the thing is I really love the guy so much, so I don't know if I should move on with my life or keep trying till things gets better. please help me

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Hi Springster. Thank you for sharing. The only way to know where you stand is to have an open discussion. You may not like everything he has to say but getting his perspective on the relationship may help you make your decision.

I cringe when girls see the signs and still dont figure it out.... U r probably in dis relatinship wit ur heart alone n not with ur head. He's only seen u as a sex object Even if u talk bout it He will still find a way to convince u he's in love with u... Wake up girlie.... run fast U nothing buh a sex object to this dude U reserve better

guys lets nt use sex as a weapon to da relationship strong .

Hey peeps, i am 16 years olad, and am dating a guy who is 27 years old.. now we have been dating since 2016. He asked me last night for sex.. and i seriously want to have sex with him, im super ready, he too.. but the thing is that his penis is like huge.. i really wanna have sex with him, but when he wash infront of me, i look @ his penis and think like wow! but i dont know what to do now

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no guys lets b honest da 1 is nt abt sex

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Which type of medication that you can take to cure STIs . actually buying from the pharmacy

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Guyz I need help, I'm 15 my bf is 16 a few dayz ago when we were at school he gave me contraceptives, I was surprised I didn't know wht 2 do or say and apparently he is ready for sex but I don't know if I am or not and I also don't want to be a disappointment 2 my mother being a teen mom is the last thing tht I want I really don't know wht 2 do guyz I could really use your help Plz help

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What are contraceptive???😕

Tablets tht prevent pregnancy

You should tell him that you are not ready

Let's say the first time he asked you to have sex with him ...but you said you are not ready.He understood. But this time before you even say it... He says please don't say you are not ready because we were born ready.. something like that.... What would you do?

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Hi guys I need some advice .I've been dating my boyfriend for some months .he is ready to have sex with me but I'm not ready ,because he didn't get circumsiced so I don't think I want to sleep with .Is it safe to have with him ?

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Hey Springster we are sure it's pretty safe to have sex with him if you are comfortable, ready and you give him your consent. This is as long as you are using a condom- circumcised or uncircumcised!

yes is not problem

I'm really not ready but my bf want to have sex with me ....what can I do to can I move on with my life pliz I need your help I don't know what to do pliz help me

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Hey Springster, you should only have sex when you want to, and when you are ready to; this is when you are able to give your consent. Sex must not be forced, like your bae pressuring you into it, threatening to dump you if you don’t do it or when you are under the influence of alcohol. Have you thought about a parent, older sibling, aunty, teacher or a professional who can offer you support? Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

yes not ready to have a sex with bf his boys loves u so much u can't leave them so simple take care of their love u must prepare of ur self

Tell him that u are not ready maybe he will understand ur situation

Guyz my girl she don't want to go to taste since we gate sex ?

Hi... my boyfriend is 1 year younger than me ...so is it right for me to date him and have sex with him because he's demanding to have it

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Hi Springster, you should only have sex when you want to, and when you are ready. You should never have sex just to keep your partner happy or because you feel pressured for other reasons. Also, people have different needs and wants in a relationship, so if your views about having sex clash with your partner then you have to have a conversation with him/her. If you can’t come to any agreements and you feel like you have to do things when you don’t feel ready then this might not be the right time for you and your partner to be together.Sex must not be forced, like your bae pressuring you into it, threatening to dump you if you don’t do it or when you are under the influence of alcohol. Have you thought about a parent, older sibling, aunty, teacher or a professional who can offer you support? Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Hi... my boyfriend is 1 year younger than me ...so is it right for me to date him and have sex with him because he's demanding to have it

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Hi Springster, you should only have sex when you want to, and when you are ready. You should never have sex just to keep your partner happy or because you feel pressured for other reasons. Also, people have different needs and wants in a relationship, so if your views about having sex clash with your partner then you have to have a conversation with him/her. If you can’t come to any agreements and you feel like you have to do things when you don’t feel ready then this might not be the right time for you and your partner to be together.Sex must not be forced, like your bae pressuring you into it, threatening to dump you if you don’t do it or when you are under the influence of alcohol. Have you thought about a parent, older sibling, aunty, teacher or a professional who can offer you support? Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

yes is good for u u love him so much

Hey everyone ,it is OK to break at the age of 21??

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Hello ezo If you are asking if it is okay to break your virginity at the age of 21 then it is up to you.It all depends on how ready and comfortable you are at that moment.

If u are comfortable with it

Hi guys i need your help here is the thing i LOVE SEXand i dont have a byfrnd so i just masterbate my self do u thnk dats crazy

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Hey love_kay, there is nothing wrong with pleasuring yourself sexually as long as you are comfortable with it.

same here ... BT I do HV a bf its just that am not ready to HV sex yet

hii guys I need to know if u mastarbate n hvnt been touched by a boy are u still a Virginia

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Hey Springsters, I need help. I'm a girl of 16 years, still a virgin, and a Zulu girl. I have a boyfriend , he's ready for sex and I'm ready too, but the fact of being a Zulu girl is the problem because my parents and my culture values being a virgin more than anything, and I'm scared, my parents especially my father as he's the provider of our family might be angry with me and even abandoned me in the streets or take me back home if they know that I'm having sex, as they check me regularly. My father has a bad temper and would even kill when he's angry. What do I do??

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Girl ,I say wait for the right time .You being ready doesn't necessarily mean that you should do it ,I say you should respect your parents decision ,they know what's right for you .I also have the same situation I feel like I'm ready but I I'm asked that my parents might find out that I'm no longer a virgin ,they'll probably also throw me in the streets .But I've decide to wait until I'm a bit older ,I'm also 16.

I will advice u to wait bcz u might have sex with ur bf after that he dumps u,what would u say to ur parents, wait for the right time and respect ur parents command bcz they know what's best for u👍👍

hey

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Hey Springster...Am a girl of 17 and I started dating a few months ago.I sometimes visit my Bae at his home n they knw me .But every time when he touches me I feel jumpy n sometimes its not easy for me to kiss him.I once kissed my best friend who's a lesbian n enjoyed it...Is it possible that I might be a Bisexual girl there becoz I don't really have feeling for the guy.I just dated him b.coz of the teen stage😖😖Plz help

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Hey Springster, we're so proud of you for claiming your sexual identity despite what others feel or think. It's so important to be yourself and own. You are sooo inspiring us! Monkeigh, you can date whoever you want. if you are attracted to girls, you can also be attracted to boys as well and vice versa. There are no rules when it comes to who you choose to love. You should call the Gay and Lesbian Network Helpline to ask to ask more questions and get support. They are available from Friday to Sunday, 18:00 to 22:00 on 0 8 6 0 3 3 3 3 3 1 or 0 8 6 0 3 3 3 3 3 1.

I have a problem ,a guy have feelings for me and there is a gap of 7 years between me and him ,i am starting to develop feelings for him ,at home again they don't want me date

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Hey Zabantu, your friends and family may have their opinions about your partner and who you should and shouldn’t date, but ultimately the decision to be and stay in a relationship with someone is a choice you will have to make on your own. The main thing is that you are happy and satisfied with the person you chose to be with. You want to be with someone who is looking out for your well-being.

Hie guys!!!!l lost my virginity with my ex.now my married bt

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Hie guys!!!!l lost my virginity with my ex.now my married bt

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: I've been dating this guy for 8 moths and I feel like the only way for him not to cheat on me is by satisfying his sexual need but I'm not sure if I assumed right ,I really love him so I'm not if I should wait a little longer or get on with it.

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Hey Springster, the right time to have sex is when YOU feel ready. Saying no might seem impossible or scary right now and the only reason you'd want to do it is to keep your partner happy and that’s not okay! Write down a list of reasons why you’re not ready, like being scared of pregnancy, being unsure about your feelings, or wanting to wait until you’re little bit older, and practice your answers. Let’s say he says you should do it if you really love him. What do you say to that? Try this one: if you loved me, you would respect my decision to wait!

Boys why do we date girls if you will force her to do sex with us,because they have a reason why they don't want to have it on that time,it not easy to force/do something that you know at the end you get in trouble about it,we have to know that love is not about sex

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I wish all men were as understanding as you 🙌

By gyz I am new here,I want to ask something if a boy have feelings for you and u have them to but u are afraid to date bcz pple here out will talk about u what should I do gyz pplz help me!!!😍

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lucky you baby girl 💕 . firstly if he likes you and you like him take the chance of being with him before its too late . don't worry about what others have to say . its your life , do whatever makes you happy . so take the chance of dating him . you'll be glad you did .

Yeah date him

yah in addition u must tell you boy friend that if you want force me do that it is better to leave me alone

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Hi guys um new here ...but I jux want to advice those who do sex jux to prove him that u rilly love him its wrong I have been in that situation I give away my virginity fr the sake of been loved by him I wz not ready fr dat I only do it fr him but now I'm regretting abt the decision that I make that tym I wish I would never do dat so dnt do something that u a not ready fr take yo tym until u feel like doing it

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Thanks for stopping me in this Friday I was gonna have sex

Hey guys I'm in a relationship where I'm sometimes said to talk because I think I will bore him then he will cheat on me again his going to leave me for other gals In a relationship where I feel I'm not worth it I need to talk to him about everything n I need him to talk to me about anything to Any advice lady's?

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Yes

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True

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

True

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yes guys when u are not ready u are not so ya thats life😊😊

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

yes guys when u are not ready u are not so ya thats life

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What do boys like the most of a girl

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

You need to be confident on this decision, let your "No be No... And your Yes be Yes. Stop saying I'm doing it because I love him... If so just ask your self would he do something for you because he loves you?.. Like if you asked him to marry you..boys like being in control in such matters, and I don't blame them.. We allow them to treat us like this. We don't trust ourselves 'in some way we lost our confidence. I say be yourself, take courage..and stop doing it because you scared he'll dump you. Wa Thinta Abafazi WA Thint 'Imbokotho. Yeeeess girls we can do this. 🙋👊

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

I think in a relationship its quite good to communicate. Getting to know each others weakness

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

It is u body just speak to him I'm a guy but I don't force a girl to love me or have sex with I stay safe because I known if I remain single I will many girl to control their feelings .

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

It is u body just speak to him I'm a guy but I don't force a girl to love me or have sex with I stay safe because I known if I remain single I will many girl to control their feelings .

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Take control of body if he don't need u in his life just break up with him

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Take control of body if he don't need u in his life just break up with him

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

If you dont feel ready to have sex just feel free without being scared of him and let him know that you ain't ready for that moment

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hy frnds I did abortion wen I was 17 so now am22 me an my boyfriend decided to make a baby so do you think I'll fall pregnant after wat I dd?

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Hi Springster, thanks for coming to us with your question. You're right to be concerned about getting pregnant after an abortion, but it might be good for you to know that, unless there were complications during your abortions, the chances of not being able to get pregnant again are very small. You can go visit you nearest doctor or clinic for a check up on your reproductive health. We’d imagine that you’ve thought long and hard about the responsibilities of having a baby. If you feel that you are financially, emotionally and mentally ready to have a baby right now, then we wish you all the best.

I am a normal girl which this year i saw it so simple to hav a relationship with my ex boyfriend we started to date last year ..me n my boyfriend after months thts when we started to visit each other n we were homealone together....he wants us to start having sex n i am not if i am ready enough........please i need help cause last time we broke up because of this n him wanting to proof he cn date me

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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