Am I a virgin?

Who gets to decide? You do!

Your thoughts (10)

Am I a virgin? If you’ve started experimenting or are just a curious, Springster, this question might have popped into your head once or twice. Don’t worry – we’ve got some answers for you!

Few girls know this, but there is no single agreed definition of virginity. Wow.

If there’s no proper agreed definition, that means virginity means different things for different people. This might sound strange, but it’s actually great news because virginity can be whatever you want it to be. #YourbodyYourChoice

No one can actually tell whether a woman is a virgin or not. Not even doctors. So how can there be a definition? Hmm, interesting right?

Let’s keep exploring. A common definition of losing your virginity is if the penis breaks the hymen inside the vagina. So the idea is that a girl is no longer a virgin after her first vaginal intercourse. There are quite a few keywords in there, so let’s break it down for you:

  • The penis is the male sex organ.
  • The vagina is the female sex organ.
  • The hymen is a very thin layer of skin inside the vaginal opening that most, but not all, females are born with.
  • Vaginal intercourse is when a penis is inserted into the vagina during sexual activity.

Now the hymen can be broken during general physical activity, like playing sports, and not just through sex. Imagine if you’re play-fighting with your friend and your hymen breaks. Does that mean you are no longer a virgin? Sounds a bit funny, no? This means your hymen breaking might not be the best way to define virginity.

Now let’s go to the boys. Do you think there is a way to tell if a boy is a virgin?

Pause. Thinks thinks. Shrugs shoulder…

Just like with girls, there is no way to check if a boy is a virgin. This is another reason why you should challenge what “virginity” means.

Like other things in life, being a “virgin” is a label that people often use to describe and control women and girls. However, like everything with sex, you are in the driver’s seat. Virgin or not a virgin, who cares? There are way more important things to think about in life. Like achieving your goals and dreams.

Oh and let’s NEVER forget… No matter what anyone says, you have worth and purpose and no one can take that away. You also have the power of choice to make your own decisions about who you get intimate with and when you do it.

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Your thoughts

mbatha

So I am a virgin because I never had slept with a boy ?can boys loose their virginity too ?🤨🤔😕🧐

Sept. 17, 2022, 8:53 p.m.

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_Datgal125

Yes when they have sex with a hirl

_Datgal125

Girl** i meant to say

mbatha

Okay thanks I just wanted to ask so .... Are you still a virgin if you don't mind me asking 😊😊😕😕

....Mndz....

A virgin is a person who have never had sex right?

Sept. 15, 2022, 2:19 p.m.

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MasterOfPuppets

Yes

Onkarabetswe

Has anyone ever Kissed a boy 🙀👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 But me I haven't kissed one in my life💜💜💜💜😓😓😓😓😓

Sept. 13, 2022, 3:27 p.m.

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mbatha

Me too I'm just scared yoh but maybe you can get answer to someone who actually did 🥺

KayDee1020

Are you still a virgin if you've had sex with a sex toy?

Aug. 6, 2022, 7:41 p.m.

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....Mndz....

Ehh😂😂did you have sex with the sex toy?

mbatha

Wow I didn't accept that 🤨🤔😕

Kelebza

But other people are born without being beings virgins

July 28, 2022, 4:08 p.m.

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KayDee1020

How can that be

Fikza

Thats a lie sweety unleas she was raped as a baby but ddnt find our

Fikza

Thats a lie sweety unleas she was raped as a baby but ddnt find out

Ndalo

I am a virgin and I'm proud of that ❤️🦋👋🤗

July 24, 2022, 2:50 p.m.

Lizandre

Wat is a virgin

July 11, 2022, 7:23 p.m.

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Tshedza

Virgin is when you didn't have sex in your life before. How old are you when you don't know virgin

KayDee1020

Someone who has never had

KayDee1020

Someone who has never had sex before

KayDee1020

How come you don't know what a virgin is?

MasterOfPuppets

You have to be between 5-9 years old to not know what a virgin is

Nonjabulo

I am a virgin because I have never sleep with a boy

July 11, 2022, 6:11 a.m.

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Tshedza

Yes

KayDee1020

Yes

Onkarabetswe

Yep ☺️☺️☺️

NTK

I am a virgin and I know because ngiyahlolwa

July 3, 2022, 3:39 a.m.

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Love

I would do anything to get in they Virginia 👉👌

@Lisa.com

Even i get checked #virgins

owami_cindi9

I am a proud virgin!And I am a virgin in many things like u have not yet been in a plane😂

June 29, 2022, 3:56 p.m.

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Appu

Haaahaaa

owami_cindi9

So I am still a virgin I haven't ridden a plane so which means I am a virgin I haven't been on a plane I can't wait for my first time to ride a plane😂; being a virgin doesn't always mean not having sex you cant be a virgin because your didn't have sex you can be a virgin of many things there is a first time for everything guys so mina I am a virgin of many things

Tshedza

I can't wait to have sex I'm dying catch me if you can 💃

Onkarabetswe

Why are you in a hurry to have sex 😔😔