WHY won’t they let me have a phone?!

Do you have a mobile? Springsters: I need your help!

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In my family, no-one has a mobile (I live with my mum, dad, grandma and younger sister and brother). My father thinks they make people act disrespectful and careless, and my mother says they’re dangerous! I’ve tried to persuade them but it’s not working.

I’ve explained it will help my grades

Lots more boys in my class have phones and internet access than girls. It helps them to look up things we’re learning and they get better grades. It’s not fair - it looks like they’re smarter! But when I told my mother about it she said I just needed to work harder and use books to get this information.

I’ve asked them to trust me

My father doesn’t want me on the internet. He says bad people use it. I try to get my point across calmly, there may be some risks online, but there’s lots online about staying safe too - if they’d trust me to stay on the right sites.

My neighbour, Rain, uses her phone to let her mother know where she is. When we’re together her mother even lets my mother know. But STILL she won’t admit a phone could actually HELP me be safe!

I promised it won’t cost too much

My parents say phones are too expensive. I’ve explained you can get credit and only spend what you have. I help my mother on her grocery stand, and I help my grandmother with sewing. I said we could just use what I helped to earn… but my mother got upset, saying I should work with her because I want to help, not because I want something for myself.

I can’t give up

My family might get angry if I keep on asking. I’ve thought about saying we should get a family phone to share, and that it could help promote my mother’s business... but lots of people my age have their OWN phone… am I being selfish?

If you have a phone - what worked for you? How did you get it? What should I do? Help me out Springsters!

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ONA

Well I told my mom that our teacher was sending homework for us via WhatsApp group and that I am not going to talk to boys with my phone 😏😏

July 19, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Aleaflorist

Me too nd it worked so I'll be getting a phone in September mean while I'll be using my mom's phone just to show her I have nothing to hide😏😏

2010

Hi👋👋 there. My mum trust me so much. That I now hv my phone for a full year.

Khanya

For you to get a phone from your parents you must tell them that some of the school work youbget it from the school group chats😁

July 14, 2022, 5:15 p.m.

Your mother has a point.. You won't pass because of phone,u will pass because you used your mind and focus,in your books ? Just be carefully and aware of things that they don't neef your attention

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Ibenamiie

Are you mad?Is there internet on books? 😂😂Some people guys

yec i will pass if i have mobile because

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Yep bcs phone can help us with many info....

Mmmm bbe gal don't worry my mom also didn't want me to have a cellphone... Can you imagine seeing my 11 year-old sister using her phone.relax they will come aroung

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Hey... I know it's hard.... I've been through that a couple of times.... But u can't ask them if they can get the phone n u can use it on weekends ...(they can still search the phone if they don't trust you) ... As long as u need the phone for the right reasons

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Me too girl Nosi Eiii

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Some parents think that phones distract girls or let me just say kids.. they think we can be easily exposed or maybe kidnapped because nowadays we get too excited to meet up with people .. so the most important thing is that we need to prove to our parents that we can take care of our selfs and how phones can be important to our lives

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

I got my phone as a surprise because I was doing well at school. But I never ask for it.

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Hello Ginana That is great, keep on doing well at school. We are so proud of you and we wish you nothing but the best.

My parents talk my phone course I'm not doing well at school😥

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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I mean they take*

I got my phone as a surprise too because I was doing great at school

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Thankx for you

My Parents also believed in the same thing.😏but I proved them wrong by obeying to their rules and stuff Now I got a brand new iPhone❤💃

My mom won't buy me a phone too for the same reasons . 😩💔

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Very sad .. Hope you'll get it soon.

Eddington1924

Me too!!! I have to hide the phone my boyfriend bought me,all because of the danger on the internet.Sometimes my mother try's to persuade my father to let me on the internet,can u believe it as old as my father is he also uses Facebook .How rude of him!!!!!!!He has a nerve!!!

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Peity

Not fair at all 🙅💔🥺

Me too!!! I have to hide the phone my boyfriend bought me,all because of the danger on the internet.Sometimes my mother try's to persuade my father to let me on the internet,can u believe it as old as my father is he also uses Facebook .How rude of him!!!!!!!He has a nerve!!!

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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You and Anoymous wrote tje same thing and you should tell your parents the truth and what if your boyfriend stole the money or just want to have sex with you and yoir parents will get the truth

Does your boyfriend has a job*?🤔

Does your boyfriend has a job*?🤔

My father buyers me the phone ,he asked me why I want a phone

Hi Christa, we’re so sorry that your parents won’t let you have a phone. Phones are quite useful, especial when you want to find information about certain things or if you are doing research for school work. Pones are also important in the workplace, they help employers know who you are and there are many apps that help you do things more efficiently. So, we completely understand why you feel the need to have a phone. Speak to your parents and let them know why a phone is beneficial to you. You can also ask a teacher or any other adult who understands to help explain to your parents why a phone is useful.

I think you should save money for you or you should save money and buy some things to sell and get profit save it

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

To be honest .. I think it's better you find a way of getting yourself a phone without them finding out about it .. Surely u have your own room, you can use it privately or when you at your friends house.. I know how it help on school performance .. You get better grades when u access the internet to find useful information .. You'll be fine girl, you just need to stop telling your mom about how desperate you need a cellphone .. Get it by yourself and explore the internet as much as you want .. DON'T GIVE UP !!!!!

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Hey Twinkie094, you make a really good point about cellphones being useful for school. The only problem is that how can our Springster get a phone by herself. She can't afford a phone on her own. Can you maybe give some suggestions on how she can go about getting a phone on her own. We think it would probably also be a good idea for her to ask her teacher to convince her parents about how helpful her phone will be for her in school. Do you think this could work?

Baby girl If your parents said no leave it just like that My dad didnt want to get a phone for me i was 13 years old so i decided to save money and asked my sister to buy it for me. My dad caught me using it so he decided to take it away After2 years he bought me an iPhone You don't have to force them They will get you a phone when they think you're responseble to handle a phone your e education at the same time Don't lose hope

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Baby girl If your parents said no leave it just like that My dad didnt want to get a phone for me i was 13 years old so i decided to save money and asked my sister to buy it for me. My dad caught me using it so he decided to take it away After2 years he bought me an iPhone You don't have to force them They will get you a phone when they think you're responseble to handle a phone your education at the same time Don't lose hope tho😋

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Baby girl If your parents said no leave it just like that My dad didnt want to get a phone for me i was 13 years old so i decided to save money and asked my sister to buy it for me. My dad caught me using it so he decided to take it away After2 years he bought me an iPhone You don't have to force them They will get you a phone when they think you're responseble to handle a phone your education at the same time Don't lose hope tho😋

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Just let it be...even me I have a phone but ma parent s are not cul with it they say phones are bad but they help a lot though....but just let it be the right time will come baby girl

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Yes u r tell the true

Yes it true parents are like that

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

My mother says Ngumngqundu wakho give me your phone you will never found it again bcs you have boyfrnd now I told him yikwekwe eyishomie so now she gave my phone back

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

My sister brought me a phone last year Out of the blue she took my phone because i started dating

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hlw

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hey guys am new here 😋plz welcome me wth warm hands. At first mi mom wasn't sure abt mi hvng phne bt I managed to convince her tht phones helps us through 4 school work nd l told her tht if she won't buy mi 1 I will probably fail sum assignments bcz of I won't be researching nd she finally bought mi one😜

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

hey I am also new my mom didn't want me to have a phone for 3 years bt this year I managed to persuade her .... try harder bro 👍👍

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Me2

buy yourslf a phone ey,this is 21st century, don be a dum ass

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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😂😂😂😂😂😂

My mom also don't want to buy phone for me,so I gave up.I tried to beg my dad and he buy me one. My mom doesn't like it she also taking it from me she says is not safe.My advice is to save your own money and buy one

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Me to my mother do not want me to have a phone.

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

U are pretty like:💖💖💖💖

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

I do have a cellphone my parents bought it for me while I was 15 I kept wondering at the age of 12 why they won't let me have a phone they said coz phones bring lot of cyberbulling that's bcoz my mom is a therapist and has a lot of kids coming to her for help coz there nudes had been posted online😍😍😎

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

You need to buy yourself phone if mom don't want to make it for you

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Let me tell you one if you really want something in life you will always get it no Mather how long you get or what time just keep pushing

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

He guys I'm new her pliz.welcome me with warm hands

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

At first my parents wouldn't allow me to have a phone but I promised them that I will concentrate on my school work and pass with good marks then i passed with good marks my parent's finally bought me a phone

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

I promised my dad that I would always pass at school

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

our parents are just over protective

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hey Springsters! Is there anyone who would be so kind to give me a old phone of them. Please. I can't use my mother's phone anymore.

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

I just saved money to vuy my own phone 🏷️💵💸💳📱

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Does anyone who wants to give me a cellphone please guys 😭😭😭😭😭 because I always have homeworks that you must search my mother says i just must read my books and I don't even have friends because I stay at home I can't find friends plz find for me guys 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Nokwanda

Sorry cc can't help you there

My parents never wanted me to have a phone so I saved some money for the phone and asked my dad to take me to a phone shop and he refused so I beged him because all my classmates had one but he said i must wait until I was 14 so they can buy me a phone so I got my frst phone this year

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

I want free airtime

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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From who??

I am a 15 year old girl in grade 10... My name is Grace and I just wanted to share my thought about your extract... Umm I also needed a cellphone for so such a long long time ,actually since I entered high school,but my parents only bought for me a phone this year imagine!!😏😏😏 I also tried persuading them by telling them that my whole class had cellphones and I was the only one who didn't... But they kept on ignoring me..it was too bad. But I guess you just have to wait for the great appointed time your parents will make up their minds and will buy u one... Here is the biggest secret( DON'T KEEP REMINDING THEM)😂😂they will remind themselves!!!

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Peity

Wow👌👏 I loved❤️ your story coz it's almost same as mine and I liked those words of yours, Don't keep reminding them they will remind themselves😂,it sounds like u are naughty and kind,so if u don't mind, can you give me your number so that we can chart on Whatsapp