I sent pictures to a boy

I wish I hadn’t

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Sizwe and I have been friends forever. Every night we talk on the phone, sometimes for hours. A few weeks ago, he asked me to send him a nude picture. I laughed at first and told him, “No way!” He started sending a ton of messages begging for one. I ignored it, hoping he would get bored of it.

Then, on the way home from school one day, he asked that we race home. He said if I lose, I need to send a naked photo. I haven’t lost yet so I agreed to it. But, somehow – I lost.

I sent him a photo in my bra to shut him up about it. Then he begged me for one without the bra – saying I owed it to him. I gave in and sent him a topless picture.

I regretted it instantly. I asked him to delete it, but he said no. I was so confused, I thought he was my friend.

My mum started to notice I was acting quiet and sad. I was afraid to speak to her about this as I didn't want her to be mad.

I knew from chats we had that she wants me to come to her if I was in danger or someone had hurt me. So I decided that I could trust her and even if she was a bit upset, she was someone who could help me.

I asked her if I could talk to her about something private. I also asked if she could please be kind to me, as I knew I had made a mistake. She agreed. When I told her what had happened she was shocked and very disappointed, but as promised she remained calm and we managed to have a positive conversation.

She said to me, as girls go through puberty, they get a lot of unwanted attention from boys. Even those we think are our friends might pressure us into sexual situations we’re not comfortable with. She told me that talking to people you trust who can support you and give you advice is the best thing to do if I feel pressured. Together we talked through ideas of how to overcome the situation. She was very supportive.

We decided to talk to Sizwe together, and she taught me how to vocalise my feelings of confusion and upset to Sizwe. This really helped Sizwe to understand that his actions hurt me and he was happy to delete the photo. I wish I had talked to my mum sooner – there’s no problem she can’t solve!

Whether it’s your mum, sister, friend or a neighbour – find your person you can turn to when you’re feeling pressured.

Have you ever been in a difficult situation like this? How did you respond?

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Shalom

I also remember a Facebook one of this boy we were chatting after some time he asked me to send nude pics but I didn't send him he sent his dick and I just ignored it

July 7, 2022, 6:50 a.m.

Alwa

I figured it out myself my Mom is Like always ready to shout at me for a small thing so I try some other ways then to tell her

July 1, 2022, 7:31 p.m.

owami_cindi9

Nah not that I remember of

June 29, 2022, 4:03 p.m.

Patsimo

Yho girl this was not a mistake stop beating around the bush you sent those nudes because u wanted to yeka ukudlala ngabantu love 🙅😒🥱😄

June 25, 2022, 1:09 p.m.

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Jinx

I'm definitely on your side

Jinx

I'm definetly on your side

Woow gal.....yes u did make a mistake and made up from it by actually not getting pressured by the fear of what your mom will say,do or whatsoever I'm proud of you 😄😄😊

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Woow gal.....yes u did make a mistake and made up from it by actually not getting pressured by the fear of what your mom will say,do or whatsoever I'm proud of you 😄😄😊

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Have you done that

yoo gal you made a mistake shem

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Yeah Shem,she did but at least u talked to someone and u got help

Atlaeast u wanted help some girls are very scared and walk with it till they are adults I like wat u did by standing up 😁☺😊

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That was a very big mistake buh at least you got help from your mom

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You thought all was going well and you did all because you were going to win so try to found yourself by not letting same mistake again

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Sometimes it is not to send pictures of you to someone whom you don't even know that he or she is criminal that is most wanted and be wise enough to do background or checking out information about this person

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sometymz it is nt ryt to send nude pic to anyone evn ur boyfriend or male friend cz yew wll nvr knw wht he wll do wth them

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Lucky you still a live coz some other people they use photo for their lucky so it's difficult for you to get anything such as job,marriage and many more things

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That hurts I've been there and the guy still bothers me

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But we solved the problem

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I live with that guilt everyday

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Y did u send it What did he promised u

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Even though u didnt mean to do that girl

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Why regretting it when you have done it

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I sent a video of me naked, he had asked me to do it. It was a guy from the states i had met on twitter as soon as i had nut. I regretted it. You can never trust people on twitter because you could offend someone and pictures or videos of you could be leaked out of spite. I deactivated my account for the entire month. I talked to my freinds and they convinced me to activate it again. But i don't say/tweet much anymore I'm scared i might say the wrong thing.

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Hey babe send me your bbm pin so we can chat.

Hi Babybubbles45, the internet can be a fun and engaging place, but it can also be risky especially if you are not sure how to navigate it safely. We're really sorry you had to go through something like that on social media. We're not sure if you are saying that your pictures were leaked, but if they were you are within your rights to report it to whichever platform it was leaked on. If you experience abusive behaviour on social media platforms you can also report that user and block them. You certainly don't have to activate your account right now if you don't want to. You can take some time off, reflect and come back to social media when you feel ready to do so. We would encourage you to speak to an adult you trust about this if you feel comfortable, maybe an aunt, school counselor? You can also call Childline SA. They offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Hi sent pics

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Show I will don't worry vah

Can I get too

Hie,,,,,lips

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Send for me

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Is this a boy or a girl cause this person said that someone must send onw

Hi i also did that mistake i sent some nude pics but i overcame it by talking to my sister about wat happed

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💔 😭 🔥

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Am also experiencing the same pressure with my ex boyfriend😢💔...and I almost gave in

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Eish its a bit hectic but its a good thing to talk to patents❤❤

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The same thing happened to me when I thought the boy was my best friend

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The same thing happened to me when I thought the boy was my best friend

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Yip when my also asked me I said no then he blocked me and never unblock me again

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What about stop stalking if he blocked or unblocked you and focus on your past tense.

Yep someone i call my friend asked me of one and i said no and blocked me

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The same thing happened to me I wanted to but then I ignore the message.

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I told the boy to delect it but he refused so a took his phone and I detected it

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Girl how about next time to detect your english book!

The samething happend and I wanted to do it but I refused

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Yes I was then talked to my friend about it

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It do happen a lot especially on the internet ,but I refuse to send anybody my nude pics so I send other people's pics although I know it is wrong I do it anyway cos that person will never find out

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Hey Poisonous, we think it would be wise to not send other people nude pics online. Try to sympathise with those people, as you know you wouldn't like it to be done to you. Also, sending people's nude pictures without their consent can get you into a lot of trouble with the law and you can face quite some time in prison. Please do try and reconsider your actions as it could be very harmful.

It do happen a lot especially on the internet ,but I refuse to send anybody my nude pics so I send other people's pics although I know it is wrong I do it anyway cos that person will never find out

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Hey Poisonous, we think it would be wise to not send other people nude pics online. Try to sympathise with those people, as you know you wouldn't like it to be done to you. Also, sending people's nude pictures without their consent can get you into a lot of trouble with the law and you can face quite some time in prison. Please do try and reconsider your actions as it could be very harmful.

I had never been in a situation lyk this before coz boys will always be boys no matter how hard you try

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Me either l sent by boyfriend a nude pictures plenty of then, he started showing them to his male friends well l was so ashamed l was even scared to go to school thinking about what will my friends say.. So he asked me to sleep with him he will delete the pictures, l went mad Nd l refused. I went to tell my sister my sister says we must tell our mom she will help us. On our way to school that stopped by l told him to post those pictures l don't care anymore 😪 he was so scated

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I have been in the same situation as yours but the only difference is that my boyfriend asked me to send him a nude and cause I love him so much I did send him my nudes cause I trust him and ever since then he hasn't exposed me or posted it anywhere which proves he's loyalty to me so I think people could send their nudes but before you do make sure you trust the person and if you don't, you shouldn't send it. Me and my boyfriend are still dating and I could proudly say I trust him and I could send him my nudes any day!!!!!❤❤

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Have you ever asked yourslef what will happen to the nudes if one day you broke up ?

Ok u knowwhat to do now

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U should be proud u learned an important lesson in ur lyf so that wen that shit happens again u noe what to do gal I want u to always bear in mind dat in everything u do ,do it knowing u won't regret tomorrow

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Not yet but I would have responded differently towards a guy like Sizwe

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Sizwe is such a jerk To think that you where friends Sorry gal 😭😭😭😭😭

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Sizwe is such a jerk To think that you where friends Sorry gal 😭😭😭😭😭

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I am in a defficult situation now with myself doing wrong things that disappointed my family but mostly my mother and my self.I quited School with out any reason cause my mother made sure I had everything I needed,loved, supported and protected me as her first daughter and as a friend. I chose friends advise than my mother and I watched her crying shouting at me telling me about School. Please girls help to change my way of doing things n make my mother proud

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Hello

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Hello Springster.

I regret evrythng i did with him his my ex we spent 6months together n am still in lyf wth him evrytym he asks 4 a my pussy picture i gave idk if he does delete or wat.All i no is dat i cnt say no 2 him 4 a long tym evrytym he text me and ask me if we can meet up...Remember his no longer my boyfriend but its fyn anyway bcuz evrytym we meet up he puts his fingers into my pussy...WEll it happens dat de other day he tried 2 pull off my clothes in de street trying make himself better.God idk wat 2 do bcuz alrdy i feel lyk his going be my virgin broker....Confusion is all over me pls help

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Hello Springster, we appreciate you coming to us to share your story. Many of us have had that one guy or girl that we have a soft spot for and in these cases it can be really difficult to stand your ground. At some point in our lives, many of us can feel this way so you don't have to feel embarrassed. Being assertive and standing up for yourself isn't easy, but it's something that can happen once you build up the courage to know you need to try and protect yourself from emotional or physical pain. No one has the right to manipulate you into doing anything you don't want to do or touch you inappropriately. Whether you feel like you can or cannot be assertive with him right now, we feel like it would be a good idea to have someone in your community to talk about what you're going through right now. This can be a trusted adult like a parent/guardian, a relative, a neighbor or teacher. You can also contact Love Life on 0800 121 900 or send them a please call me on this number 0 8 3 3 2 3 1 0 2 3 to call you back.

My situation is simillar to the story simply because there was a guy that I used to chat with on Facebook every night. One night he told me that he was horny and asked me to send a naked pic and i said no i dont want but he kept on forcing me to send it and i kept on coming with excuses saying that i dont have data or i would change the subject . Then i came with a solution of blocking him then i started blocking him. Till now

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I was never and will never be comfortable enough to send photos of that nature to anyone . But I'm glad everything worked out well in the end for u

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I had sex at a very young age and I regret it everyday of my life even though I enjoyed it at that particular time.. I loved him😭😭😭😭😭

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Grl it was u choice to have sex at a very young age.i will not judge but my advice is u should have waited until u were already maybe 18 or wait a little longer so that when u ready u can decide that am I ready to have sex or not

Me2

Hi Springster, no matter what age you are, you can find yourself making decisions without giving yourself some time to think about it. Then, later you find yourself regretting some of the things you did. Feelings of regret are totally normal and it doesn't always have to be a negative feeling. You can also grow and learn from things that you regret. Ask yourself why you regret it and what you can learn from an experience like that. Try not to be too hard on yourself about it and see if you can take it as a learning experience. Also , remember that having a trusted adult to talk to about these things can be quite helpfyl. Talk to a parent/guardian, older sibling, relative, neighbor or teacher for some support.

As girls men take advantage of us thinking that we are weak but no we are not.our boyfriends,malefriends should respect women's bodies our bodies are the temple of God no person or any other person should ask pic of nude to you or me.respect us as girls and we will give u the respect u that u deserve.

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Sizwe you did a great job by telling ur mom and talking to her you made her realize that u are brave even though it's private 😇💜💜

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I did the same thing now i wish i don't 💔💔

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Sending pictures to someone you don't know People get into a trouble

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Hey Wow, this is true, but we all make mistakes. We just have to make sure we have someone to talk to in situations like this so that we can gain some perspective on how to deal with them properly.

We're in the same situation😭😭

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All these things that I was doing started a few weeks ago where I had a craving for oka pipe than I got invited to some party with one of the girls at Church(I took her with me because I did not want to smoke or drink and she was there as my friend)but I did not smoke or drink just ate and went home but than things got out of hand when one of my cousins had a banquet and I was there but this time I took a smoke and I did ask my cousin if she did not have a pipe for me and she gave me it I took it home and started smoking every day but I did not feel satisfied so I went on a website and created a fake account but my real picture I did use but long story short I used that account to get attention from old men (25-55yrs)by getting there attention I used to have sexual conversations with them and it went further where I send nude pics to them in case they ask me or whenever they ask me (at first I felt conviction but I ignored it because it gave me what I wanted all these years of my life)but than that was not enough for me I started drinking alcohol while doing everything I started getting angry very fast and it got out of control (the reason why I got angry is because I did not get that satisfy in what I was doing) so one night on the 18 December 2018 I cried so much and than suicidal thoughts came to my mind I tried to fight it but I took 16 tablets and drank it with coke to get me high or killed (but instead it made me had a running tummy and a lot of cramps and nausea) (What I wanted to aim in the chats is to bj the guys for money or for something in return )

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what I can say to you my friend is that,, kneel down and ask God to help you bcz now you are in a bad situation that no one can help you but only God and yourself

Hi Callestonicia, thank you for sharing your story with us. We understand that talking about it with someone in real life might not be the easiest thing. Still, we really think that you find an adult that you trust to talk to about what you went through. Getting support from someone you know and trust will help you deal with the issue better, because it means you have someone to cry to, call to for help and someone to get you extra and professional support if you find that you will need it. You can talk to anyone you'd like to, from a parent/guardian, relative, older sibling, neighbour, or teacher. You can also call the counselors at Childline SA. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Hi Callestonicia, thank you for sharing your story with us. We understand that talking about it with someone in real life might not be the easiest thing. Still, we really think that should you find an adult that you trust to talk to about what you went through. Getting support from someone you know and trust will help you deal with the issue better, because it means you have someone to cry to, call to for help and someone to get you extra and professional support if you find that you will need it. You can talk to anyone you'd like to, from a parent/guardian, relative, older sibling, neighbour, or teacher. You can also call the counselors at Childline SA. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Hie galz im new here n im seriously in need of yo help.....Im in luv wth my stepdad bt wht z troubling me z if he really lvs me or he js want sex from me cz obviously thre z no way he z gonna leave his wife n kidz for me.......I noe I betrayed my mom im srry bt I thnk i was too blinded by luv...dn judge me pliz.. Wht do I do plz hlp

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Jusţ do the riģht thing girl..go foř a trıp to clear ýour minď nd just forgt abt your stepDađ

Hi Springster, it's a safe space so there'll be no judgment from us here. Having feelings for someone is totally normal. Unfortunately, we sometimes have to consider what the consequences are for initiating certain relationships. Try to think about what being with him or having sex with him will do to your relationship with your mother. If you are under sixteen remember that having sex with a minor is illegal in South Africa. We hope you can give yourself some time to do what is right for you, your mother and your relationship with her. Remember that you can talk to someone if you are receiving any unwanted attention from your stepdad. This can be anyone from your mother, a relative, an older sibling, a neighbour or a teacher. You can also talk to the counselors at Childline SA. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Gal if u r xho dat u luv each other tell ur mother nd her honest feelings will be the answer to ur solution otherwise u r too young to be stressed out

Gal if u r xho dat u luv each other tell ur mother nd her honest feelings will be the answer to ur solution otherwise u r too young to be stressed out

It was good talking to someone about it. You need to be friends with the ones you trust. Thank you for sharing your story with me. Alexa

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Up sad and it feels like doing suicide

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Hey Springster, thank you for your comment. We understand that it's not always easy to admit these things so we're really proud of you for being so brave. One of the most important things to remember is that you are not alone. There are others who have similar feelings, but they are probably also struggling to talk about it. This is understandable, but having someone to talk to when you're feeling low is probably the best thing you can do for yourself. By talking to someone, you'll feel less alone and you'll also be able to express your feelings, understand them better and therefore handle them better. Have you thought about talking to a trusted adult like a parent/guardian, relative, older sibling, teacher or counselor. If you'd like, you can also talk to the counselors at Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Hi can I have your number please😎

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Um proud of you girl that you overcome the situation you were in !!

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Um proud of you girl that you overcome the situation you were in !!

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Well đone ģirl

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WHO IS YOUR GF OR BF

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My right hand :)

Yah it does help speaking to someone u truly trust ,like i do I always speak to my mother if they is something bordering me

that good

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Well I say that it is a good thing that your mum cleared the air but just for every girl out there our actions have consequences

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I adore your consideration

That's perfect

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Hi guyz I am new in Springster can you plz tell me how you write your story about your life pkz 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

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Hi it me joseph

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Thanks for sharing yr story buh❤️💋

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Thanks again for your time and support 😭😭😭💓

So now u don't have a crush on him 🙄🙄

So now you're no longer doing that??

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M a 13 yr gal nd l had a crush on a guy called Ace bt he didn't notice me for long tym nd now he pays attention to me quite a lot, he asked me out bt i said no becoz l thought he is paying attention to me becoz lm developing bt he claims he was always interested in me bt was scared i believe him or maybe lm blinded by luv or lust ,M regretting my decision .did l make the ryt choice?

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Hi Springster, thank you for sharing this with us. Unfortunately we cannot tell you what to do but we advise that you take time to think about what you want. Try making a list of things that you like and don't like about him. If one list outweighs the other, this is often a good starting point to try and figure out what the best decision will be for yourself. You can also ask yourself questions about whether or not you would be happy if you get in a relationship with him. Although it is ultimately your decision it can often really help to speak to someone you trust about decisions like these. We suggest you to speak to a sibling, a friend or a parent about this situation for some advice. Take care Springster!

Hi Springster, thank you for sharing this with us. Unfortunately we cannot tell you what to do but we advise that you take time to think about what you want. Try making a list of things that you like and don't like about him. If one list outweighs the other, this is often a good starting point to try and figure out what the best decision will be for yourself. You can also ask yourself questions about whether or not you would be happy if you get in a relationship with him. Although it is ultimately your decision it can often really help to speak to someone you trust about decisions like these. We suggest you to speak to a sibling, a friend or a parent about this situation for some advice. Take care Springster!

hi

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Hey

Well we as boyz do pressure girls..either our girllovers or girlfriends we do the same..To our girllovers it sounds good coz ull be begging for yourself wat about begging ur girl friend to sleep with another guy..it seems madly alittle

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I loved someone who doesn't even care about me 😐😐

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I loved someone who doesn't even care about me 😐😐

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I also once loved someone who was not even in me and when you doing that you hurting yourself and I have learnt to let it go and move on in life

I also love someosomeone who never loved but I told my self being stuck on one person no there are many people out there

Hi Springster, we know that you must be hurting. We are sorry that you are going through a lot. Sometimes the people we love might not feel the same way. But no one should make you feel as if you are not enough. And it does not mean there is anything wrong with you. Surround yourself with close friends and family, those who love you. Talking to someone you trust about this, like an aunty, older sister, parent,neighbour or teacher can also help. We wish you all the best Springster!

Hi Kgavenzo, we believe Labplob is right. We understand that sometimes you can't help who you have feelings for, but it's important to protect your well-being instead of being with someone who isn't interested in yours. There are other people who you will meet in life who will love you and truly care about you. Take some time for yourself and try to avoid him if you know that he/she does not care for you. All the best Springster, we're rooting for you.

That's the mistake you should never do i once did something like that

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Hi I look for someone

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Well I went through the samething 🙊 at first I was a little embarrassed to talk about it 🙈 but somehow after a while all my friends went through it. I then put my pride in my pocket and I told her exactly what happened...🤧 She laughed her socks off and said she saw that one coming as I am a "rough one"😅 although I laughed she saw the importance of the story because I went though a lot... In that 2 years. She and myself tell people my story to show them that it's not something they should be afraid of. It's normal to do or want to do such things but it's also normal to stand your ground and say NO. Don't be embarrassed if you do it. 😊 Just speak to someone you trust. 🤭

Sometimes talking to someone makes things more complex because some people can judge and make you feel worthless

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Hi Springster, it is better to talk to someone you trust. A person who will be open with you and listen when you talk.

Hi guys i am 22 .i sametimes take myself naked /nude pics send to people on whatsapp .or even put it as my profile and hide my face ..i then have bad throught bout it then samething says aaa its out aready Please help me guys .i just cant stop exchanging my nudes Is it wrong

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Yoh honestly it's wrong to share such pics with everyone rather show your body to your partner not anyone people out there take your pics and do staff with them love ......no don't share

Hey Springster! Sorry for the delay, I had some technical issues. I have hidden your comment to protect your privacy. I am pleased you felt able to share your thoughts, it's a really brave first step. Have you thought about talking to an adult that you can trust about this? This could be anyone from your parents/grandparents, a relative like an aunt, a neighbour or teacher. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can get extra advice from CHILDLINE SA. They can offer you counselling over the phone. You do not need to give your name and can call them 24/7. Their toll free helpline is : 0800 055 555 or check out https://www.childlinesa.org.za/ you will receive the support you need, by a friendly person trained to help you in a confidential way. Take care.

I want a boyfriend and I don't have know boyfriend

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

Me too I need but I don't have

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Even I was in this problem..he was my boyfriend.he wanted my nudes pics..I refused that's when he got upset and dumped me BT he was shocked that I wasn't scared of him🎀

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

It's sam to me my own bf alwayz ask for nudes pics bt i refused he beg me ngize ngizwe usizi n sent it to him .. one dae we get fight he put my naked pic on his pp

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Yoh that's bad girl 😲

Girls plz talk to an adult if u have such a problem and dump your bf if they are doing this to you girls plz be wise Okay and girls who want a bf you girls need control you should just be happy to be single and ur BG is ur Education Okay!!!!

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

Hey girls boys are dumb

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So true

Do not send any picture if you not okay with it..

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

He is such a bad boy

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Yoh that was a bad situation thank God he never send the photos to anyone

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Come on Guys let's not label Sizwe as a bad boy because he refused to delete the photo immidietly after he received it. There's no part where she asked Sizwe why do you want me to send you my photo of that kind? She just sent a photo to Sizwe without knowing why he asked for it. That alone it's her mistake. I am not saying it was right for Sizwe not to delete the photo but it was to early for him that he could delete the photo he just received as he was ordered to do in no time after he received it. And let us not forget how many begging he went through before he even received that photo, I believe that the way she said he delete the photo easily after her and her mum they spoken to him it shows that he had no problem whatsoever to do that. But maybe he wanted her to go through the equal begging as he went... They are not telling you the truth about your actions when you ended up sending that photo not knowing why he asked for it, to me it sounds like you knew why and you were okay about that. Yet after you've sent him your photo something has striken your mind. Next time think before you do! Thank you for sharing your story with us I hope you've learned your lesson and you won't crack under pressure!

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Iv sent pics to boys and tried to use them against me ..biggest mistake of my life ...wat should we do ... they blackmail us and still get away with it ...😫😶

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Hey Springster, Sorry for the delay, I had some technical issues. I have hidden your comment to protect your privacy. I am pleased you felt able to share your thoughts, it's a really brave first step. Have you thought about talking to an adult that you can trust about this? This could be anyone from your parents/grandparents, a relative like an aunt, a neighbour or teacher. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can get extra advice from CHILDLINE SA. They can offer you counselling over the phone. You do not need to give your name and can call them 24/7. Their toll free helpline is : 0800 055 555 or check out https://www.childlinesa.org.za/ you will receive the support you need, by a friendly person trained to help you in a confidential way. Take care.

Umuntu ungumuntu ngabantu a person is the person by the help of others

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.