I failed a grade

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My name is Linda and I have two friends named Koketso and Nolly. I met them when I was in grade 8 and we became very close friends.

My friends are really nice but sometimes I feel as if they treat me differently. They sometimes have sleepovers at each otherโ€™s houses without inviting me. I have asked them about it and but they never answer me.

When we are in class they would play around and ask me to do the same. We would not be focused on what the teacher is saying but talking and laughing. When we write tests and assignments they would get high marks while I fail or get the lowest.

People at school would tell me that they are making a fool out of me. One girl even came and told me that Koketso and Nolly always study together when they do sleepovers. Every day when they get home they would study everything we studied at school.

That year I failed grade 10 and they passed it leaving me behind. I would cry every day and wouldnโ€™t want to go to school. I told my mom about it and she was very supportive. She told me those true friends would never do that to me and I should focus on passing.

You must always know that:

Friends support each other

They donโ€™t bully one another

They help one another

Make friends with people who will help you when it comes to school work. Choose friends wisely.

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Hi. I am new here my name is Sikandar. My friends always treat me like i am their maid so after that I told my self that I won't even bother to be with them

Oct. 10, 2022, 3:52 p.m.

At least now you know what to do ... Choose friends wisely ๐Ÿ˜Š๐ŸŒธ

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Girl don,t stress your self to much over your friends you do know that you have a best friend for ever it god an your mother just focus on your school work an you will pass with fluying colours that you have work sรณ hard

Hey Springster We agree with you. Choosing the right friends is important. Friends who will help you with school and support each other.

Yeah... it's best to choose ur friends wisely.. Like I'm so hurt inside I don't know what to do ... I failed grade 10 last year cause of my friends..I didn't choose them right..and I know it's bad and i disappointed my parents..but I failed for the first time ..my parents are separated..and I was living with my mom last year ..not one of my parents support me in my school things...my mom always think and I have to look after my little brother and little sister..my mom life with my stepfather and he always says bad things at me cause I'm not his child ..my mom start doing the same ..and she blame me for everything...last year Desember I show her my report and I told her I know I disappointed her ..but she told me to leave school and go and work with my aunt.. cause of all the bad things i have done with my friends my family started to put me under pressure..and it hurts me more ...so I did what my mom told me ..I'm working with my aunt now ..and I told her the hole story .. she told me she can't help me and it hurts even more ..I'm hopeless..I really wanna finish school and be an example for my brother and sister..I don't wanna be like my mom ..I love her but I can .. I'm really hopeless.. don't know what do do๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ˜ž๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”

I'm stressed

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Hello Springster, please share with us why you are stressed.

Hey Nokuphiwe, we're not really sure why you are stressed, but we understand if you are finding it hard to talk about it to us. Have you thought about approaching an adult that you can trust about what you are going through. This could be anyone from your parent/guardian, relative, neighbor, or teacher. If you find that you can't speak to these people, you can talk to the counselors at Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information. With regards to your pregnancy, we think you should talk to any adult who you are not afraid of talking to about this kind of stuff. They can advise you and help you let out the news to your father. If your father does decide to kick you out (and hopefully he doesn't) at least you can have someone to you can lean on to when your father is not there. Please talk to Childline if you have absolutely no one to talk to and let us know how things work out in the end.

This article is very touching.....bt I can tell you my friends....we were 9 friends,meet in the primary school in gr 7 ...we became frndz until gr 10..the others choose History n 4 of us choose mths n scnc .... they were saying bad things about how we think we better than them n how we think we clever compared to them n how we r going to fail in gr 10 ....bt we decide to work hard to prove them wrong...we r going to pass for us ...we r going to pass for the Mark my words on this one....so frndz can be jealous about you sometimes so choose wisely when it comes to frndz

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Hey Michel, thanks for giving us your thoughts on this matter. We think it's really important to choose subjects based on what you're good at, what you enjoy and what your career goals are. Choosing one subject over another doesn't make you more or less smart. You are really right about choosing your friends wisely. We want the people that we call friends to be supportive and loving and not jealous or cruel. We hope you were able to keep the friends that supported you along the way.

Just trying to stop thinking about them..but i am new here so...โ˜บ

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Welcome bbes n thanks for the advice๐Ÿ’‹

Thats a sad storie๐Ÿ”๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข

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It's really painful

Hi bongah Remember that failing a grade does not mean that it is the end. You can always go to your teachers for help and prepare for a new year. Join study groups or start one.

You must not trust your friends to much

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Indeed zee ... That's what I promise my self from Now on๐Ÿคž

They were cruel and ruthless, you strong than them . Keep it up

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Thank you....luu~u ,I mean we didn't even do anything to them...๐Ÿ˜ญ

I also went through the same thing I wanted to kill myself I felt betrayed I felt useless I felt that I was not good enough for them and when my friends did that to me I used to ask them why are they doing things together without involving me my other friend said because I am a child of God why don't I tell God to be my friend that hurt me but I became strong So girl be strong change friends and I hope you've learnt your lesson that u shouldn't trust friends

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I'm also Christian and at school they treat me like a granny but I pray that you get good marks so that they can see God is good and that he is able and may your life be beautiful enough to give glory to God in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. AMEN.

Soory you will pass

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I am repeating my grade 10 too..its so painful as some who went to the next grade I used to scored high marks than them and am repeating a grade just for 3 mark

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I failed grade 10 in 2017 , because I was not coping at that school(i was in a new school tht time). And I'm glad I failed because that was my wake up call. And look at me now I'm in grade 11 nd my mark are 10x better hence I'm say take your fail as a learning curve.

Hey plsr_49, thanks for taking the time to comment on our site. We understand that you might be feeling a bit down right now and that things might be hard, but try to understand that everything happens for a reason. Some of our hardest experiences in life can help us become better people, so try and take this as a learning experience. In the meantime, you can keep your old friends and also make new ones (only if you want to) as this will ensure that you have someone to talk to whenever you feel like you need it. Remember that having an adult that you trust to talk to about school and how you are feeling could be quite helpful. You can talk to anyone from your parents/guardians, relatives, neighbors or your teachers. You can also call the counselors at Childline SA. They offer counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter

I coulde've done my own study time table... Study on my own... Push my self... Also ask one of my teachers to help me... Lastly distance myself from those fake friends ..๐Ÿ‘

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I would have done my own study time table, isolate myself from them because they proved not to be true friends

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I would change friends , and find friends who will encourage me to work harder and those who are willing to success with me

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These girls are not your real friends. Keep your distance and focus on your studies. Also, maybe take up an extramural activity or sports at school so that you can make friends, who will be drawn to the awesome person you are. You are loved and you deserve to be cherished.

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Soccer

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My name is thato pearl I also had a similar problem I failed grade 8 and grade11 I'm currently 20years and still doing grade 11. I don't feel confident at school and I didn't get support from my mother. It breaks me every time when I think about and that I should have been far by now n yet I'm still repeating grades. I hate school but there is nothing I can do about because without school I'm nothing. And I would like to advice other girls that they should not give up.

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Hey Springster, we want to let you know that we're glad you never gave up either, even though it still must have been hard. We hope that you continue pushing and doing your best. If you're feeling low and not so confident, try and see if you can talk to someone you trust about how you are feeling. If you can't talk to your parents/guardians, speak to a relative, an older sibling, a friend or one of your teachers at school. Having someone to speak to about whatever you are going through will mean that you have some extra support and you won't feel so alone. We're super proud of you Springtser, and please remember that you can come to us at any point.

Just find another friend who will treat me like I deserve

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Some friends pretend to help or better you ... When you think you are going 2 steps front they plan for you to take 10 steps back... They never want to see you better than them while they claim they your ride or die SAD TRUTH

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Hi everyone,is a person a good friend when she loves cotrolling others and always shouting or being mean to you ?

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I think when you choose to have friend u must talk how your friendship will work,so that when there's a work from school u will focus on your work,that's all

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I think when you choose to have friend u must talk how your friendship will work,so that when there's a work from school u will focus on your work,that's all

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shame sorry

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It is true because it almost happen to me.

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Hi Angelnyamombe We are so sorry that happened to you. We hope that you are in a better place now. Remember that you can always find someone to talk to if ever something like this happens to you or if you need help. We hope this helped Springster.

Hi Angelnyamombe We are so sorry that happened to you. We hope that you are in a better place now. Remember that you can always find someone to talk to if ever something like this happens to you or if you need help. We hope this helped Springster.

Hey guys I just need your help,I failed matric on 2016 and I didn't do supplement,so now I just wish I could go an register to write my matric but am afraid of failing again coz it's been 3years now without even study or practicing๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ“•๐Ÿ““๐Ÿ“‘๐Ÿ“’ So what to do now guys.?

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U could of went to the department of education .. some people were registering for the june exams .. nd its already closed now .

I did fail my grade 12 I was also thinking of re writing my my grade 12...the problem is I have baby now.... but for you gal it is never to late....

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Hy gyz I'm new on this free data plzz I need the friends๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™

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Don't let people fool u just be urself n focuse on u study.

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I was going to find true friends and make sure that I always focus on my studies

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Besties always have each others backs like abomacala

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I will always care about school work๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

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I will always study on my own, at at home because I will be alone when I'm writing exams I won't focus a lot on friends especially when it comes to school work

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I will always study on my own, at at home because I will be alone when I'm writing exams I won't focus a lot on friends especially when it comes to school work

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I would have paid attention to my books than my friend's

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Hi Shappire The most important thing to do is to surround yourself with friends who encourage you to do better. Friends should not betray you nor force you to do things which are not good.

I would of committed suicide

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Hi 123Youleen Committing suicide is not an option. There is always a solution to every problem. Sometimes talking to someone helps and offloading what you are going through. We suggest that whenever you are going through something, talk to someone you trust and they might be able to help. Surround yourself with people you love and family.

SOMETIMES WE FAIL BECAUSE OF PEOPLE CLOSE TO US LIKE UNLOYAL FRIENDS WHO SAYS LET NOT STUDY YOU KNOW HOW TEENS ARE FOOLING EACH ATHER THAT ALL

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Hi DLUDLU People close to you are supposed to be loyal and share the same values. Good friends are supposed to be there for you.

Hi I filed are grade too

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Hi Tlhoi Thank you for sharing this with us. We understand this must be a very difficult time for you. Failing does not mean you are not good. Try talking to someone you trust who would guide you in all of this.Talking to the teachers whom you failed their subjects would help as well. We hope this helps Springster.

Well I have never failed a grade but I get really good marks I'm in the top students most of the times but I believe that get friends that will support u and go you with Ur studies while at the same time having fun That way you won't feel like you only do schoolwork and study but also you haveing fun With love ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•

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Hi Hafsa That is good and keep it up Springster. Having friends who understand that there should be time play and also do school work is important. We are glad you have those kind of friends. Good luck Springster.

Hii gals I failed a grd becoz I was not forcusing on my school work๐Ÿ˜ข

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Those are not true loyal fruendz they are back stabbers who are selfish focus on your study n pass forget about them been there done there trust me its not worth it

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Leave those friends alone because they have dirty minds

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Leave your stupid friend you will be ryt ohk

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I would have study at home alone after school and tell my friends to also study

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I would hv study at home and leave those fake friends of mine ...do right things instead of asking them about what people are telling me about them..I wouldn't put pressure or make them feel like uhm going after them๐Ÿ˜Š..because a true friend will encourage you to study hard so that you can make it to the next grade

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