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Gabi - Moderator

Hey Springster, Sorry for the delay, I had some technical issues. I have hidden this comment to protect your privacy. I am pleased you felt able to share your thoughts, it's a really brave first step. Have you thought about talking to an adult that you can trust about this? This could be anyone from your parents/grandparents, a relative like an aunt, a neighbour or teacher. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can get extra advice from CHILDLINE SA. They can offer you counselling over the phone. You do not need to give your name and can call them 24/7. Their toll free helpline is : 0800 055 555 or check out https://www.childlinesa.org.za/ you will receive the support you need, by a friendly person trained to help you in a confidential way. Take care.

1 year, 7 months ago
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Gabi - Moderator

Hey Springster! Sorry for the delay, I had some technical issues. I have hidden your comment to protect your privacy. I am pleased you felt able to share your thoughts, it's a really brave first step. Have you thought about talking to an adult that you can trust about this? This could be anyone from your parents/grandparents, a relative like an aunt, a neighbour or teacher. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can get extra advice from CHILDLINE SA. They can offer you counselling over the phone. You do not need to give your name and can call them 24/7. Their toll free helpline is : 0800 055 555 or check out https://www.childlinesa.org.za/ you will receive the support you need, by a friendly person trained to help you in a confidential way. Take care.

1 year, 7 months ago
Gabi - Moderator

Hey Springster! Sorry for the delay, I had some technical issues. I have hidden your comment to protect your privacy. I am pleased you felt able to share your thoughts, it's a really brave first step. Have you thought about talking to an adult that you can trust about this? This could be anyone from your parents/grandparents, a relative like an aunt, a neighbour or teacher. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can get extra advice from CHILDLINE SA. They can offer you counselling over the phone. You do not need to give your name and can call them 24/7. Their toll free helpline is : 0800 055 555 or check out https://www.childlinesa.org.za/ you will receive the support you need, by a friendly person trained to help you in a confidential way. Take care.

1 year, 7 months ago
Bianca

Thank you soon much Springster this helped me soon much thanks 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I am all ways afraid to say something to talk to people and you gave me a feeling that I never felt in my life which is to speak up😊 THANK YOU DO MUCH

1 year, 10 months ago

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Gabi - Moderator

Hey Vienna! I am pleased to know that you are enjoying your time here on Springster! Keep shining.

1 year, 7 months ago
Lethu

If you don't speak out they'll think you are okey with how things are going.Silence is actually seen as agreeing..

2 years, 7 months ago
Anonymous

Hello everyone lm looking for your advise gals what's happening is that l met my boyfriend last year early we dated and he told me that he was married and separated with his partner so everything went well and this January this partner of him sent app message saying she is pregnant of my man but according to my bf he said since ever he met me he never slept nor see that women but bcz sometimes l trust something that comes from women's mouth l asked my bf to tell me the truth he became so defensive in a way that showed me that he was trying to defend himself l pushed harder and he end up saying he is sorry bcz what happened is that December he went to that lady to collect some of his things and he ended up in his bed and he said he is sorry but the pregnant thing is a lie but now he is always angry sometimes he calls me with the name of that lady and when l ask him why he said he is just joking so now l don't know what to do bcz l love him pliz help which to believe and not to

2 years, 8 months ago

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Anonymous

Hi Springster, thank you for reaching out to us. You can definitely take advice from others, but ultimately the decision lies with you. To help you think about whether or not you want to stay with him. You can make a list of the good things about your relationship and another list of the bad things. If one list outweighs the other, this is often a good starting point to try and figure out what the best decision will be for yourself. You can also ask yourself questions about whether or not you are really happy with this relationship, such as if you find yourself feeling insecure and mistreated. Although it is your decision it can often really help to speak to someone you trust about decisions like these, have you thought about a parent, older sibling, aunty, or a teacher that you could also get advice from? We hope that this helps.

2 years, 7 months ago
Anonymous

Hey Guys I have this girl who I misses with all my heart n I love her(Kgomotso)... She was my friend but we ended up dating n I hurt her feelings, now we are no longer chatting n she blocked me on social media every time I see her my heart beats faster n I love her but am afraid that I'll hurt Lindi's feelings coz She's my Gf but now I can't control my feelings over that girl... Kgomotso Plz help

2 years, 8 months ago

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Anonymous

My bro don't let ur feelings control u !! If u can write this I bet n hope u can speak it so speak up and reach out to her!! And tell Lindi how much u love her and don't hurt her !! Try to be a guy and reach out to the both of them!make them understand

2 years, 7 months ago
Anonymous

Thanks✊✊

2 years, 7 months ago
Beautifulgirlhaveconfidancelove.com

My boyfriend takes me like am nothing,to saying am wrong al the time,so i fill like am not a girl i think i am,my friends lie to me and jealousy for me

2 years, 8 months ago

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Anonymous

Hi Springster, we are so sorry that you feel that way. No one should make you feel as if you are not enough. The people we keep near us can have a positive or negative effect on us. It is important to have friends and partners who support you and make you feel good. Talking to someone you else trust about how you feel right will likely help, this could be a parent, teacher, neighbour or relative. We hope this helps!

2 years, 7 months ago
Lulu

Wow wise words

2 years, 8 months ago
Lulu

Don't let negative people affect you with their words

2 years, 8 months ago

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Anonymous

Hey Lulu Thank you very much for reaching out. Yes, it is true that we should all strive to not let negative people affect us with their words but sometimes that is not easy for some. Remember that words cut like a knife but they also have the strong power to heal the wounds they cause. By surrounding ourselves with a positive sisterhood of girls then this can change. We can all protect each other from negativity.

2 years, 5 months ago
Loot

Thank you very much because I also am one of those silent girls but after these quotes I'm definitely gonna start talking . Thank you very much again .

2 years, 8 months ago

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Anonymous

Hey Loot Thank you for reaching out. Yes, the hope is that these quotes will inspire you to use your voice because it is powerful and it matters.

2 years, 5 months ago
Anonymous

I waz scared to say an answer in class even if I know it 1dae my friend said to me"gal u should answer when the teacher asks the gwestion because we as class we thing u don't know anything " then I was motivated now am stress less

2 years, 8 months ago

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Anonymous

Hey Springster Thank you for reaching out. Girls should always be motivated to speak up and show how smart they are. However, it is understandable why girls do not do that. We are often discouraged from answering questions in class because we are often taught that we need to hide the fact that we are smart. This is however changing. Your friend was right to motivate you to start answering questions in class. If you know the answer you should speak up so that it can encourage other girls in your class or grade to do the same.

2 years, 5 months ago
Vegga

Affirm

2 years, 8 months ago
Anonymous

🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔 Failing matric can lead you into a doomed life.?

2 years, 8 months ago

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Bale

No ...I also failed my matric ...BT I wrote my sub's da following year and walala I have my grades now nd I can go to tertiary or get a job even...da trick is to never give up

2 years, 8 months ago
Anonymous

Hey Springster Thank you for reaching out. To answer your question, no. Failing matric will not lead you to live a doomed life. There are different options when it comes to re-doing your matric year. You can apply and re-write your matric examinations the following year at the department of education as well as on the website. The other option is to re-do your matric year as a whole. There are colleges that offer that option should you not want to return to your old school. There are different options that are available in order for you to get your matric again. Just because you failed it doesn't mean that you can't try again.

2 years, 5 months ago
Teesii

hey springster I have a lot in my chest and I don't have anyone to talk to its really hard for me to open up

2 years, 8 months ago

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Anonymous

Hi Springster, what seems to be the problem? You can always ask any questions here.

2 years, 8 months ago
Anonymous

We are here u can speak to us maybe we might help

2 years, 8 months ago
Anonymous

We are here u can speak to us maybe we might help

2 years, 8 months ago
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Athandile

WOW

2 years, 8 months ago
Anonymous

Hi Springster, we really appreciate you reaching out to us. We understand that you are most likely going through a lot right now. Being honest with our partners can help them know what we are going through but that is a decision only you can make when you feel ready. Though you might be experiencing a lot of emotions that are difficult to process and talk about, we would encourage you to approach a trusted adult like a parent/guardian, relative, neighbour or teacher. Talking to someone can often make you feel a bit better and not keep things to yourself while hurting. Fear and shame often prevent us from speaking out but in order to get help it is important to speak to an adult who can get you the support you deserve. Sadly, we cannot talk to you face to face, but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

2 years, 7 months ago
Sammy234

Sometimes you have to be who u are dont be just silent its another emotional word that kills our youth SPEAK💧💘UP **stand for wats yours 🌹🌸

2 years, 8 months ago

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Anonymous

Hey Springster Talking to someone helps as you will get help. Having people you can trust and talk to whenever you want to.

2 years, 8 months ago
Zezethu

The more u speak up the more people know you U don't just speak for your self you speak for every one around you YOU'VE GOT THE POWER✊

2 years, 8 months ago

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Anonymous

Hey Zezethu Thank you for reaching out. Yes indeed, when a girl speaks up, she speaks up for every girl around her.

2 years, 5 months ago
Anonymous

hei guys am new here please i need some advice to you all! okay me and my boyfreind we've been dating more than a year now but and he never told me that he has been impregnented this other woman and now all over the sadden this woman came into our house and told me that they had a child together and he is two years old now and whenever i ask my boyfriend he says it true but he didnt tell me before now am scared cause this girl was arrested and now shes out.now everything has change between my boyfriend and i,we're not the lovers that we were before this girl came out of prison,am scared that i might lose him througth this girl but he always tell me that he broke up with her before she got arrested so guys please help me

2 years, 8 months ago
Nokzy

hei guys am new here please i need some advice to you all! okay me and my boyfreind we've been dating more than a year now but and he never told me that he has been impregnented this other woman and now all over the sadden this woman came into our house and told me that they had a child together and he is two years old now and whenever i ask my boyfriend he says it true but he didnt tell me before now am scared cause this girl was arrested and now shes out.now everything has change between my boyfriend and i,we're not the lovers that we were before this girl came out of prison,am scared that i might lose him througth this girl but he always tell me that he broke up with her before she got arrested so guys please help me

2 years, 8 months ago

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Zezethu

It's trickily, strange and hurting also but the best advance is to sit down with your boyfriend and talk to him about every thing that worries you, tell him you love him and you're also worried about your relationship .Ask him about the baby and the mother then fix things of your relationship and don't be afraid of the mother of the baby although she's coming from prison so just have confidence and BE STRONG

2 years, 8 months ago
Anonymous

Hi NonkululekoP25, the most important thing to remember is that no one can tell you what decision to make about leaving your boyfriend. You can take advice from others, but ultimately the decision lies with you. To help you think about whether or not you want to stay with him. Make a list of the good things about your relationship and another list of the bad things. If one list outweighs the other, this is often a good starting point to try and figure out what the best decision will be for yourself. You can also ask yourself questions about whether or not you are happy in this relationship, such as if you find yourself feeling insecure and mistreated. Although it is your decision it can often really help to speak to someone you trust about decisions like these, have you thought about a parent, older sibling, aunty, or a teacher that you can get advice from? Feel free to get back to us to let us know how things work out.You can also check out this article about a Springster who asked a similar question.

2 years, 8 months ago
Omphile

Hello are you day

2 years, 8 months ago

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Mickey

Hey bbes

2 years, 8 months ago