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Anonymous

Yaaaaaas Gurl😁😁❤❤👌👌👅👅

1 year, 3 months ago
Coco12

So touched by this story. Yes gurl its good u left tht loser. Girls pls dont let guys get to u and convince to do bad things. He's just using u, so be careful😚💖

1 year, 3 months ago
Anonymous

Hey girl I'm TYS and I'm avirgen and I want to say that she did a great job ditching that loser .😜😜

1 year, 4 months ago
TYS

Hey girl I'm TYS and I'm avirgen and I want to say that she did a great job ditching that loser .😜😜

1 year, 4 months ago
Kiki

Girls I'm 12yrs old and next year I'm about to turn 13 Guys when I was in gr1,2,and3 I used to be teased about how skinny I was but I was sometimes the queen of the school I used to be treated like a queen there I had lots of friends and I did not fight or insult anyone at all until I moved to another school (ERS) I was sad but I was sure to have the same life but I was wrong I was teased about how skinny I was I was hurt but then the next year came I was in gr5now I was starting to insult and fight with people it was hard for me that year my mom and dad were cross with me about how bitter I had become the whole 2018 I suffered then 2019 I was getting a lot better with JAM(Junior Anger Management) I was still teased until my growth spurt came in my boobs my bum my curves started to show and I gained a bit of weigh I was teased less but people still called me names for eg:twig,stick,feather etc. Boys started to talk to me have crushes on me they told me I was hot and they love me but I just said one thing BYE I didn't buy it my parents were starting to see a new change with me and now I even have a bff we tell each other everything she kinda teases me too but I started reading the bible on my mind everyday was the bible even though Adam and Eve totally doomed us!but I just said to my self every day I'm beautiful I don't need people to like me l love my self the way I am and girls take this as a message luv ur self!

1 year, 4 months ago
Anonymous17

You did a good job by telling him that,because when you was not a “big girl” he paid no attention to you now he sees that you've become “sexy” he wants you. And he was being a bad influence by tryin to get ya outta school.oh and thanks for sharing your story

1 year, 5 months ago
Lindre
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Anonymous

Same here (besides the part where boobs, butt and hips grow big). I'm an average tall girl but was tall and skinny in primary. People used to pick on me but not that much but it was enough to make my self-esteem drop drastically (self-esteem was high at home but dropped when I went to school). I've never really been one that likes attention, naturally. I'm not flattering myself but I know I'm pretty, always been the 'pretty' child but I guess people decided to find my 'weakness' and try to ruin me. After primary, new life in high school happened. Met new people, made new friends, blah blah blah. I went from size 'Ages 9-10' (grade 7) to 30/32 (grade 9). I gained a little but I still looked skinny. No one in high school (girls' school) made me feel bad about myself though. I've never had guys come up to me in primary and try to grab my attention but all of the sudden I got so much attention (on social media) (even from people who I never clicked with) that I knew it was because of the glow-up. Despite still looking skinny (although I wear 34 now), I attracted a lot of eyes. I liked the attention for a while but I realised later that attention makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable so I never really entertained it. I just brushed it off and carried on with life normally and I never really talked much with people from primary. I'm even in Uni now and I still don't associate myself with the people who made life difficult

2 years, 1 month ago

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Anonymous

Hi pretzel.couch Thank you for sharing this with us. Puberty is a stage whereby a lot of people will notice the changes you are going through. You will get attention from boys. Surrounding yourself with people who respect you is important. We are glad that you were able to go through this well.

2 years ago
Luthando

I once dated a guy called sim0hiwe simphiwe loved me I also loved him💖. Simphiwe used to pay me lots of attention he would not go out with his friend just to stay with me.One day I noticed something strange in the morning he didn't walk with me and in the afternoon I asked his friends if they saw him they told me that he already went home😭💔.when I got home i just went to my room and cried. 2 days ended he was not talking to me💔.he one day called me and said sorry he was acting strange it was because his father was in hospital but he was lieing he asked if I could go to his house and I did we started kissing and he asked for sex i told him I was not ready he got angry and said that I did not love him and he also didn't love me but wanted s*x from me I kept quit and went out of his house.itold my friends but my frienfriends judged me and said I was still a baby I loved suppose that I always thought of him in class I paid no attention my marks dropped my teacher asked me what's wrong itoldI told her the story and she told me to stop stressing I'm still young I can find the right person for me💖💍.

2 years, 2 months ago

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Anonymous

Hi Dinokuhle, we're really glad you spoke to your teacher about what's going on. It would be a good idea to keep that relationship with your teacher so that you can go to her whenever you need support. We think you handled the situation really well with Simphiwe when you were at his house. Sex should not have to be forced and no one is allowed to pressure you into doing anything you do not want to do. He was wrong to do what he did and we think you are better off without him. Your teacher is right. You have all the time in the world to meet someone who is going to love you and treat you with respect. Don't rush it and try not to stress about it too much. You will be alright. If you ever find that you are unable to speak with your teacher, see if you can try and talk to any other trusted adult. This could be anyone from a parent/guardian, a relative or a neighbour. Otherwise, you can also call Childline SA. They can offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

2 years, 2 months ago
Thorbekarh

I dated a guy called Simphiwe Dlamin from Richmond..I loved that guy he was so cool n loveable n when he loves you,you saw it urself that he really mean it..We dated for few months myb 5/6 months.So they was this another girl he was inlove wit..meaning i was a side chiq but he didnt tell me that im his side dish..aftr that he dumped me for that girl ..Bcz i loved him i dont wanna lie i cried alot bcz i thought we going to last together..aftr he dumped me i did a stupid thing i found another guy who is a friend wit him n we slept...Well i regret it now bcz i didnt gain anything...The person i was tryin to pay revenge to didnt care when they told him...😢😢😢😢

2 years, 2 months ago

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Anonymous

Hi Thorbekarh We are sorry you went through that. You should not feel bad and always remember that you are beautiful no matter what people say. Sometimes in order to heal you need to talk to someone you trust.It can be a teacher,aunt or anyone close to you. Whenever you have a problem go and speak to someone you trust.

1 year, 12 months ago
SWITLIPZzz

Puberty is a stage I used to hate because I didn't know what was happening to me.I would lock myself in my room as my mom would yell at me like I was doing something wrong.😠😠.I would go to school come home to sleep.I started enjoy it when my sisters talked to me bout it.Being the baby of the family and growing up as quickly as I was made my mom mad😵😵. But thanks to my sisters who helped me understand my mom's crazyness.As for boys thank God I was never interested in them I would rather watch cartoons on TV than to worry about them and what they thought of my body changes.😄😄

2 years, 2 months ago
Anonymous

That is what is happening 2 me now...even elders cant see that am still young...am only 15 but people who are between the ages of 20 nd above think am their type....your story helped me a lot thank u 4 sharing😍😘

2 years, 2 months ago
Emzeeh

That is what is happening 2 me now...even elders cant see that am still young...am only 15 but people who are between the ages of 20 nd above think am their type....your story helped me a lot thank u 4 sharing😍😘

2 years, 2 months ago
Anonymous

Hi guys all I can say is "play the game to score not to be scored 😊😉...

2 years, 2 months ago
Anonymous

Good choice hun 😊...never ever chase him he doesn't deserve you 💙

2 years, 2 months ago
Anonymous

The same thing happened 2 me when I was 13 years old I had a crush on guy then I told my friend to tell him he ignored then when I was 16 my body was extremely hot and every 1 told me so and I even sow that even him then I was like "u remember that u ignored me " so am ignoring u olso and then he was going tell every that am rood ,heartless,

2 years, 3 months ago

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Anonymous

Hey Eez, he clearly does not deserve your time or attention. We're glad you told him exactly how you feel.

2 years, 3 months ago
Marchmello_02

Good choice bunny ♡

2 years, 3 months ago

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Anonymous

We agree Springster.

1 year, 11 months ago
Bianca

After my boyfriend broke up with me I was depressed I even thought about killing myself but someone helped me

2 years, 3 months ago

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SwizZ

Never think of killing yourself because of a boyfriend. Boys are just are just saying they love us because they want to fuck us. Be careful girl.

2 years, 3 months ago
Anonymous

Hey peeps so here this boy that I use to crush on, I liked him alot so I decided to tell him, the thing is that he wasn't into relationships but he wanted a friends with benefits thingy, I agreed so after a while I left bc I couldn't do it anymore.. Up untill today I still have feelings for him, I've tried so many ways to get rid of it but I can't, I told him but he likes someone else.... Someone pls tell me why I can't let go?

2 years, 3 months ago

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Anonymous

Hey Springster, these situations always suck because letting go is never easy. It's common for potential relationships to not work because of people who have different needs and wants. Have you ever thought that perhaps it might not have been the best relationship since both of you would've wanted different things? We're glad you figured out that you it wasn't for you. Be patient with yourself because moving on can take some time. Eventually, when you are ready, you'll meet other people who interest you just as much.

2 years, 3 months ago
Anonymous

Letting go is not that easy because you where trapped in a false relationship/love but you better think straight and tell yourself that he ain't the one....Let go of what was and concentrate more in what is,sometimes you need to tell yourself that some people aren't meant to be so let them go and wear that crown girl....Perfect life is waiting for yew😊

2 years, 3 months ago
Nala

I'm facing a huge issue , well a break up . We have been together for 4 months and he became my world , we broke up 2 days ago because he wasn't ready for a serious relationship , you know commitment and stuff . I was shattered but not so badly . I have hope that one day he'll come back but I feel like I will never move on . I have not mourned the relationship as I can't even cry about it , it's so amazing considering that I'm a cry baby . How can I best deal with this ?

2 years, 3 months ago

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Anonymous

Hello NalaBex Breakups are painful but you can always move on. It is better to be with someone who wants to be with you as well. Talking to someone you trust can help. It can be a parent, sister or a teacher. We hope this helps.

2 years, 3 months ago