“My parents won’t understand”.
We’ve all said these words before. The truth is we need to learn how to talk to our parents and older relatives so they can understand us better. We know talking to our parents can seem scary, but they really are there to help and support us whenever we need help. So it is really important to not keep important issues from the people who love us the most.
If you don’t really talk to your parents every day, it might be hard to have a proper conversation with them. So start by talking to them about little things. You can ask them about how their day went or talk to them about your own day.
Here are some tips to help make it easier.
Have a Plan
Before you talk to your parents you need to do the following:
Think about what you want to say.
Write it down. For example, if you want to ask permission to go somewhere, you can note down where the place is, when you will be back and who will be in charge, such as a friend’s parent or older sibling, so your parent can feel more comfortable about letting you go.
Choose who you want to talk to. Do you want to talk to one of your parents or both of them? Or do you want one of your parents to help you talk to your other parent?
You also need to set a time. Plan your conversations when your parents are less busy so they can focus on you.
Don’t let the worry about what your parents may say stop you from talking to them. No matter the subject, talking about it is always a good idea.
Be Clear and Direct
When you speak to your parents you need to be calm so they can understand you easily. Don’t exaggerate. Be honest. Be simple and clear. Let them know what you think, feel and want. It is important that your parents understand everything you say.
The most important part of communication is the ability to keep quiet and listen. Make sure you understand what your parents say to you so you can respond well. If you do not agree with what they say, be mature and speak to them with a positive and respectful tone. This way they will take what you have to say seriously. Share some of your stories on how you spoke to your parents/adults about your problems.