Whether it is failing a grade, falling pregnant or just feeling low, growing up and finding your way as a teenager can be very hard. Luckily, with great friends, everything is a little bit easier. That is why you should always try to be there for your squad. Supporting a troubled friend isn’t easy, and there’s no perfect way to do it. Here are a few ways to be there for your friend when they need you.
You’ve probably noticed that your friend isn’t herself lately, but you don’t know why. When you ask her what’s wrong, she tells you she’s fine. She may not be ready to talk to you about what she’s going through or ask for your help. Wait for her to come to you, because when she’s ready, she will. Sometimes supporting your friend does not always mean talking about what she’s going through. Sometimes, it is taking her for ice-cream,watching a movie or telling her what’s new with you.
I am here for you
When she does come to you, you may not be able to fix the problem for her. She may not even want or expect you to. So what can you do? Remind her that she is loved and that you are there for her. “You don’t have to respond, I just want you to know that I’m here for you when you need me” is a good message of support.
Having a difficult conversation
Friendship is all about being open and honest. Your friend might tell you things that are beyond what you can deal with. If she tells you she has been abused or in danger, what do you say and do? Be there for her and suggest that she talk to a trusted adult, like a teacher or aunt or contact Childline online here or by calling 08 000 55 555. If she speaks to a trusted adult or to childline, they will be able to offer her additional help.
That being said don’t get lost in your friends problems because it may have a negative effect on you. Take care of yourself and you’ll be in the best shape to support your friend.
Tell us about how you cheer up your friends when they are down.