Let's talk about sex, babe!

You and bae are so into each other, you want to start having sex. It’s your body, it’s your choice, but there are a few things to consider first. There’s pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs), including HIV. Sex also comes with a lot of intense feelings.

The first time
A lot changes happen to your body when you reach puberty, including getting your period. It’s your body’s way of letting you know that it can make babies — although this does not mean your body or mind are actually ready to be a mom. As long as you’re a girl having sex, you can fall pregnant. It can happen the first time you have sex, if you do it on your period, while standing or taking a bath. The only way to avoid pregnancy is by using birth control. Condoms are the only type of protection that can prevent pregnancy and STIs.

Using condoms properly
Store in cool dry places, like your drawer.
Check the expiry date.
Check the package for damage.
Open gently.
Never use the same condom twice

Be careful
Contraceptives are not 100 % effective and don’t always work. For the different type of contraceptives to be most effective, you need to follow the instructions given to you by a doctor or nurse.

Heart and Mind
Sex can be a lot of drama if you do it for the wrong reasons. Like doing it for bae, because you’re afraid he’ll dump you or because your friends are doing it and you feel left out.
Doing stuff you don’t want to hurts your feelings. You feel guilty and bad about yourself.

This is why your body and mind must be ready for sex before you start doing it.

This is how you can tell bae that you’re not ready.

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