My name is Pride, I’m 23 years old and I’m a virgin. For a lot of people the idea of being a virgin at 23 is strange. People usually say things like, “Just get it over with?” or “Who wants to date a virgin?” But I never take people's’ comments to heart because it’s not about them, it’s about me and the vow that I made to myself.
I was raised in a very strict household, with a very strict mom. My mom didn’t even want me breathing in the direction of boys - I swear she would get angry anytime a boy smiled at me.
When I really thought about it I wasn’t sure why I was still a virgin. So that night for the first time in my life I decided to ask myself if I was ready for sex - the answer was no. I asked myself what it would take for me to have sex and the answer was a simple one. I would save myself for marriage - I just wanted the first person I had sex with to be the last person I had sex with.
I also didn’t feel like I was ready for the emotional or physical responsibility that came with having sex like falling pregnant or getting an STI. I didn’t want to do something that I would end up regretting. I wasn’t ready to think about someone else’s sexual history or to deal with getting tested regularly. I just didn’t feel ready.
And having sex just because it felt like everyone around me was having sex was not a good reason for me to be sexually active.
That being said - it will happen in time but I won’t rush it because when I do have sex for the first time - it will happen because I decided for myself.