Hello Springsters , to me making friends is really hard . I'm an Introvert and tend to be insecure sometimes . Yes I had friends at high school and in my community . My other friend died and others left to live somewhere for better opportunities . I know I should just approach someone whom I see fit and be friends but to me it seems more nerve wrecking .
I'm all alone and don't have anyone to talk to , I just write my emotions on my diary as it calms me down sometimes . A Reverent at church once told me that I should change my behavior and associates more with people and not be a loner . He said that will my advantage at getting a job or getting a good husband one day , I was so hurt . I told my Pastor as he saw it posted on my WhatsApp Status Massage . He said he meant well , then I'm requesting or asking if is it me and my behavior or may be I'm not meant to have friends ?
hy Sammy I can relate I'm also an introvert person and it's really hard for me to make friends
Hey Shantal, there are plenty of people who prefer to spend time more with themselves and this is totally okay. Insecurity is also something that many deal with although because our personalities are all different, feelings of insecurity affect us differently. if you feel like your insecurities are affecting your life in a way that you don't like right now it's totally normal and okay to speak to someone like a counselor. It's not okay for anyone to tell you to change who you are. There is nothing shameful about enjoying spending most of your time by yourself. However it is really important to have one person or a group of people who can support you when you need support in different parts of your life. Whether it's school, home, or your social life having someone to depend on about stuff is necessary. If you don't have one already we suggest you approach a trusted adult like a teacher, neighbour, relative, parent or guardian who can assist you in times of need or just in general. You can also contact Childline SA. they offer counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information. If possible, do let us know how things work out for you Lesego
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