If you don't speak out they'll think you are okey with how things are going.Silence is actually seen as agreeing..
Hello everyone lm looking for your advise gals what's happening is that l met my boyfriend last year early we dated and he told me that he was married and separated with his partner so everything went well and this January this partner of him sent app message saying she is pregnant of my man but according to my bf he said since ever he met me he never slept nor see that women but bcz sometimes l trust something that comes from women's mouth l asked my bf to tell me the truth he became so defensive in a way that showed me that he was trying to defend himself l pushed harder and he end up saying he is sorry bcz what happened is that December he went to that lady to collect some of his things and he ended up in his bed and he said he is sorry but the pregnant thing is a lie but now he is always angry sometimes he calls me with the name of that lady and when l ask him why he said he is just joking so now l don't know what to do bcz l love him pliz help which to believe and not to
Hi Springster, thank you for reaching out to us. You can definitely take advice from others, but ultimately the decision lies with you. To help you think about whether or not you want to stay with him. You can make a list of the good things about your relationship and another list of the bad things. If one list outweighs the other, this is often a good starting point to try and figure out what the best decision will be for yourself. You can also ask yourself questions about whether or not you are really happy with this relationship, such as if you find yourself feeling insecure and mistreated. Although it is your decision it can often really help to speak to someone you trust about decisions like these, have you thought about a parent, older sibling, aunty, or a teacher that you could also get advice from? We hope that this helps.
I have this girl who I misses with all my heart n I love her(Kgomotso)... She was my friend but we ended up dating n I hurt her feelings, now we are no longer chatting n she blocked me on social media every time I see her my heart beats faster n I love her but am afraid that I'll hurt Lindi's feelings coz
She's my Gf but now I can't control my feelings over that girl... Kgomotso
My bro don't let ur feelings control u !! If u can write this I bet n hope u can speak it so speak up and reach out to her!! And tell Lindi how much u love her and don't hurt her !! Try to be a guy and reach out to the both of them!make them understand
My boyfriend takes me like am nothing,to saying am wrong al the time,so i fill like am not a girl i think i am,my friends lie to me and jealousy for me
Hi Springster, we are so sorry that you feel that way. No one should make you feel as if you are not enough. The people we keep near us can have a positive or negative effect on us. It is important to have friends and partners who support you and make you feel good. Talking to someone you else trust about how you feel right will likely help, this could be a parent, teacher, neighbour or relative. We hope this helps!
Wow wise words
Don't let negative people affect you with their words
Thank you very much for reaching out. Yes, it is true that we should all strive to not let negative people affect us with their words but sometimes that is not easy for some. Remember that words cut like a knife but they also have the strong power to heal the wounds they cause. By surrounding ourselves with a positive sisterhood of girls then this can change. We can all protect each other from negativity.
Thank you very much because I also am one of those silent girls but after these quotes I'm definitely gonna start talking . Thank you very much again .
Thank you for reaching out. Yes, the hope is that these quotes will inspire you to use your voice because it is powerful and it matters.
I waz scared to say an answer in class even if I know it 1dae my friend said to me"gal u should answer when the teacher asks the gwestion because we as class we thing u don't know anything " then I was motivated now am stress less
Thank you for reaching out. Girls should always be motivated to speak up and show how smart they are. However, it is understandable why girls do not do that. We are often discouraged from answering questions in class because we are often taught that we need to hide the fact that we are smart. This is however changing. Your friend was right to motivate you to start answering questions in class. If you know the answer you should speak up so that it can encourage other girls in your class or grade to do the same.
Failing matric can lead you into a doomed life.?
No ...I also failed my matric ...BT I wrote my sub's da following year and walala I have my grades now nd I can go to tertiary or get a job even...da trick is to never give up
Thank you for reaching out. To answer your question, no. Failing matric will not lead you to live a doomed life. There are different options when it comes to re-doing your matric year. You can apply and re-write your matric examinations the following year at the department of education as well as on the website. The other option is to re-do your matric year as a whole. There are colleges that offer that option should you not want to return to your old school. There are different options that are available in order for you to get your matric again. Just because you failed it doesn't mean that you can't try again.
hey springster I have a lot in my chest and I don't have anyone to talk to its really hard for me to open up
Hi Springster, what seems to be the problem? You can always ask any questions here.
We are here u can speak to us maybe we might help
Hi springster please help me
I was raped at the age of 11 and I didn't talk to anyone abt it at the age of 13 the rapist passed on and now this is haunting me
The rapist left me with HIV and I now HV bf we HV 3 years dating and now he want to HV sex with me but I always refuse and he gets angry and always ask me why but I don't know what to say to him I also get angry when start touching me I feel like beating him then I decide to leave
So I don't know whether to tell him or what
Please help I'm 19 this year
Hi Springster, we really appreciate you reaching out to us. We understand that you are most likely going through a lot right now. Being honest with our partners can help them know what we are going through but that is a decision only you can make when you feel ready. Though you might be experiencing a lot of emotions that are difficult to process and talk about, we would encourage you to approach a trusted adult like a parent/guardian, relative, neighbour or teacher. Talking to someone can often make you feel a bit better and not keep things to yourself while hurting. Fear and shame often prevent us from speaking out but in order to get help it is important to speak to an adult who can get you the support you deserve. Sadly, we cannot talk to you face to face, but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.
Sometimes you have to be who u are dont be just silent its another emotional word that kills our youth SPEAK💧💘UP **stand for wats yours 🌹🌸
Talking to someone helps as you will get help. Having people you can trust and talk to whenever you want to.
The more u speak up the more people know you
U don't just speak for your self you speak for every one around you YOU'VE GOT THE POWER✊
Thank you for reaching out. Yes indeed, when a girl speaks up, she speaks up for every girl around her.
hei guys am new here please i need some advice to you all! okay me and my boyfreind we've been dating more than a year now but and he never told me that he has been impregnented this other woman and now all over the sadden this woman came into our house and told me that they had a child together and he is two years old now and whenever i ask my boyfriend he says it true but he didnt tell me before now am scared cause this girl was arrested and now shes out.now everything has change between my boyfriend and i,we're not the lovers that we were before this girl came out of prison,am scared that i might lose him througth this girl but he always tell me that he broke up with her before she got arrested so guys please help me
It's trickily, strange and hurting also but the best advance is to sit down with your boyfriend and talk to him about every thing that worries you, tell him you love him and you're also worried about your relationship .Ask him about the baby and the mother then fix things of your relationship and don't be afraid of the mother of the baby although she's coming from prison so just have confidence and BE STRONG
Hi NonkululekoP25, the most important thing to remember is that no one can tell you what decision to make about leaving your boyfriend. You can take advice from others, but ultimately the decision lies with you. To help you think about whether or not you want to stay with him. Make a list of the good things about your relationship and another list of the bad things. If one list outweighs the other, this is often a good starting point to try and figure out what the best decision will be for yourself. You can also ask yourself questions about whether or not you are happy in this relationship, such as if you find yourself feeling insecure and mistreated. Although it is your decision it can often really help to speak to someone you trust about decisions like these, have you thought about a parent, older sibling, aunty, or a teacher that you can get advice from? Feel free to get back to us to let us know how things work out.You can also check out this article about a Springster who asked a similar question.
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Some times when a women is being assertive in this society we live in shes seen as trashy but when a man is being assertive he is seen as a boss
Speak your mind ladies regardlessly
Thank you very much for reaching out. Yes, you are absolutely correct. Women and girls should speak up, even though it is sometimes difficult to do that is the society we live in. We should all strive to use our voices to empower each other as women.
what happen when you get a STI within your relationship what are the red ligths about
Hey Springster, we're not sure we fully understand your question, but we'll try to respond to you the best way we can. The sure way of finding out you contracted an STI from your partner is to go to a doctor or clinic for testing. There are many different types of STI's with different symptoms and some people can experience little to no symptoms when it comes to STI's. So going to the doctor or clinic, with or without your partner, is the best way to go. If you find that you are both diagnosed with an STI and you still want to carry on being with each other, make sure to carry on using protection because if you don't you can reinfect each other. We hope we were able to answer your question to your satisfaction.
Sometimes I feel shy when I really have to speak about something....for example when we public speech in school...but I realise it's something I have to do ...so I have to open my mouth for some Time
Thank you for reaching out. Public speaking is one of the most common fears that people have so you're not alone in this regard. Some of the most powerful leaders in history were shy public speakers. The famous United States president Abraham Lincoln and leader of the independence movement in India, Mahatma Gandhi had public speaking problems but they overcame them to become the first citizens of their respective nations. Practice always makes perfect so a good idea would be to practice your speech in front of people who you are not all that familiar with so that you can practice speaking in front of a crowd. Hope this helps.
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