Thando

I'm motivated by what others think about. This is a quote I live with and I would like to share it with you guys People may say bad things about you in your back instead of feeling unwanted and low use that as a motivation and prove them wrong that you're not what they say you are. @than.do_lorraine

3 weeks, 6 days ago
Poetess

In life, you meet a lot of different people, from different backgrounds with different problems... It is very important to never judge the other person who tries to speak to you some don't even get the chance to do that at their homes, you know to speak about the way they feel... Next time someone opens up to you please listen and try not to make them feel small....

1 month, 3 weeks ago
Leethando

I grew up without my father but that doesn't make me feel weak because I was told that everything happens for a reason then I started to write poems about my life and my feelings for my father. This is the poem I wrote for my self for my father's absence in my life.💔💔💔 Everything happens for a reason 💔 The thought of not knowing you It usually kills me deep inside 💔 There's a side to me that always looking, searching for your presence 👁️👁️ But by the end of the day it gets tired 😪😪😴 Course It figured out that everything happens for a reason 💔💔💔😪😪😴 This poem is telling me that go on with your life 😀😀😀

2 months, 1 week ago

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Gabi - Moderator

Hi LFN, we think you're right about everything happening for a reason. It's simply up to us to figure out what that reason is. We're so glad that you're finding ways to deal with your emotions and your feelings as this is super important. Using poetry and words to deal with pain can be really helpful for you mentally. It helps you process your emotions better. P.S. We love your poem and we think it's really beautiful! Remember that it can also be helpful to speak to a trusted adult like a parent/guardian, relative, neighbour or teacher about what you are going through too. If you need to speak to a counselor about yourself or your father, it would also be a good idea to speak to the counselors at Childline SA.You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

2 months ago
Gabi - Moderator

Hi LFN We are so sorry to hear that. Sometimes having someone to talk to helps especially about this. If you have someone close you can talk to please do. It can be a relative, teacher or anyone. Let them know how you feel. Always know that your father's absence is not your fault. Continue to write poems Springster.

2 months ago
Anonymous

I'm 17 and I've been dating this boy for 9 months now.BT my mother doesn't like him she always says bad things about him,she says if I don't break up with him i must live the house. One day I had sex with him ,I saw a condom even when he opened it BT I think the minute he did it he pulled the condom off BT when I confront him he says he didn't BT I know he's lying. Now I think I'm pregnant BT I have no potential of raising a child and I don't want my mother to find out so I was thinking of arboting the baby b4 is it a right thing to do??

3 months, 1 week ago
RM3

Hey guys, so I've been dating this guy for 2 years , I'm 15 and hid 18 and we've been through alot, we both cheated on each other but we sorted it out My family members hate him,and also beat him uo when they found out about us, recently one of my exes started spreading rumours and my bf fought with him telling him he has no repect... Then the next day i found out that he told people we had sex, it was a video, but i watched the video and he didn't say anything like that... My parents and brothers hate him and the fight is currently going on, we're secretly still chatting... My brothers will kill him if they have to i am so scared, him and I want to get married but my parents will never agree as he has a 'reputation' We plan on saving money and eloping becuz of this... Don't i have the right to choose who i want to be with? Please advise me❤😢

3 months, 1 week ago
Matshidiso

Kumele uwazi ufunani empilwen Nje that all

3 months, 1 week ago

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Gabi - Moderator

Hey Springster, you're so right. It's about knowing what you want and finding ways to achieve it. Thanks for this!

3 months, 1 week ago
BotsheloVanen

Am 17 year old teen and well am feeling tired of the lifestyle my parents want me to live ,I just wish one day I'd be able to stand up for who I am fearlessly but for now I can't do anything as I fell trapped ,am living a lifestyle which is a choice of my own parents

3 months, 1 week ago
Nokubonga43

I just don't wanna end my school leadership and my career I've worked so hard I can't trust the teachers at all if I spit out that we'll be the end of me and my school 😪😪😟😭😭

3 months, 2 weeks ago

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Gabi - Moderator

Hi Hustlesoul3, we wish we could know more about your situation so we could advise you better but we are sure there is a good reason why you didn't. We do know that whatever it is you're keeping to yourself, there are people in your community that you can talk to. This could be anyone from your parents/guardians, relatives, an older sibling, a neighbor or someone from your school. Perhaps any one of these people ca make sure that your school career doesn't have to end regardless of what you have to speak out about. You can also speak to the counselors at Childline SA if you like. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

3 months, 1 week ago
Anonymous

Im 14 years old and have a friend who almost had lost her virginity to someone who is in a long term relationship ...as the first person she told i informed the others seeing i did not know what to to..we discussed it as a group with out her and agreed that the less we know the better...but everytime i see her she has a new story...i want to tell her that what she is doing is wrong but i cant...recently i have been acting cold towards her and things have been a little awkward im...im stuck between losing a friend and putting her in the right path...PLEASE HELP!!!

3 months, 2 weeks ago

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Gabi - Moderator

Hi Anonymous, you're a really good friend for being concerned about your friend's actions, but try to remember that you can never push someone to go into a certain direction if it's not part of their plan. Everyone makes their own life decisions and as friends, all we can do is remind them of the consequences of some of the actions they take and let them choose what they want to do. Also, try to remember that our friends come to us so they have someone to talk to about what they're going through. You don't have to support their actions. You can simply take some time to listen and remind them of the possible outcomes of their actions. If listening makes you uncomfortable, you have every right to let your friend know about your values and how you feel. We hope things work out between the two of you.

1 month ago
Anonymous

So guys as it's 2019 and am 5 months pregnant I don't know whether to go to school or what please advice and I had a ubnincal cord its very painful and it's pulling inside what does that mean?

3 months, 2 weeks ago

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Gabi - Moderator

Hey Springster thanks for sharing. Firstly it is advisable that you go to the clinic as soon as you feel something out of the ordinary with your baby. As soon as school opens you can go and speak to a trusted teacher to work out your school schedule once you give birth. good luck!

3 months, 2 weeks ago
Mohlala

Can I find something who will love me forever??😎😎😎😍😍# I'm single

3 months, 3 weeks ago
Angel

Hy.He is 20 years old n I'm 15 I love him but he cheats all the time n everytime I ask about it he gets angry n emotional. When I was going up I always knew that the was something wrong with me n now I know that I have bilopar n went to a doctor to confirm it but I didn't tell my parents. This thing is the really bad coz I once tried to kill my boyfriend because of his cheating. It didn't stop from there one day I had a fight with my little sister n got really angry I even tried to stab her .I don't know how to deal with this thing now all my friends think that I'm weird or crazy I need to know to control it before it gets out of control please help me

4 months ago
Tsaki

All my friends are dating and I'm the only one single. And I enjoy to be single❤.The other day I found my friend crying😭 when i ask her she says to me his boyfriend dumped her 💔and I told her that no man don't cry just stop crying😭 over a boy.👨 What u need to do is to move on with ur life.And she did the same thing and after she was happy😺 single and enjoying her life👌💯😃 without thinking about a boy .

4 months, 1 week ago
Simphiwe

He is 13 years old, I'm 14 years old, He is in grade 7 and I'm In grade 10 My sister don't like him and I love him People say how could I date a BB gra

4 months, 2 weeks ago

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Gabi - Moderator

Hey Simphiwe, no one has the right to tell you who or who not to like. People often say that dating a younger guy isn't wise because girls mature much faster than boys, but everyone is different and as long as you feel a connection with that person we don't see what the issue could be. You can hear other people's opinions and take advice from others, but the decision to be with that person is ultimately up to you.

4 months ago
Simphiwe

I've been dating him but from 25th January but I cheated on him, we were forever arguing, sometimes not talking to each and then I realized that he loves so I decided to stay loyal and he decided to cheat I dumped him he asked for lovebacks I gave him after few days I heard that her side chick is looking for me and then she came to my house with her friends saying that I took his boyfriend and then her friends asked him to choose be

4 months, 2 weeks ago

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Gabi - Moderator

"Hey Simphiwe, it's really important for you to discuss what type of relationship you want to have when you start dating your partner from the beginning. The both of you need to establish rules for what is and isn't cool so that you have a good foundation for your relationship. At this point, you need to decide if you are able to forgive each other or whether or not you want to carry on with the relationship at this point. he most important thing to remember is that no one can tell you what decision to make about leaving your boyfriend. You can take advice from others, but ultimately the decision lies with you. To help you think about whether or not you want to stay with him. Make a list of the good things about your relationship and another list of the bad things. If one list outweighs the other, this is often a good starting point to try and figure out what the best decision will be for yourself. You can also ask yourself questions about whether or not you are happy in this relationship, such as if you find yourself feeling insecure and mistreated. Although it is your decision it can often really help to speak to someone you trust about decisions like these, have you thought about a parent, older sibling, aunty, or a teacher that you can get advice from? Feel free to get back to us to let us know how things work out. You can also check out this article about a Springster who asked a similar question. http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-body/askspringster-my-ex-wants-me-back-now-what/ "

4 months ago
Sinonoza

Hai I'm new here I have a problem the this guy we grow up together as friends best friend I know him well and he knows me well we live at the same area I know all of his ex girlfriend and he knows all main as time goes on we develop feelings for each other but not showing any signs the this time we discussed to spend time together without any friends around us we talked one thing led to another we go together anywhere we were always on the same side as things went well everyone knows that we were dating bt things changed when he got arrested de I told myself to wait for him until he is back as time goes on I found out that I was pregnant with his child we were talking to each other at the phone almost every day I phoned him and told him that I was pregnant he said I'm joking I said no he admitted that OK so as time goes on he got out he didn't even come to see the child we did have any conversation to each other so one day I told myself I'm going tolk to him I stoled his number from my brother phone called him we talked he came to my house he sow the child bt didn't make any move taking to his parents all I want is my child to know where she from yes I do love him and he also says that he loved me so I gave him a chance to show that ya he showed me bt as time goes by her ex girlfriend came she stayed at his house he told me that bt he said he doesn't love her anymore by tomorrow she will be gone it's Hi mother that loves this gal , as he told me that she will be gone by tomorrow ya that helped we were together again,bt as time goes on the gal came back I didn't take he told me again bt this time she stayed more than mounts as the gal stayed the he would come and see me every day but that didn't work for me I told me I still love this men he haven't even spotted the child or bort her a thing I don't want anything from him I love him I only want see to be really parents and be faithfully honest with me as what mast I do because he says that he loves me sow much bt the things that he is doing fine don't make me happy

5 months ago

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Gabi - Moderator

Hi Sininoza, thank you for sharing your story with us. Relationships can be really tough when we feel like we're not being treated fairly in them. Whether we're in romantic relationship, a friendship, or a familial relationship, both parties should try and make sure that their actions match with their words. The most important thing to remember is that no one can tell you what decision to make about leaving or staying with your baby daddy. You can take advice from others, but ultimately the decision lies with you. To help you think about whether or not you want to stay with him. Make a list of the good things about your relationship and another list of the bad things. If one list outweighs the other, this is often a good starting point to try and figure out what the best decision will be for yourself. You can also ask yourself questions about whether or not you would be happy with him. Think about if things like if he does or would make you feel insecure or mistreated. On the other hand, we understand that even if you are not in a relationship, it's important that he plays a financially supportive role in the life of his child. Since we know that traditional rules play a big role here, we would suggest that you approach an adult member in your family about what to do. We think a older relative would know better about what to do in the traditional sense and perhaps they can also advise you about what to do from a legal standpoint.

3 months ago
DA

Move on girl dnt worste ur tym thinking abt him

2 months, 2 weeks ago
Sihle

Gail you dont have to die there is more into life

5 months ago
gail

I hate my life i wana die

5 months ago

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Gabi - Moderator

Hey Springster, we really care about your well-being and your mental health. Please speak to someone about the way that you are feeling right now. You can approach a trusted adult like a parent, relative, neighbour or teacher. We know that this might sound a bit scary, but you'll be surprised at how much the people in your community are willing to help you. You can also talk to Childline SA. They offer counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Visit their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

4 months, 4 weeks ago
Jacqualine

I just decided to be alone without having friends who will ininfluence me into bad things

5 months, 1 week ago

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Gabi - Moderator

Hey Springster, we're really glad that you've chosen not to have bad influence in your life. We hope that you still make sure that you have someone to talk to when you need to. We here at Springster will also always have your back whenever you need us!

5 months ago
Neyo2

I think as women we need to stand together in unity. We shouldn't let our situation or emotions to suppress us; or pull us back, from what we want to obtain at the end of the day. We need to be there for each other,never judge but instead love ,care and support. We need to encourage one another and build a strong relationship. ×Dating shouldn't be a reason to be happy.. even when you are single..you can still enjoy life with family and friends. #You are as happy as you decide to be.

5 months, 1 week ago