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Sammy

Hello Springsters , to me making friends is really hard . I'm an Introvert and tend to be insecure sometimes . Yes I had friends at high school and in my community . My other friend died and others left to live somewhere for better opportunities . I know I should just approach someone whom I see fit and be friends but to me it seems more nerve wrecking . I'm all alone and don't have anyone to talk to , I just write my emotions on my diary as it calms me down sometimes . A Reverent at church once told me that I should change my behavior and associates more with people and not be a loner . He said that will my advantage at getting a job or getting a good husband one day , I was so hurt . I told my Pastor as he saw it posted on my WhatsApp Status Massage . He said he meant well , then I'm requesting or asking if is it me and my behavior or may be I'm not meant to have friends ?

1 year, 10 months ago

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Anonymous

hy Sammy I can relate I'm also an introvert person and it's really hard for me to make friends

1 year, 10 months ago
Anonymous

Hey Shantal, there are plenty of people who prefer to spend time more with themselves and this is totally okay. Insecurity is also something that many deal with although because our personalities are all different, feelings of insecurity affect us differently. if you feel like your insecurities are affecting your life in a way that you don't like right now it's totally normal and okay to speak to someone like a counselor. It's not okay for anyone to tell you to change who you are. There is nothing shameful about enjoying spending most of your time by yourself. However it is really important to have one person or a group of people who can support you when you need support in different parts of your life. Whether it's school, home, or your social life having someone to depend on about stuff is necessary. If you don't have one already we suggest you approach a trusted adult like a teacher, neighbour, relative, parent or guardian who can assist you in times of need or just in general. You can also contact Childline SA. they offer counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information. If possible, do let us know how things work out for you Lesego

1 year, 9 months ago
Angelina

I also had Friends but all they do is gossip i left them they disappoint me every time should i move on or i should find better ones ?

1 year, 11 months ago
Linda@

Does anyone want to be my friend

2 years ago

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Gurl

I do!!!!:)

1 year, 12 months ago
Lindi

I'd love too☺☺☺😀

1 year, 11 months ago
Linda@

Hi,my friend that l am having now she is absolutely not my type but since l don't l have friends l have to play with her

2 years ago
Anonymous

Hi,my friend that l am having now she is absolutely not my type but since l don't l have friends l have to play with her

2 years ago
Nikhita

I had an Bestie her name was Athara we used to sing and do everything togheter but now a days all we do is wave at each other when we see each other I don't know what happend to our friendship and it hurts me deep inside even if I spoke Afrikaans and she spoke English we still understanded each other but now we're like stranger I just wish we can go back to the way things were

2 years, 2 months ago

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Ntu2ko

Hi love im also experiencing the same problem with my friend. Its feels like we dont know each other anymore. Im trying my best to work things out...but she's just not into this relationship anymore...she cant even hide it but pretwnd as if she still cares 😢😢😢

1 year, 11 months ago
Bukiie

if you have a bestiie...you think u can trust them..tell them everything right?? i had a bestiie..i trusted her with my secrets...until she back stabbed me and told someone about them..she's now asking me to forgive her..i'm trying but i can't..what must i do??

2 years, 2 months ago
Neo

Hey everyone I'm Neo. I don't like the way my bestie talk. She swears and is very rude in a way. I know that she's joking but I don't like it. And she's sooo controlling.I don't know how to talk to her .

2 years, 3 months ago

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Anonymous

Hey Neo24, it's best to sit down and talk to your bestie and let her know how you feel. If you can't talk to her then maybe you can write her a letter expressing everything you feel. What's important is that you communicate how you feel in order for both of you to be comfortable in the friendship.

2 years, 3 months ago
Anonymous

There's this girl we were once friends but our friendship ended because she loved gossiping and I didn't like that. After we stopped talking I heared rumours that she's dating my current boyfriend I confronted her and she said to me "She's been flirting with my guy for ages even before I was in the picture and she won't stop" and I don't care because I trust my man or should I be worried??🎈

2 years, 3 months ago

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Anonymous

Hey Retabile, communication is key in any healthy relationship. If you are concerned about anything you should sit down with your boyfriend and discuss all the things you are worried about. Ultimately you are the only one who can decide whether or not you should stay in the relationship. All the best Springster!

2 years, 3 months ago
Azania_D

hi I'm Azania quite new here I have never fell in love with someone but as I met this boy at school things started off good and ended very badly knowing the boy only wanted to have sex with me taking the advantage of knowing I trust him and knowing nothing about relationships so we dated for about 2weeks and broke because of that so I really don't think I'll ever wanna trust or fall in love with any other boy but I really wanna feel how it is being in a relationship plz help what's do I do

2 years, 3 months ago

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Anonymous

Hey Azania_D, welcome Springster! We're so glad you joined us. Hope you'll have loads of fun reading all our stories and picking up tips on what to do with all the stuff you're unsure about. There's no set formula on how and where to find love but the important thing is to take your time and not rush into anything you are not sure about. Goodluck Springster.

2 years, 3 months ago
Loveth

My friend has a crush on my current bae and that has made her cold towards me and it has also put our friendship on rocks but I do not want to leave my bae or loose my friend ... Please advise me

2 years, 3 months ago

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Anonymous

Hello Gracia We advice you to sit down and talk to your friend about this.Let her know how you feel about the situation.We hope that you sort out your difference Springster.

2 years, 3 months ago
baby123

Hiii guys i dnt have any friends ...i think its because i like bad friends not boring ones....du i have a problem??

2 years, 3 months ago

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0132

Why don't u try finding friends that are at the same pace as u are

2 years, 3 months ago
Anonymous

Hiii guys i dnt have frien

2 years, 3 months ago
NkosazanaKatie

My best friend since from primary school recently got engaged. We're both 18 and I believe she's too young to get married. When she told me the news I did congratulate her, but I also told what I think about the engagement. She got angry and accused me of being jealous of her just bcz I had no bf. Was I so wrong to voice out my opinion? Now she's no longer talking to me. Should I apologize, or just let her be?

2 years, 4 months ago

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Anonymous

Hi Springster, we don't blame you for being honest and we don't think you are wrong. However, it's very important to try to be very sensitive when it comes to involving ourselves or giving our opinions when it comes to our friends lives. Next time, you might want to make sure that you don't come off as too judgemental. You can be honest by asking questions that show your concern or your interest and these questions might help her think for a bit. You can also maybe tell her that you don't agree with what she's about to do, but that you also trust her and her decision. Sometimes it's super important to make sure our friends know that we are not harshly judging them and that we're only trying to help. It's really awesome that you are so concerned for your friend Springster. We think that it wouldn't be such a bad idea to approach your friend and apologise to her, but at the end of the day it's always your choice.

2 years, 4 months ago
Loveth

No you are not rather you should just try and understand your friend and do not let this issue spoil your years of friendship

2 years, 3 months ago
CADA-BLOCKING

just apologise to avoid stories and fights.

2 years, 2 months ago
Anonymous

I think you should apologize and let him c what you talking about

2 years, 1 month ago
Andddy

Hi girls I'm 14 year old and I already have pimples on my face they started when I was in grade 5 I tried everything but it all fails what must I do

2 years, 4 months ago
makhumalo20

hi girls i have a boyfriend and we have been together for 3 years now and I really love him we have a 3 month year old baby boy together recently I found out that he is cheating with some one who is In his class I'm really confuses should i dump him? or not and it not the first time he is cheating I caught him several times and he would apologise now I don't know what cause I dont want to get infected with diseases please help

2 years, 5 months ago

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Shanaya

gurl just leave him do his things don't cry for a guy we all know how they are and I understand you love him so much but I think he got what he wanted now his fine ...you just focus on the baby

2 years, 4 months ago
Kwandoh

My friend name is gugu she is not the best friend that i was think she is

2 years, 5 months ago

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Zamarh

Ncoooow what a disappointement😑😑😑

2 years, 4 months ago
Candy_leigh2000

Don't waste any more of ur tym, Kwandoh. Send that Gugu gal packing!!

2 years, 4 months ago
Anonymous

:Heyyy here,I lost my best Friend on my birthday

2 years, 5 months ago

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Kwandoh

Yooh like crc 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

2 years, 5 months ago
Sennysah

Sorry desire😓I also lose mine 2015 and it's really hard for me to cope

2 years, 5 months ago
desire

hi I lost my bestie and i miss her so so soooo much .

2 years, 5 months ago

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Sane-boo

Sorry gal😔😘😍

2 years, 5 months ago
Miss_me14

Sorry Springster,I also lost mine she changed school last year

2 years, 5 months ago
Lindi

I lost my bestie when we did a collab with my class мαтєѕ,she changed after that collab. She is the top gossiper in class. What must I do ?

1 year, 11 months ago