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Gabi - Moderator

Hey Springster! Sorry for the delay, I had some technical issues. I have hidden your comment to protect your privacy. I am pleased you felt able to share your thoughts, it's a really brave first step. Have you thought about talking to an adult that you can trust about this? This could be anyone from your parents/grandparents, a relative like an aunt, a neighbour or teacher. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can get extra advice from CHILDLINE SA. They can offer you counselling over the phone. You do not need to give your name and can call them 24/7. Their toll free helpline is : 0800 055 555 or check out https://www.childlinesa.org.za/ you will receive the support you need, by a friendly person trained to help you in a confidential way. Take care.

7 months, 2 weeks ago
Anonymous

Wow u story encouraged me that there are good boys and there are those who are bad. Grl u did the right thing focusing on u child future and not nagging the child's father to support u and your child. but let me tell u something wherever he is his is not happy at all he miss u and he is regretting what he's done leaving while u need his support

1 year, 10 months ago
Onthatile

Hello dear I am onthatile.am sorry about your situation ,we all in the same situation.don't ever stress yourself out because in the min while your baby daddy will come back when he heard that your baby he has grown and he will play a part of daddy care I edvise you not to allow that he will take your child away from you

1 year, 11 months ago
Amandakhumalo168

My name is Amanda I'm writing a storey to find help Can you guys help me I HV a boyfriend and there are two girls who want him and he says he loves me not them can u tell me what should I do , should I let him go or continue dating him ??

1 year, 12 months ago

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Anonymous

Hey Amandakhumalo168, it sounds like you're in a bit of a complicated situation. The most important thing to remember is that no one can tell you what decision to make about leaving your boyfriend. You can take advice from others, but ultimately the decision lies with you. You can take advice from others, but ultimately the decision lies with you. We recommend you make a list of the good and the bad and see if it is it worth staying with him. You can also ask yourself questions about whether or not you are happy in this relationship or if you find yourself feeling insecure and mistreated. Trust yourself and the decision you make and most importantly, follow your heart!

1 year, 12 months ago
Queeny

i also had a same situation dear.i was dating a guy who was close to 26 while i was 17 years,i thought he was the one until i became pregnant so i told a guy about my pregnancy an he suggested that i must abort a child.i was very scared about that coz i didnt expect that from him but i was scared to say that to him coz i did not want to lose him,i was even scared of telling my parents about that so i decided not to tell anyone until they realise for themselves.so they realise and i confirmed everything they went straight to a guy 's parent whereby a guy promised us to marry me.i remmember very well that my child was 3 months was when i realise my father 's child on facebook with another girl who was by that time 3 months pregnant by my father 's child;("i was a dead walking girl with a young child"i was struggling financially,emotionally etc i was alway crying so i started looking like a crazy woman coz i did not want to bath,eat or even to go to the church.at that time i was a worshiper in the house of God...everything in my life turned black i even wanted to murder myself but as we all knw that only a times heals after a year and a 6 months i started picking myself into pieces an move on now i am strong enough for not letting a mistake to repeat itself in my life an all i can say to you girls is life is very unfair so we must take it one step at the time,STUDY,WORK,built your own future first and then you can give boys a try coz even if u will fail atleast u will be financially stable...GOODLUCKS LADIES AND REMMEMBER YOU CAN DO THIS

2 years, 3 months ago

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Anonymous

Hello Dally Thank you for taking the time to tell us your story. We are so sorry that you had to go through that at such a young age and we understand that must have been hard. We love the woman you have become, one who is strong and fearless. A lot of young girls will read your story and learn from it. They will look up to you and feel inspired. Whatever we come across we should always know that it will be over someday. Thank you again Dally

2 years, 3 months ago
Dynamite

U amazing #strongIndeed

2 years, 3 months ago

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Anonymous

We think you're amazing too Springster.

2 years, 3 months ago
Anonymous

great story indeed,mistakes are there for us to learn from them.

2 years, 4 months ago
Anonymous

Hi.thanks for sharing. I'm a mother to two children from two different guys and I know it's embarrassing and all that coz thinking about it I was fooled twice and I turned a blind eye coz of love.l was at fault too but life goes on. None of the fathers offer any support in any way possible. It was hard in the beginning but through prayer and belief they've grown now. My oldest being a girl I see myself in her.the young, passionate, smart girl. So life happens and all we need to do is just move on and make the best of each situation and stand together as ladies and support each other! Thanks again

2 years, 5 months ago

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Anonymous

Hello Nawty Thank you for sharing your story with us.You are such a brave person and we admire your strength and confidence.After everything you have been through,you are able to be positive and move on.We agree that as girls we must support each other.

2 years, 5 months ago
Candy_leigh2000

I've also made silly mistakes, some of them putting my life in danger. The pressure to "fit in" was the trigger to all of that. Being a teenager is very hard, and I'm thankful that I'm now 18 and I don't have a baby, nor any STI's and HIV.

2 years, 5 months ago

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Anonymous

Hello thandiDibah Thank you for sharing your story with us.We all make mistakes in life but we should not beat ourselves up for them.The good thing is that you realised that you have made mistakes and you are willing to change.Sometimes when you try to "fit" in you will get in trouble.Be your beautiful self.

2 years, 5 months ago
Bathabile

Avery one learn on his or her mistake and I are have made mistake a big time

2 years, 5 months ago

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Anonymous

Hey Sibandze, learning from our mistakes is a part of life. Thank you for your comment!

2 years, 5 months ago
Nuella

Cooo shame srry guys

2 years, 5 months ago
QueenJ

I am sorry for what you've went through, but at the end day... Happiness came your way. It takes a lot pf courage to share such history about yourself. But thank God that not all men are the same just like Us too. I am also pregnant and baby daddy is giving out jis full support and what makes it easy....we stay together and he wants to see me eating, exercising and stress-free everyday. So some of Us are lucky and not. Being strong is the trie Definition of a Mother

2 years, 7 months ago
Pelo

I am in the same situation right now. He was my high school sweet heart dated for 5 years, when I told him am pregnant he didn't want anything to do with me or the Baby. Oh my goodness thank you for sharing your story _stay strong for your baby and Slay baby Girl!

2 years, 7 months ago
Anonymous

That boy doesn't deserve a dad like that he only needs a strong mom like you

2 years, 7 months ago
Bee

Wow gal u made a great choice by deciding to be a real and strong mom to your child not all of them are like this for example myself i made a huge mistake i thought know cause am preg my boyfriend would be the most supporting father but guess what no he was selfish only thought only bout himself . So am very inspired alot by yr story thank you

2 years, 8 months ago

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Anonymous

Hi Springster, thank you for sharing. So glad you could be inspired by the triumphs of other girls. Remember, you are capable of so much more than you know.

2 years, 7 months ago
Anonymous

Girls am a boy l want to speak for myself thng z u thnk all boiz are heartless let m tell u not all boiz hurt girls as for m l use th heart wen l love not th mind

2 years, 9 months ago

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Anonymous

Thanks for sharing your comment with us 88835. And you're right, not all guys are the same.

2 years, 8 months ago
QueenJ

That is very true... my man already got a 4 year old, but his treating me like it's his first baby... And his a real true and loyal decent guy.

2 years, 7 months ago
Motlalepula

Be strong dear that's how boy normally do

2 years, 10 months ago
Shamaine

what an insipring story it actually teaches us that some boys are there to use you they don't care about ur feelings

2 years, 10 months ago

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Anonymous

Hi LadyShamza. Thanks for reading our story and letting it inspire you.

2 years, 10 months ago
Motlalepula

Yeah indeed

2 years, 10 months ago
Linki

Nice

2 years, 11 months ago
Mahlatse

What an inspiring story

2 years, 11 months ago

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Anonymous

Hi Springster. Thanks for reading!

2 years, 11 months ago
Angie

I WAS 13 WHEN I MET THE LOVE OF MY LIFE HE WAS 18 WE HAD OUR UPS ND DOWS BUT BE ALWAYS MADE UP MY MOTHER PAS WHEN I WAS 17 ND IN THAT SAME YEAR I FELL PREGNANT :) TODAY WE HAVE A BOY HE IS 2YEARS ND WE AR GETING MARRIED NEXT YEAR BUT GIRLS NEVA GIVE UP U WILL ALWAYS HVE THAT UPS ND DOWNS ND THAT IS WHT MAKES OWR LOVE STRONGER..

3 years ago

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Anonymous

Thanks for your inspiring comment Springster.

3 years ago
Mvelo

wow its really inspiring 👌

2 years, 6 months ago
Naty

Wow lucky for you and your story is inspiring💋💋💋

1 year, 8 months ago